The kicker is you both know you are soul-mate's and there is only one for one... You have both made mistakes and it caused the break-up but is it what you want, both of you or are you both done sewing your oats? Is there not enough love and respect to find that flame again, work out your differences, drop all of the past and get on with you future and this time take the flame and put it in a safe!
2007-07-24 08:57:38 · 8 answers · asked by AzNative89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The absolute only way to make this work is if both of you are 100% willing to make it work. One of you can't be looking for an exit or waiting for something bad to happen to make it okay to leave. You need to completely commit.
In situations like this, it can be really scarey to try again. You need to let yourself be vulnerable. There are no guarantees, you might get hurt again. But it can be so worth fighting your fear.
Soul-mates are two people brought together to teach eachother something. Obviously the two of you are still learning. You can get past the mistakes and even betrayal, but it will take work. You need to make the marriage your #1 priority. It takes a conscious decision every single day to make a marriage work. I hope you find the right answer for you.
2007-07-24 09:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both know what was the cause of the break-up, then its always reconcilable, as long as you both learn from the past and have the love and the will to move on, then it can happen, just remember... it takes two!!! It always best to put it to the test before just jumping on the idea, just like you test your bath water before you trust thats its the right temperature. Take your time this time and pay attention to prevent the same mistakes. May God answer all of your prayers and for you to be blessed.
2007-07-24 16:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a relationship breaks up because of affairs, there is no reason to rekindle it. The respect is lost and the pair are definitely not soul-mates.
If the relationship broke up because of too many fights, it will also fail. Once the couple gets back together, the annoyances will resume and so will the fights.
Take care,
Troy
2007-07-24 16:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to drop all defenses and give yourself totally ... you're not allowed to wait for them to do that because they are probably waiting for you. You have to trust so much that all your soft parts are showing and then wait for them.
You need to always express your good feelings; hold your tongue when you're tempted to speak in anger and no matter how hard or awkward it is, verbalize little problems and issues before they grow into big ones.
Resolve to let go of resentments, embrace little faults instead of secretly being critical and ... love. Unconditionally.
Then you have to wake up every morning and do the same thing.
Good luck!
2007-07-24 16:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost to prevent making the same mistakes again one must first know what exactly those mistakes were or they will be made again, then start allover again, then whatever happens happens. Good luck
2007-07-24 16:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lobotomy
2007-07-24 16:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, nodumgys took my answer.
2007-07-24 16:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRUTALLY HONEST AND OPEN COMMUNICATION!!!
His needs, her needs.....
Good luck!
2007-07-24 16:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋