i am struggling with the fact that i don't feel like i can be myself around anyone. not my whole self anyways. i can be pieces of myself with people, but never the whole thing. is it possible to find someone i am completely comfortable around? i have always been a little bit of an odd ball, but...i don't know. will i ever get to be myself and feel someone there at the same time? or will i always be an echo chamber of ideas, kept to myself? is it just harder for me? or does everyone feel lonely to an extent? i've heard before that loneliness is the human condition. i just need some oppinions. thanks.
2007-07-24 09:08:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My wife is incredibly shy. She asked me to protect her at Bible study! My wife met me and felt totally comfortable and is completely herself with me.
I was like you in that I did not always feel comfortable just being entirely open with most people. I have found that if I stop worrying about what they think and just be myself I am much happier and most people do not care half as much as I originally thought.
If you worry less about the opinions of others and just be yourself, you will be great.
Take care,
Troy
2007-07-24 09:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to accept others and to be yourself around others. I'm guessing you're very young. When you were much younger, you had no trouble being yourself around others. It is because you remember the freedom you once had that you now know you are not being completely yourself with otheres. But knowing that you once did it, should answer the question of whether it's possible.
The real question is how does one learn how to do it again, after having lost the ability.
Jesus Christ said you must be born again. Now I'm not saying become Christian, but his statement is quite true. You have to learn to turn back the hands of time and get back to how you felt as a child. You need to re-learn to be happy. Therapy may help, though it didn't help me.
You will always be an echo chamber of ideas. That's one of the things that make us humans. However, you can learn to constructively express your ideas, without fear and you can learn to create lover for yourself and others with every word and in every circumstance.
You must be willing to NOT be afraid. You must be willing to learn to become courageous, and reach out to others even when it appears to be painfull for you (or them). It might help to think of the litany against fear, which was used by some of the characters in Frank Herbert's novel, Dune:
"I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain. "
Look for things that make you happy. Find them in yourself and in others. And don't be afraid.
Try reading "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne.
2007-07-24 09:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by livemoreamply 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're are things that are safe and healthy to keep to urself. Try being yourself around your family, a close friend, or maybe your significant other. Tell them hoe you feel about it and to understand you. You might want to seek a therapist.
They'll be able to help ypu with your emotional needs.
Also, are you a religious person. Maybe thats what you need if not.
Humans were made with the desire of something more. Something more than just the life we live. Pray to god and ask him for his help. It will help if you do it sincerly.
2007-07-24 09:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be really shy and afraid of what people think... I still struggle with it in situations with new people, and I think that's understandable. You don't necessarily want to show every person you come into contact with the full scope of your personality. However, you should still be yourself. I can reveal my full self to my husband - I think when you're in a long term committed relationship like that you need to be able to be your full selves, or else you'll go crazy... and I also feel like I can totally be myself around my close family, and some close friends. You may be unsure of who you really are, and that makes it really hard to be secure in yourself. Just relax and develop yourself and as you develop closer relationships you will be able to let your guard down a little more.
2007-07-24 09:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you only can be bits of yourself around certain people is because they are not your soulmate. When God made you He made a soulmate just for you and when you find that person you will find that you can be yourself without any hassles. Just hang in there that day will come when you least expect it..... Don't feel lonely anymore!!!
2007-07-24 09:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to find people who you are completely comfortable around- These people are called your friends. If your current friends wouldn't accept the real you, then you need to find new ones.
2007-07-24 09:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Philly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a real answer for you just wanted to let you know that I have felt those same kinds of feelings. I hope that there is someone out thee for both of us
2007-07-24 09:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
human accept
2016-02-02 17:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible i think but i will always have my secrets as will the guy i like i accept he has secrets he keeps from me and just hope they arent to bad but i have secrets i keep from everyone to so yeah
2007-07-24 09:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax.
2007-07-24 09:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋