I need you guy's to be honest...I have seen many married women who have children get out of shape, gain weight, never loose the weight, get stretch marks, have saggy boobs, and have a floppy loose stomach's from having children...Many of these women say to others that having stretch marks and other things I mentioned is a beatuiful thing it shows the mark of having a baby and that their husbands love it..Is this true guys???? Honestly, areb you still attracted to your wives afer they have had children?? would you change them if you could??? Do you wish that they would get back in shape after having children??? I have a 15 month old daughter and didnt get over weight , didnt get strectch marks, didnt get a flappy stomach,didnt get saggy boobs, and still are in great shape..My husband tells me that he is very thankful that I care enough to stay in shape and look great for him...would you guys want the same thing from your wives?
2007-07-24 12:01:10 · 10 answers · asked by Winter Blossom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-07-24 12:03:15 · update #1
Well my fiance and I do not have children. But I can honestly say that I would find it very attractive to see her trying to get back in shape after having a baby.
I'm not trying to sound shallow but physical attraction is very important to me and most other guys.
I don't see the stretch marks bothering me because of how they came to be there. I would want her to eventually work off the baby fat though and get back into a healthy looking, fit body though.
That's just my opinion.
2007-07-24 12:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've kept loving her even with the changes. If you stayed in shape, good for you - if you "sagged" then so be it. Most men will sag over time as well (even without having kids). Gravity and time is a b*tch - for both the genders.
I think the issue for most men has more to do with the wives....
Its the female who looks in the mirror and sees someone with deminished sexuality because of it. (I'm going through this w/ my wife right now).
If the woman can continue to view herself as sexy and sensual and will continue to be an active and willing partner in the couple's sex life, then the husband will find them sexy no matter what.
The sexiest woman alive is the one that is giving it up to you in a willing and energetic manner. That matters much more than looks in the long run to most men.
Women need to learn this and appreciate it.
2007-07-24 19:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not attracted to overweight, saggy boobed woman. I think, after a few months, the mother at least needs to try to look good. The woman who say that are either lazy, need help getting the weight off, or will always be heavy. I rally think its a pride thing to look good and feel good about yourself. Now, I feel bad and have to hit the gym!:)
2007-07-24 19:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man wants to see that same woman he married. Though her body image may change after pregnancy or just age, he still recalls her image on the wedding day.
But as time goes by things seldom are the the same. What we wish for can't always be achieved so we accept what is there.
2007-07-24 19:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My lady, I have seen many like this before. Sure he will assure you that weight gain has little effect but in truth this fact often is one of many in divorces. Sorry for the startling 411. Stay sexy & beautiful.
2007-07-24 19:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a lucky s.o.b. That's very rare for a woman to not have any signs of being pregnant afterwards. I don't know about EVEY man, but I sure wish I had that!
2007-07-24 19:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by hello reality 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of that depends on Genetics*, however YES I would prefer they stay in shape, and look great*...
2007-07-24 19:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a lifelong love affair with your wife, it has to be much deeper than "looks". Just the thought of my wife's personality, turns me on.
2007-07-24 19:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is you should love your wife for who she is not what she looks like, if she went back to the way she was , bonus if not, it should not matter.
2007-07-24 19:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by unpublished critic 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you sound like one hell of a shallow woman
2007-07-24 19:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by bishop 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋