Growing Apart vs. A Bump in the Road?

Question

What's the difference between growing apart and just hitting a bump in a relationship?

How do you know which is which? How do you know when a relationship is just dying out?

I'm talking long term relationships 2+ years.

Answer 1

If you both can't have brutally honest and open conversations with each other about EVERYTHING, then there is a problem somewhere.

Lack of communication causes bumps in the road and worse....

Good luck. Marriage is hard work!

Answer 2

Growing apart is basically not having anything in common anymore... not wanting to spend time together, having separate friends, interests, lives and not interested to be involved in that life. A bump in the road can be anything from a small fight to something huge, but something that you will eventually get over... if you still love each other and care about each other, even if you have a hard time being around them. I think even when you are growing apart, it can be a bump in the road... it just depends on whether or not or how hard you're willing to work for it. Almost anything can be overcome in a relationship, but sometimes you need help... it can take good counseling from a professional, close friends, a pastor or trusted elders in your church. I would recommend doing everything you can do to make sure you can salvage the relationship before breaking up, particularly if you're married. Too many people throw good relationships away because they've hit a rough patch. Relationships are tough and you have to be tough enough to fight it out. Believe me, sometimes it's worth the fight. Good luck.

Answer 3

When you grow apart, then you lose all feelings for the other person. When it is a bump or a rut, you want to make things work out and you still love that person just as much, if not more, than the day you fell in love with them. Try to take some time out with just the two of you and have a romantic dinner and get a hotel room....even if it is in town. It will put a bit of a spark back into your relationship. If it doesn't work, you could be at the beginning of growing apart, but it usually takes a lot longer than only two years to grow apart.

Answer 4

Growing apart you have no intent in fixing the problem or problems and there is no communication to address this. On the other hand a bump in the road is what it is...A Bump. You want to resolve it and come together. Talk to your partner, and find a way for both people to express their concerns to get a handle on the situation. You need to hear each others pain, and the conflict's you face. But there is always love between you too and you want to keep the love alive. Whatever it is your heart will let you know, that you can't live without that person is in your life.

Answer 5

to me a bump in a relationship is a fight....serious or not, it's just something the both of you need to get over. growing apart is totally different. it's when either one (or both) of you are not the same people you used to be, or one (or both) of you realizes you are not the same person as you were at the begining of the relationship. that is more, growing apart from one another. hope that helped :)

Answer 6

When you are growing apart, you start to loose interest in the other person. You don't really want to go places with them, you don't really want to talk much to them and stuff. If you just have a bump in the road, I think you still have feelings for that other person and you still want to talk and stuff, but you don't lose interest in them.

Answer 7

Its a very difficult question to answer. After the bump, did both people work and actively try to solve the problems? Or was all the reconsilliation done by one person?

Answer 8

people grow and grow apart. sit down and make a list of 5 things you loved about each other when you met. 5 reasons you find you love about one another now and see if you can build on the basics. communicate, talk, guys are pride full and girls are unforgiving. let all the past pesty things go. no finger pointing to bad. no ego's, no accusations. you say how you want to be loved by him and state your needs. let him do the same. have a date day. you have yours where he has to make your wishes happen, and he gets one where you make his wishes come true. no telling one another no as long as it's not degrading. be reasonable. if you find love is gone, appreciate what you had together and let one another go.