There's this girl that goes to my school. She just asked me if we could be friends. I really don't want to!!!!!!! She's mean and annoying. I take that back. She's EXTREMELY mean and annoying. I really don't want to be her friend!!! I don't like having friends. I have 3. And it's a very conclusive group of friends. I only see one of them. One of them lives on the other side of the country, and another one, I've only talked to on the computer. I don't want to be her friend!!!!!! How can I let her down gently?!?! I just don't want her to bug me anymore!!!
2007-07-24 07:36:40 · 11 answers · asked by SingingImp 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why let her down gently? Has she been gentle with you, maybe it will take a spoonful of her own medicine for her to realise how she is impacting on others.
Be honest and tell her like it is, don’t sugar coat it either. This will make her feel like you are the problem and not her behaviour. Make sure she understands that how she treats people and behaves is the problem and not the person she is. Underneath this kind of mean and cold attitude lurks someone who has been deeply hurt before.
Call on her better nature, inspire her to be a better person!
2007-07-29 03:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! You sound like my best friend! Well this is what my friend did. A girl named Kayla asked her to be her friend. Kayla is in an anger management class, REALLY annoying, & REALLY mean. Kayla asked my friend Barbie to be her friend. Barbie said,"Well i like keeping a few friends, not a lot. And my parents have to know your parents more than a few months. So even though being your friend sounds really cool. I can't. Sorry" Kayla NEVER bothered Barbie AGAIN!
~The End~lol. I made up fake names.
2007-07-24 15:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is very hard to tell some one you dont want to be a friend but in your case you have reasons not to want this individual to be your friend. my advice is that you be honest to this girl, tell her that you dont want to hurt her by being a friend and then when its time to be there for her your not and then she becomes sad. Let her know your previous experiences with your friends, it never works out, let her know what are the qualities you are looking for in a friend. if that does not work and she believes that she can make it works let her know that you have experience it before and even if she does not get hurt, you will, has you are not always able to stick it out when situations arrives. thank you.
2007-07-24 14:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by tan c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem enclosed! Open up enjoy people ! get off the computer and meet Humans! I bet this girl is nice and your not giving her or anyone else a chance to be your friend!
2007-07-31 18:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by angel s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always the best policy, in my mind! maybe you could tell her that you don't really know her well enough to be her friend yet...that some of her actions/behaviors make you feel uncomfortable, and you don't know how to deal with that.
but i also believe there is good in everyone...try complimenting her for something...her looks, sense of humor, something like that...but still, remain firm in telling her that you aren't ready to be friends yet.
2007-07-24 14:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if shes mean and you knw it well i guess to let her down well just tell her you have too much to do to be with friends and your homework and stuff is too much if you are in school if you are older then tellher you are busy with work and its taking too much of your time to be friendly with anyone.
2007-07-30 23:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say this
"Well youve been pretty mean,so im just going to pass on this.But you can find other friends!"
2007-07-24 14:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. Umm, say maybe if you were nicer to me in the past, we coulda been friends. I just can't trust you now.
2007-07-24 15:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Coolio 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you want that she should not bug you any more , give her big hug...
you will also know whether she is worth you and she too will know real you..
2007-07-29 08:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by krishprud@yahoo.co.in_KISHORLAL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her no and the reason why, you don't need mean people in your life
2007-07-30 21:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋