why is this?

Question

evryone is so judgemental to people who are different?! cant they see that everyone is wierd and different and unique? why is it that you're considered bad if you're different? i just want a reason!

Answer 1

Personally, I don't think the term different defines people. I think we're all the same & unique ... its sad that some people can't understand that.

Answer 2

First off, it would appear that people are judgemental, period. Secondly, people make decisions (call them judgements if you so like) based on whatever information they have, because it is all they have. Their decisions and actions may change as new information is gleaned. Thirdly, yes they see that everyone is unique,...just like everyone else. It's not special to be unique. We all are, and therefor it is just as much a similarity as it is a uniqueness. Fourth, it isn't considered bad because you're different. It's usually the differences that are considered bad, not the being different. Lastly, the answers are right in front of you. You sound as though you consider it bad to consider different people bad. You yourself are upset with a difference you observe in other people (I.E. that they judge and consider different people bad), and it seems as though you have judged this difference to be bad. So, Why is it that you judge people and consider them bad?

Answer 3

Hey heartbreak, be nice if someone actually tried to answer your question, huh?

The source of judgmentalism is not religion, it’s Darwinism.
(Darwinism doesn’t make us judgmental it just explains why we are.)

The principal is this: “Any trait that helps life survive, is passed on”
So if people are judgmental, some aspect of being judgmental helps people survive. Are you with me?

Life competes with life for resources. To increase the chances of survival life often teams up. Birds form flocks, wolves form packs, humans form tribes or societies.

The tribe gives you power, because someone’s always got your back. Love, is what allows us to form these pro survival alliances.

But, how do you know who’s in your group?

The natural process of group building involves choosing people who are similar to you, so it’s a very natural phenomena to exclude, mistreat or drive off anyone perceived as being ‘too’ different.

Now Americans are a fairly diverse group, so we usually emphasize the importance of tolerance. Problem is, it’s very important to be intolerant too.

NAMBLA advocates the legalization of sexual relations between adult males and young boys. Should we tolerate them? (If so the Catholics are getting a refund.)

Radical Islam forbids women to hold jobs or show their faces in public. Should we tolerate them?

Homosexuals think it’s OK for men to wear puffy satin shirts. Should we tolorate… Well, OK lets cut the gays some slack. No need to stone anyone over a funky dress code.

Which is the point. We need to carefully choose what we tolerate and what we do not.
Trying to get along is good. But sometimes it’s important not to.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

It is because most people only see their own immediate environment and have a very narrow emotional range-it feels safer. The truth is that a narrow range leads to delusions and mistakes. Some mistakes are small, others, like wars, are big.
Wars result from having a too narrow focus on the close and comfortable and forgetting that all humans descended from only a few people who left the Kalahari about 70,000 years ago.
Also our eyes fool us into thinking that our lives are separate because we can't see the interconnections. No one invented the language we are using. Few people still grow their own food. Few people print their own books, made their computers from basic elements or developed the protocols of the internet, or formulated their conditioner. Those are simple examples of interdependence. It is ignorance of that interdependence that creates deluded thoughts and behaviors.

Answer 5

Ever since we were born, we were conditioned to conform to a certain way. You are ment to conform, and learn the language of your country, accept the knowledge given to you at school, and even the way you think is suposed to be conformed. So now we have this whole society that is trying to conform everything. Now, lets look at an ego. Why would any person be somethign they didnt think was RIGHT? If i thought it was truely right to open doors for old ladies 24/7, then i would. If I thought it was truely wrong to open doors for old ladies 24/7, WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I!?!? Unless forced.... Now we have two facts, one, that we are taught to conform, two, that we do what we think is right. Now lets through in another person! :O This person is different from you, he/she does different things. Now you do what you think is RIGHT and not what you think is WRONG. So if the other person does something you don't and doesn't do something you do, you NATURALY think that he/she is WRONG, otherwise you'd do it too :P. So now he/she is doing wrong! We feel compelled to be the "Gentleman" and help ALL PEOPLE be RIGHT! So we try to find everythign they do that is wrong (to us) then try to change them. And then hate them because they don't do as you want htem to :P

Also the major things that i think cause prejudices (and would also work in this case) are Difference, Ignorance, and Fear. They all actualy cause one another.... By being different, you are ignorant about them, because you most likely aren't diverse in your knowledge about things that are different. Then because you don't know what they are like, and they aren't like you, you fear them. THEY MIGHT HURT YOU AFTER ALL! So then people hate them and all the like -.-.

Also we are conditioned to look at other people's faults. Honestly, it is like looking at a plain white sheet of paper and a black dot in the middle that is like 1 cm in diameter. If you asked someone to describe it, they would most likely say "It's a black dot." Now, how accurate is that? After all there is atleast 100x more white (blank space on the paper)! It's even proven in psychology that we remember the bad things people do more than the good. Ecspecialy when it comes to leaders! Lets take a Roman emperor for example, he could have been an AWESOME emperor, he gave money to the people, economic prosperity, many festivals, ect. But as soon as he beheads someone the people like, what will they remember? Will they remember all the money he gave them? or the good economic prosperity? or even the festivals? Nope, they'll remember that he hanged someone that they liked and wanted to live!\



Edit: Pheonix, i think it's interesting about you using Darwinism to explain it. But wouldn't it be easier to survive if you had DIFFERENT members, not the same? Economy is an excellent example of this. Haveing different people specialising in different things makes the economy better than if everyone was a "jack of all trades," because they excell in nothing. So by having DIFFERENT members, you will have DIFFERENT strengths to remove another member's weakness, making you survive better. An example of this is the typical duo of the Strong man, and the clever man. The strong man lacks in wisdom, so the clever man makes up the plans and figures everythign out for the brawny man. While the strong man has the ability to carry out the clever man's plans, which the clever man lacks the ability to do himself.

Answer 6

I don't consider anyone 'bad' simply because they are 'different' from me or believe 'other things' than I do. I will try to 'explain' what I believe, in order to hopefully 'clear things up' ... but I rarely say a 'person' is bad. I do occasionally say a 'question is bad' ... and I think that 'leading questions' or 'rants' thinly disguised as questions are 'tending toward the evil' ... but as for the PEOPLE ... they're not really 'bad' ... but they may be 'sadly misinformed.' I have the intelligence to know the 'difference' and may or may not 'comment' if that is what 'the question' is about.

Answer 7

your statement paints with a broad brush.
First, Everyone is not judgmental to people who are different.
Some are judgmental for specific differences.
Everyone appears weird to one who is not of a different group.
Few people ever achieve what can truly be called unique.
Different is not necessarily BAD. It is different. Notice that the words are not interchangeable.
Different can be uncomfortable, and if pressed on society without regard, it is considered rude. This is why society is slow to accept changes.
However it is important to realize that there are times when difference is not uncomfortable, and is accepted by society readily. These are key points on selling society anything, including yourself.

Answer 8

I suspect that the reason is fairly basic. The majority of people fear the things they don't understand, and people who are 'different,' for whatever reason, are not things they understand. It is easier not to bother trying than to put forth the effort of understanding.

One can argue that religion, upbringing, teaching and many other things are the core reason. But in truth, it's simple fear. And fear brings people together against things and people and situations that are different.

It isn't a Good reason, but it is a reason. With the internet and the ability to connect to people anywhere in the world, one can hope that our differences will not vanish, but they will cease to matter as much as they seem to now.

Answer 9

Those kind of people seem to rule the earth, right? That's my opinion. The cowardly, impudent, rude, insensitive, fools, who seem to have all the power. It's sick, and affects the entire World like a disease.

Answer 10

Most people are afraid of any type of change from what they are used to. It is a reflection of their own insecurity.