Hi all :) .. Do you WAIT to be Asked for YOUR OPINION/ADVICE, or do YOU OFFER it up as you deem NECESSARY? :D?

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Name several situations
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Answer 1

Lol, what a lovely and individual question.

I do both. It depends who I am with, where I am, what my opinion is about and if it is a suitable time to express an opinion or keep silent.

for example, if a friend was wearing a hideous, brightly coloured top and seemed really happy in it, I wouldn't say anything, but if I was shopping with that friend, they tried the top on and asked me what I thought, heres how I'd answer;- if the style, shape or colour suited them, and they liked it, I'd say its just your colour and it suits you - if it looked hideous, I'd have to say something like, I don't think its quite you, here try this one on instead.
I have a theory that if you are too opinionated and always spouting off your opinions, nobody really appreciates it - they just think you're a know it all.
I think its better to have tact, diplomacy and honesty - knowing when not to say anything for fear of offending and having enough about you to be honest, when its necessary.

Answer 2

1 - (Edited to rewrite) People who have a problem with authority likely exist in higher proportions in the prison population. You don't need people rebelling against orders when you're at a war that's severe enough to have Congress willing to enact a draft. 2 - Just because somebody's in prison doesn't mean that their lives are the disposal of the federal government. Can you imagine the abuses that would lead to? 3 - Knowing that they'll either be killed/injured in battle or return to prison, most would disappear, returning to society. Between the crimes that would appear and the number that would be on the run (even if they're not breaking any more laws), law enforcement would be overwhelmed...this is in addition to the anti-war protests that would spring up. 4 - Having a draft--even of those who transgressed against laws--leads to problems anyway. The benefits of an all-volunteer army have been propounded again and again over the past few decades. The problems with conscription don't disappear just because the draftees committed crimes. 5 - Some laws are unjust as it is. If a person is arrested for fighting against a perceived injustice, then the war amounts to a way of executing political prisoners. The government can take a "do what we tell you, or we'll put you on the front lines" attitude. 6 - If a person is later found to have been wrongly accused the legal ramifications of sending that person into battle would be huge; if he died, it would be groundbreaking. Nobody in the government would want to be involved in a case like that. Don't get me wrong--there may be a use of having a military program involving prisons, such as providing job training for a possible career in the military after rehabilitation (provided the person didn't perform a crime that bars him/her from service). However, to just treat inmates as cannon fodder to be used at the pleasure of the federal government is fraught with problems. It wouldn't end well for anybody.

Answer 3

It is always situational. When I am expected to offer opinions I tend to dominate. When it seems more appropriate to keep quiet, I do.
Last night I lead a small group working on a problem. I was quite talkative. I was quick to let people know when they were off topic and tended to push hard for the solution that made the most sense to me. I asked questions for clarification and asked other for opinions about each subtle shift in the argument.

After the meeting there was the usual talking about what someone else had said and what was thought of that person. That talk behind people's back and talking about people who are not present is unethical to me and I will not participate. I will not offer an opinion even if asked.

My experience is that all social situations are different and we all act differently depending on the many factors that generate the situation.

How many young people will say things with their friends they would not say to parents or other adults? Do you engage the same way with friends at a party as you do with the police who come to break up the party?

You see how we adjust behavior to meet the needs of a particular situation? We are always different all the time.
In my opinion, the form you used to ask your question leads us to false ideas of self and self limitation.

Answer 4

I offer my opinion/advice as deem necessary. For example, the other day i was busy shopping. I realized that there was a lady with a push chair with a rain cover over it (heavily covered). I thought now that she is in and out of the rain she will uncover the child to allow for fresh air but after 15 minutes she still hasn't so I went over to her and explained that since we are in a limited ventilated environment she might like to take the plastic hood off to allow for fresh air. She smiled and said 'you know I never thought of it that way'. She rolled back the hood and found the baby very pink and sweaty also she appeared extremely sleepy. She thanked me and took the baby out for more fresh air before carrying on with her shopping. I said no, thank you for not taking it in a negative way.I have children too so I have been there and it is easily done without meaning to, especially with so much on one's mind.

I have come across this incident many times and each occasion I tried to help but there are few people out there who may never share the same care, love and views. Especially those who may be aware but having post natal depression or are up to no good because the child could not be their own.

Answer 5

Definitely the second. If I were to see someone doing something they weren't aware would be harmful to them, I'd suggest that potential, but not impose my opinion on them. If I were with a friend, say--he was looking to buy a new car--& I knew it was a gas guzzler, or that it had some negative features, I'd probably--with diplomacy--ask, did you notice this, or..whatever. Bring things to his attention without sounding like a know-it-all. There are a few people I would absolutely NOT give any kind of opinion or advice, since they are the type who wouldn't really want it, even if they asked me! It depends so much on the situation, the person. I don't think it's my province to go around spouting off MY views.

Answer 6

I do wait to be asked first until I think it's necessary to step up. There were many instances where my boss blew his top on errors in procedures, and the other guys all crammed to reason out and make advices. Seeing the hot situation which didn't resolve anything, I just kept quiet. When they all calmed down, I excused myself and asked if I could give some sort of advise and then I did.

Answer 7

usually if it something simple like i see someone struggling with something and i know an easier way i share my advice but with more personel situations i tend to wait to be asked unless i know them really well like a friend i may throw my two sense in but most of the time if it is a personall matter like marriage i keep my sense out of it bc i am not there 24/7 so i really do not know what goes on. If a friend ask me i will tell her my advice but i would also say well i am also not here all the time either.
hope this answers your question

Answer 8

All I got to was "do you..." heck no I don't wait for you to finish the question... he let me tell you about what I think about this...
just kidding- now I HAVE to read the rest of your question- I had to be in writing character.
OKAY,
If it's not opinion but it's a teaching or learning point I will wait until whatever instructor is finished and respectfully ask for time to address the group.
I do not blurt as much as I enjoy listening to opinions... they mold my own sometimes by opening my eyes to things I'm not aware of, books I've not read, people I've not met- it is a chance to learn (much like life.)

Answer 9

Most of the time i wait for the person to ask me for my opinion , but there are some people who by the way they are telling you their problems is an indirect invitation to have your point of view.
May be because they are shy or maybe also because they are too proud to ask your opinion in a straight forward manner.

Answer 10

as much as possible i try to mind my own business, but when life is in mortal danger and i feel my advise can really save the life then i will be a bit intrusive and offer the advise. if i believe my opinion can make a big difference, then i am compelles to offer it.