Why would A man cheat on his wife if she was really good looking?

Question

I give him everything I do everything I clean my house
I cook every day and I pick up 4 kids from school
and then I put makeup on and dress up for him everyday

I work very hard to keep up my appearances, as well as down to earth, with a freaky side in the bedroom
he is really jealous . all his friends tell me I am good looking

im sick and tired of having my heart pounding and losing endless hours of sleep due to the sadness and uncertainty as to what is going wrong with my relationship?

Answer 1

"I give him everything I do everything" this is what is wrong. To him you are simply become a doormat he can walk over.

Answer 2

I am sure that you ARE tired of doing all the giving for nothing in return.
If you do all that, which shows that you care about your husband, then he needs both his eyes and brain examined. I am sorry to have to say that, but there is something wrong with a man who is married to a woman and will not appeciate what she tries to do for him.
It is a fact though, that there needs to be a chemistry between people. If that is not there, no amount of trying on your part will work. But it had to be there originally or he would not have married you.
In addition, if there is an emotional dis-conect between the two of you, it can lessen his desires for you.
So obviously something has changed that you have not yet discovered. You need to talk to him honestly, but gently to discover if there is something that you have overlooked that might be turning him off.
Often the thought of a fling can excite certain, shallow men. Are you sure he is cheating on you?
I hate to say this, but if you are doing all the right things and he ignores you, you have to either live with that fact or find someone who will appreciate you. You don't want to be misrable forever.
I am not advocating that you cheat on him as well, but it would be a sad circumstance if you give it your all for years and get nothing in return. Possibly separating from him for a short period make bring him back to the reality that he is messing up...big time.
I wish you luck. You are in a tough situation

Answer 3

Unfortunately looks doesn't always cut it. Believe it or not guys like a deeper relationship too (knowing nothing of your relationship only the question about good looking). Try doing some different things together, spice it up, read up on new ideas and give them a try with your husband. What is his fantasies, desires what makes him excited in the bedroom and out? Work on those areas also, not just pleasing to his eyes but to his whole being. Hopefully he works on that for you too.

Answer 4

Once again, this question has been asked a thousand times - and will probably be asked a thousand more.

Men, like women, believe it or not - want more than just a Barbie Doll. An intellectual equal, a friend, a partner... someone they can lean on and be leaned on by.

Perhaps if you devoted more time to pursuing things YOU like to do, and stop being so codependent and eager to please this man, he might find you more interesting.

Relationships that are built on appearance alone RARELY last, and if they do, I would imagine that eventually the couple would rack up a lot of debt to maintain that stunning beauty via plastic surgery...

Answer 5

Did he actually cheat?

Some people are just completely without relationship intelligence.
This guy of yours seems to be missing the part of his brain that knows a good deal when he has it.

I would bend over backwards for a woman like you. My wife is fat, belches and farts worse than a guy, is lazy, a pig(doesn't clean), smells bad, barely raises the kids, lousy in bed...

Seriously, I am very elated to know such a woman as you exists...

Answer 6

Looks aren't everything, but it does seem as if you're a good wife...maybe a little full of yourself, but good wife none the less. Sounds like he's lucky to have you, but obviously doesn't realize it. Talk to him, and get it all out in the open. Tell him how you feel, how he makes you feel, and ask him why he does what he's doing. As his wife, you shouldn't feel insecure about your realtionship.

Answer 7

He cheats just because he thinks that he can get something better than you. He believes that the sky is the limit for him. But, most people are like that and they need to realize that they can't find anyone better than his wife.

HELL, if you want I'd take you out to a nice dinner and make you feel like real woman...without the sexual advantage of course!

Answer 8

You sound like you have done all you can to keep your relationship in tact the probelm is not with you maybe it's your husband. Perhaps you have given to much ever thought about that. Keep your head up and stay focus.

Answer 9

He's cheating on you because of something within HIM. You are not the cause.

My advice: quit doing everything for him and start living for you. He'll either snap to it and start working to catch up with you or the lack of ambition will give you good reason to call it quits.

Answer 10

Have you tried talking to him about this? Besides, sometimes ppl are stupid and try to sabotage the things in life that they think are too good for them. It is stupid, but part of human nature. It may not be you at all, it may be how he was raised, or sheer stupidity on his part, and you deserve better. There are good men out there, and if he is cheating you certanly deserve better.

Answer 11

You have lost yourself in trying to please your spouse. The things you do, cleaning house, taking care of kids, and getting dressed up you should be doing to make yourself feel better. If you want to keep up your appearance, do it for yourself. You should never have to sacrifice yourself for anyone else.

Find out who you are and go from there...