I feel like I wanna die?

Question

Why you ask? It's because one of my best guy friends asked me out, and I said no so it wouldn't ruin our friednship. And he made the blame comepletely on me, because he said he opens up to me like he did to his late grandma. I feel so horrible now, because not many people see him like that. He told me he regrets acting that like me at all because I hurt him. He says, quoted "I opened up for you. And what you do? Rip out my heart and stomp on it." I couldn't even sleep good and I'm crying right now because I feel horrible. What to do??

Also he told me he was sprung by the first time he met me, and that I was all he thought about. (Not even sure if thats true) Thats mainly the reason because hes open around me. I really appreciate him in my life and I think just ruined it.

He also said when I said no it felt like his grandmother dying all over again. When she died, he had nothing.

Answer 1

Adriana,
It is my perception that this guy is playing mind games with you, he is looking to lay the blame for his actions and feelings on others in order to feel some sort of justification.He is simply laying a "guilt trip " on you and is trying to play with your emotions as well.My guess is that he is lonely, unhappy,and he wants friends,but he does not really know how to keep or make friends with out "dragging them down" to his level of low esteem. Dont cry about it Adriana ! He wants you to feel as miserable as himself, don't let him do this to you! He needs to set his priorities straight. You have not ruined the friendship luv he has by his selfcentered and selfish actions. I hope that I have possibly helped you to understand your situation a little better. So cheer up Lass!! you will be fine .You need to explain to him about how he made YOU feel!! It's not all just about him, the universe does not revolve around him.. Lots of Luck and Love to ya !! brightest Blessings to you!!

Answer 2

It sounds like this guy isn't a true friend to you. If he liked you from the first time he met you that means the only reason he wanted to be your friend is selfish. He is really being selfish and disrespectful to the friendship you have or had now. Let him cool down and try to talk it out if you want to keep being friends with him. Don't let him guilt you into a relationship.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear this! You should let him cool off for some time and then give him a call and explained to him that you just don't have the same feelings that he has towards you that you value your friendship and that you wouldn't want to lose him since he is such a great friend. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Sweetheart, you did the right thing. Sadly, you are dealing with a person who perhaps has very emotional issues already. There is a saying, 'Sometimes you have to be cruel, in order to be kind.' You ARE being a great friend, but unfortunately he doesn't realize it. Just continue to be there for him. He will come around.

Answer 5

He just doesn't take rejection that well, a lot of people don't and of course he is going to blame it on you, at first, but I don't think you ruined it, he just needs to be reminded that you still care for him as a friend and reassure him that this hasn't changed your mind about him it just was a shock and unexpected. I hope your friend comes around.

Answer 6

he sounds crazy, if he was a real friend then he would understand and still be your friends so he could still be around you.but if you don't want to date him then you cant help your feelings so i say get another friend and don't worry about it.

Answer 7

He's a throw pillow.

First of all-how can he compare you to his grandma. pardon me, but that's slightly disturbing. "I wanna go out with youc ause you remind me of my g-ma?" Hell no.

Forget him.

Answer 8

if you care calll him up and tell him and go for it. good luck