I have been married 5 years, together for 8, we have 1 4 year old and another on the way. my husband has cheated on me all 5 of those years, too many times to count, and he still wont stop, he is always looking for someone, mostly for sex, i dont really know why, i think i give him it enough, why cant he just have me? i need help, what should i do?
2007-07-24 10:50:46 · 33 answers · asked by danirose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE DOES IT BECAUSE HE CAN!!!!
He does not respect you or your marriage. He does not respect his child or himself. I would suggest you stop having his children. Look what you're teaching them by dealing with their father. Don't believe for a second the child doesn't know what's going on. I'm not going to believe you're just a moron that has no self respect or esteem. I am going to believe you're just plain stupid for living with this gutless wonder for so long. What should you do? Leave and build a decent life for you and your children. Wake up my dear before you have to sit your kids down and explain to them how daddy infected you with HIV.
Just curious, how many times have you had to go to the STD clinic? Are you concerned about getting HIV or Herpes????
2007-07-24 10:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He seems like the type of person who wants to cheat, not necessarily for just the sex, but the feeling of power it gives him. He needs to prove he's still can get girls. And you let him get away with it by not leaving, not making him go see a counsellor about his serious issues. Leave. Cut off contact. Give him an e-mail of soemthing he can contact you by if he decides he can ever be an adult and you'll think about it, but otherwise don't respond. if he does say he's changed, don't immediately go back, he's got to prove he's changed and isn't gong back. Therapy for him and couples. You should probably also see someone, because for some reason, you've put up with this for years. You're miserable, and that's not good for yours kids. Get out now, get your head back together, and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve.
2007-07-24 11:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by S_Gnat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a counselor because he sounds like he has a sexual addiction. It does not matter if you do everything in the world for him because these type of men are never satisfied with only one woman. His behavior is very dangerous because he could cause you to catch a life threatening disease. What he is doing is not about you ....it's about him. You do not deserve this so do not accept him acting out this way. If he refuses help you need to still go for yourself. You have to protect yourself and your unborn baby. He is abusing you emotionally and physically and this is not right. Give him an ultimatum and stand on your word that he will get right or he is gone. Best wishes and please take care of yourself.
2007-07-24 12:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you continue to live with this man and have sex with him. He has no respect for you and is using you as his housekeeper, and another of his girl friends who he can turn to for sex when he gets hard up somewhere else. This is a case where it is really too bad you have gotten pregnant again because neither of your children will have a father they can look up to. If it were me I would have gotten out of the marriage years ago. I don't know what is holding you there, but you might want to take a serious look at your entire situation and take action now.
2007-07-24 11:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. First off let me say how sorry I am to hear of what you're going through. I can empathize. Sometimes when others hear or read of your story, its hard for them to understand if they havent lived it or know how you truly feel inside for your husband. I believe that you need to do what you feel is best and the truth be told, you probably know what that is already you're just scared to take that first step. Its hard. Esp. with a child involved and another on the way. Take one day at a time and recognize the signs. Make sure he is truly cheating w/ valid proof and not just a notion in your mind that makes you believe he is. I hope you find what it is you need in life to make you happy because by the looks of it, you're not at all where you could be in life-get those kids a better start and allow yourself to know what it feels like to be loved completely without condition. Find a man you can trust. Good luck and please take care.
2007-07-24 11:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have any more kids with a man who is out cheating on you? Do you think a baby will make him stay home? You don't need "help", maybe help packing! He needs help - he is obviously seeking something that he feels he is missing - some people are just starving for attention and the thrill of knowing they can still hook up with someone other than the one they are committed to. You need to get out of this, before he brings home some disease that harms your baby.
2007-07-24 11:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he only does that because you allow him too...And then, you're having another baby with him.. He knows you're not going anywhere...I think you know what you should do...Get off of the computer and deal with his a$s...And get a check-up...I don't understand what the question is if you've been with him for 5 years and he's been cheating all of those years....Trust me you can do way better...
2007-07-24 13:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by ........ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't THINK you give it to him enough...make sure...
2. This guy is a player... he most likely will never stop cheating.
3. Getting enough sex is not the same as getting enough GOOD sex.
4. (1 and 3) are for your next relationship. Move on with your life!
2007-07-24 10:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Little Late now. Too bad there are kids involved. He cheats because you let him. You act like the victim and you seek pity instead taking control of your life and making sure there are consequences for his unacceptable behavior. Kick his sorry A$$ out next time. Grow some self respect!
2007-07-24 11:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Willie J 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First stop having children with the cheating bastard...Then seek a divorce. Why in the world would you want to be with a cheating selfish man? Ask him why you aren't enough for him.
2007-07-24 10:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋