Ok I was talking on the phone with this guy I liked and when I got off my mom wanted to know who I was talking to. At first I told her It was a girl (which i shouldnt have) but she didnt beleive me and knew it was a guy and wanted to know the name. I wouldnt tell her though because I know she will make fun of me. Shes done it before. Now she is really mad. Should I have told her?
2007-07-24 09:55:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She tells everyone about it too.
2007-07-24 09:58:53 · update #1
OMG! My mom is the SAME EXACT way. She always says, "I remember when I was 13." But she obviously DOESN'T. She actually told my best friend that I had to leave her birthday party because I had crippling gas pains because I had to poop. Come on now! Any person with commonsense would know just to say that I was sick, but no! She HAD to tell the WHOLE story. I understand. Just tell her to back off and tell her why you won't tell her.
2007-07-24 10:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My mom would make fun of me too, and my sister would join in. Then, she would tell everyone and talk on the phone with her friends about it. It hurt my feelings so much because I was being so innocent and she would just make me feel stupid and ashamed.
Yeah, you should have told her because she obviously saw right through your lie, thus getting her angry. It's also dishonest and you have to be a grownup if you want relationship. Relationships call for mature people. I urge you to try to tell her that you hate it when she makes fun of you and that its not nice to tell everyone. I understand parents don't always get it. Maybe she'll change, maybe not. But, you'll have to deal with it because eventually you'll get a boyfriend and you'll want him to come over and so on.
2007-07-24 10:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kate C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mom are both wrong. You for lying, your mom for telling others about your personal stuff probably in front of you. I guess she doesn't remember being a kid herself or perhaps her mom did the same to her. You gotta break this cycle! Don't do it to your kids when and if you ever have any.Have an honest heart-heart with her about your feelings and maybe she'll open up to you about why she does certain things and then you'll understand each other! Good luck! I just hope I remember all this when my daughter gets older!
2007-07-24 10:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. Your mom wants to be trusted, but she's somewhat of a big mouth. Tell her your not a kid anymore and this is private. Tell her that if it was important or you were in trouble or something that you'd come to her.
If she's still mad, oh well. Who says that you have to make your mom happy? She's only mad because you lied (and you shouldn'tve, like you said.) and because you don't tell her everything like when you were little. It'll pass
2007-07-24 10:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Mom, I know that sometimes we might tease our kids, unknowingly hurting their feeling. If she has said/done something that is bothering you, you need to let her know. Just say something along these lines.
"Mom, I really didn't want to tell you the name of the boy that I was talking to, because I was afraid that you might tease me. I don't want to hide anything from you, so if you want to talk about it now, I'm ready."
Then tell her that you are really uncomfortable with anyone but her knowing about your crush because...(and give her your reasons) I feel shy about it, I don't know if I really like him like that, he is only a friend, I really like him and I want to invite him over to meet the family and don't want him to be teased.
There you've told her that you want to tell her, and worked on your relationship.
2007-07-24 10:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lorie N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with her and tell her why you lied. She might be more understanding in the future if you tell her how you feel. Be willing to share information about your life, but ask her to be respectful about it. She probably thinks it's no big deal to make fun of you, but if it hurts your feelings, she deserves to know.
This way you guys can be honest with each other, and she'll trust you more.
2007-07-24 10:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kat H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have told her. The only reason she is mad is because you lied to her.
2007-07-24 11:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, though your mom sounds kind of mean for her to make fun of you
2007-07-24 10:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have grounded you from the phone.Your lucky she wasn't smart enough to think of that.
2007-07-24 10:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you should have told her. i told my parents when i first started talking to my girlfriend, they didn't really care.they fact that you lied to her is what makes her mad...
2007-07-24 09:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋