people label me as a thug, and a criminal..... am i?

Question

just because i hang out with some bangers.... and occasionally the "just wanna have a good time" "STONER" does that mean that i'm going to wind up in prison like everyone keeps telling me? I mean don't get me wrong... i have smoked marijuana before? and i have broken the law... but just because of who i hang out with... and how i dress people automatically say... "Well by tthe time you're 17 you'll be in prison.."and i try not to surround myself with these people... but itz gotten to the point where my own father has been telling me this? is something wrong with me?????

Answer 1

.Only God should judge you. Judge let ye be judged

Answer 2

Is there something wrong with you? The very fact that you ask the question indicates to me that you're perfectly normal. I'd be more concerned if you hadn't asked yourself that question. If you disobey the law, by definition, you are a criminal. Does this make you so different from anyone else around you? Hell no. Regardless of what kind of public face most people put forward, everyone has basically the same needs and concerns. The only question you have to answer is what sort of person you'd like to be in the future. Do you want to put yourself in a position where you could be arrested for commiting a crime? Do you want to put yourself in a position where you could be killed over something futile and pointless? I'm guessing not. My best advice to you: live your life to its fullest, learn anything about everything that you can and don't resign yourself to a life that you know won't take you anywhere.

Answer 3

Well I'll tell you what my father told me. You hang with 9 broke friends and you'll be broke friend number 10. You choose the people you hang out with for one reason or another. Friends will always influence you in the end because people usually hang out with people who think like themselves. Honestly though you need new friends or no friends. I grew up in the hood and chose to think outside the box when I was a teenager. I dropped the bangers and started hanging around players. You're better off working towards getting lots of honest money and women who aren't hood rats. All the people I let behind haven't done nothing but gone to jail,smoking their lives away or got killed. People like your dad are telling you this stuff because adults know things from experience and not just because they think it's right. One thing I learned thoughis it may be cool now but when you get older no one has you're back. You'll be broke, working a crappy job,in jail or dead. Chances are though since you dress like a banger and hangout with them you won't make it to 21 I bet. You'll learn when it's too late though.

Answer 4

If that many people, including your father, have been telling you these things then it must be true. Don't you think it is time for you to change your ways? If you recognize the things you are doing are wrong then you are smart enough and not all bad. Find new friends, start wearing decent clothing and get a part-time job. I'm assuming that you are finishing high school. Life is what you make of it. You don't have to wind up in prison.

Answer 5

You probably will end up like them. The more time you spend with them and dress like them, the worse things will become. If you model your life on bad behaviors, guess what, you'll start having the same problems. Its the old garbage in, garbage out routine, your brain is just the computer in this case. I had a friend who liked to smoke a LITTLE marijuana once in a while. He's 33 yrs old now, divorced. He never gets to see his 10yr old son. He can barely keep a job. Oh did I mention he recently moved back in with his Mommy because he couldn't make it on his own!

Answer 6

There's something wrong with your friends, hence there's something wrong with you. Nah, that's not necessarily true.
But yeah, peer pressure is pretty strong. And if you've already crossed some lines what's going to stop you from crossing the rest? It's really a personal choice to have and decide where you're going to go with your life and friends. And yeah, I do think that some of the decisions you make in life are based off of interactions with your friends. But it's up to you to make the decision on where to stand with your morals. That doesn't mean ditch all your friends, it means to stand by them but don't do anything that would make your parents ashamed of you.
If it's weighing on your mind that heavily, stop hanging out and maybe just talk or something; while hanging out with different friends that do different things, or try mixing hanging out with friends you think are very ethical and those that aren't.

Answer 7

People who say that want you to wake up and realize that you have so much out for you! They definately dont want you caught up in that lifestyle adn not make anything of yourself.
ONce you start tryiong little things, its a lot easier to try more things and eventually get yourself into trouble.
technically, statistcis show not a positive thing for those that hang around with bangers and druggies.
Look at your life and determine where you are wanting to go. Are they pointing you that way? If not, look into changing your friends/life.
Your dad is sharing some true wisdom with you. My advice is to listen. Our parents aren't as dumb as we think- I learned that the hard way. He only wants what best for you :)

Answer 8

Well, from my own experience, hanging out with the wrong people can and will get you into a lot of trouble, for example if you are caught in a drug raid at one of your "friend's" house even if you werent doing anything wrong or if you get pulled over and get caught with drugs or weapons in the car then your responsible and go to jail, you know anything could happen so why not stay away from trouble when you know its there.

Answer 9

they are just concerned with who your hanging out with, see people don't say anything like that to me, although a lot of my fiends are in grade 11, that's and I'm in 9, some steal and smoke weed and do other stuff like that, but it dosent mean that i will do it (haven't stolen anything, or smoked) so they shouldn't judged where you'll be in a few years.

They are just worring about you, but if i were you i would try to not steal anymore, and smoke as little as possible. The way you dress shouldn't matter to anyone else, its your business

Answer 10

there is nothing wrong with you, just the people you chose as friends and the choices you're making. If you're using marijuana and breaking the law eventually its going to catch up with you. that and these people who you hang out with could persuade you to do worse things, one thing leads to another as they say. I'd say change who you're hanging out with, they dont sound like a good influence

Answer 11

You can say your not a thug but people are going to think you are because you hang out with them, no it's not right but it happen to me my friends were ho's so everyone thought I was but instead of hanging out with them like i did before they just became associates I just said hi and bye and that's it, I distanced myself because I didn't want to be seen that way.