my sister in law is a widow(she was married to my brother who died last year). Amanda has two little girls, Cassie is four and Elsie is a year and a half. Amanda thinks shes got it all right, and that wants to marry this single guy who is two years older than she, works at a real estate agency, and looks like he's seventeen(he is acctually twenty-eight). they have gone hiking together several times and he said that he doesnt mind that she has two kids. his exact words were: "I think you are fabulous, and you're kids are just an extra bonus." i mean i like this guy and all, and i know that Amanda is ready to move on, but i dont know that i am ready for her to have another relationship like this so soon. so, is Amanda REALLY in love??
2007-07-24 10:49:52 · 10 answers · asked by norskie_gurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
btw, she met him, like, 2 weeks ago and she is already saying how she whishes she will get married to him. i mean i did that kind of thing when i was like 9, but she is a 25 year old widow for crying out loud!!
2007-07-31 05:51:13 · update #1
first of all ,i am so sorry for the loss of your brother,i lost a brother and i did not want my sister in law to move on,i was afraid she would forget my brother,and i think deep down in side you feel the same way,but remember your brother will always live in his children,and your sister in law,need to be happy to,as hard as it may be for you,you need to accept,that she is ready to move on,your brother will always remain in her heart,and yours,besides i don't think your brother would want your sister in law to be alone,i hope this helps you,and best of luck to you and your family
2007-08-01 07:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without realizing it she is probably looking to cover the pain she recently went through. Thats a short time when u lose someone like that. You also might be feeling weird bc she was with ur brother and seeing her with someone else may make u feel weird. But the only thing you should do is offer her advice on what you see. "I know you really like this guy but for your kids sake you might want to date a little longer before thinking about marriage. If he is not going anywhere then you have nothing to worry about. Don't put your kids through something like that"
2007-07-31 20:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
prehaps Amanda is indeed lonely and tired of being alone, i understand why u think she is not ready yet ......... because it seems that she hasnt even finish grieving yet. But there comes a time i one life when we know exactly what we want, and Amanada may be at that time in her life , where she feels she found the guy who have swept her of her feet and who understands her and make her a better person. so Yes i think she culd be ready.BUT there is nothing wrong with waiting and make sure this is really what she wants to do. So encourage her to just take things slowly and let God have his way, he knows what and who she needs. good luck
2007-08-01 09:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetbahama mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, what she does is none of your business. If she wants to go with another man, she will do so - with or without your permission. She may never love another man as much or the same way she loved your brother, she will never forget him, but if she is ready to move on, allow her to do so without regret. The children are still your neices whether or not she has another relationship or not and you can be interested in their lives as well as hers as long as you do not interfere in her life. Sorry about your brother I know you miss him and so does your sister in law. She actually must have been happy with your brother or she would not be able to have another realtionship with another person. God bless you all.
2007-07-31 01:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
regaurdless of what happen w/ ur brother she deserves love it's good she can get back out there most can't. it's her life n honestly not really ur busisness not being rude but u can't live her life for her. you can only live your own and also you don't know what u'd do in her situation b/c ur not her or in the situation i know u care about ur brother. It;s time for u to let go also and let his widow move on if it's ment to be it will happen
2007-08-01 10:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Pretty1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. You can't tell her when she is ready for another relationship. This is her second chance at love, so don't ruin it for her. The children have already experienced loosing their father. Isn't it time for them to find happiness? Be happy for her and encourage her to move on, especially for her kids.
2007-07-30 17:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her heart.please donot make the mistake of speaking for her heart. you can offer her advice and encouragement,but donot speak for her heart. you see love is blind. it does not matter what you think or say. she does not see it that way.when he speaks, she does not hear it that way. you must allow her to choose for herself, if there is something about him that you feel is out of sinc, you must allow her to learn of it on her own. if by chance she decides that he is the one for her and something goes wrong in their relationship,the first person she is going to blame is YOU. if you offer negative advice about him,by any chance,do you think she's going to believe you? if you want to keep your relationship with her the way it is,stay out of it. and let her come to you. then you be honest with her. if she does not believe you, whatever happens after that is (nobodys fault but her own). you sound like a very good dependable person, one who's alway there when the chips are down. you are to be commended for your concern and care.especially for an inlaw. just let her know where she can reach you if she needs you. and that your sholuder is always available.
2007-07-30 16:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,she is ready to move on sounds like you are nt. well i am sorry but she has to and i think this is enough time to get moving you can not stay down forever because of a death. its not good or healthy
2007-07-30 17:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from wut uve told us i think ur sister should wait a little while before she gets married
but if shes ready to START a relationship then let her...... if u like this guy then i dont realize wuts the problem
i dont want to sound harsh but its not ur life its hers and if he seems like a good guy let her go for it and dont hold her back ur right she needs to move on just tell her to take it slow and let their relationship grow!!
2007-07-24 17:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Htrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya he accepted her as she is which is not so often nowadays
2007-07-24 17:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Silent tear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋