Married women and their cheating husbands?

Question

I dont understand these women all they do it whine and complain about their husband constantly cheating on them for yrs but yet stay married to him and i know people say she stays for many reasons like kids and money but why let a man keep making a fool of you over and over and over..Im not coldhearted and if i sound that way im sorry but i dont feel sorry for a woman like this..If she doesnt intend on leaving then stop complaining cause nobody is gonna feel sorry for her if she wont do anything about it..Anybody agree with me?

No liza i have never been cheated on but if it did happen even just once i wouldnt stay cause im not a fool.

Reza get real if a man is constantly cheating on his wife he doesnt give a **** about her or their marriage thats my opinion..He doesnt really and truly love her cause if he did he wouldnt want to hurt her like that.

Answer 1

i agree with you...i was married for 17 years & i realized that why should i stay married with my husband just for our kids sake who cheated on me for almost 7 years (i learned about the affair on their 5th year...i'm a fool!!!) this is reality...everyone deserves to be happy. now, i'm divorced and happy with my life...life goes on.......... ;>

Answer 2

Well, I think we have a new reality show for publishing that we could produce and air,"Married women and their cheating husbands and Married men and their cheating wives". We will see which triumphs on our show and let the audience watch at home. I know it sound like exploitation and is in a way but when people get a real look at how ugly it really is and what it does we might get to take credit for reversing the divorce rate numbers. Whattya think? We could be legends and the last of a dying breed of non cheaters with a goal of changing decades of promoted promiscuity by letting the world see how detrimental it is and who is proffitting from the proceeds. We might even like each other as hosts on the show, you and I on tv helping the world. What a concept!

Answer 3

I agree that she does need to leave at all costs, but they often need advice from other...especially with children involved. Plus, their husbands have run them down so badly now they believe that is what they deserve and believe that they are unable to do things they would normaly be able to. They end up feeling worthless and helpless due to being told so much they begin believing it. However, they do have to help themselves as well....or at least be willing to take the steps to do so. Some are on here for reinforcement of what they think and want someone to tell them they are right/wrong and give them direction and options that they may not otherwise realize that they have. The ones not planning on leaving should not be complaining about it though bc they are not willing to do anything about it to change the situation that they are in. So, in ways I do agree with your statement.

Answer 4

I always said I'd leave, but I never ever believed he would cheat. Now it's not so simple. I do love him and we are working on our marriage. But, I'm not a fool. I'm adult with a choice to make. Right now I'm trying my best to keep our family together. He wants to try so, why shouldn't we? If you have never been there, you really have no idea of the heartbreak. The other person can not understand your point of view. They betrayed, they weren't betrayed. Yahoo, for better or worse ;-) is a place to vent when the situation gets too much to deal with. You are all strangers so ultimately if you judge me, I'll live with it. AND, if I completely loose my cool, it doesn't matter.

Answer 5

I would not cheat on my husband! Why would I get married if I wanted to cheat? If we have an issue, we work it out! There is NO justification for adultery! What kind of message would that send to my children who look to me as an example of marital stability and a strong foundation? I want my children to have happy family lives and I am their example...even though they are young adults now! Our lives are not about us and what would I be able to hand down to my children? An example of immorality? The thought of doing something like this is despicable and disgusting to me! The Bible says to love what is good and hate what is bad! I believe in the Bible! Doing something like this now would make me no better than a hypocrite!

Answer 6

Because if women in those cases stay then they get the best of both worlds a man that paids and takes care of things and a wild night life. So why give that up? I dont agree with it i think its wrong. Men stick around because they think that the woman will change or they maybe having a wild life themselves.

Answer 7

The number one fear of human kind is being alone. No matter what reason someone gives for putting up with a cheating spouse (kids, money, etc). The main reason is fear of being alone. It's a psychological thing so don't beat the women up that deal with this kind of situation. Men by the way put up with it too!

Answer 8

listen your right BUT The saying "once a cheat always a cheat" is not always true I was cheated on and he geniunely regretted it and never did it again. We broke up a year an a half later for other reasons but I aggree these women are looking for attention an full of excuses. as far as all these girls saying you havent lived through it and blah blah your not cold hearteed they are in deniel.

Answer 9

If it was me, I'd be out of there. Alot of women stay in the relationship because they are scared about moving out on their own and trying to make it on their own. This is one of the fears females have to over come and realise they are going to be ok out there on their own. Once they take that step and do it, they then realise they should of done it alot sooner.

Answer 10

What upsets me is when a woman gets pregnant for a SECOND time with a cheater.

I mean c'mon, these women have no self esteem, but to also drag down a poor baby because she is looking for SOMEONE to love and need her....

Sad, just sad!