I'm dating this good looking boyfriend of mine for 7 months. He is everything I ever ask for as far looks and figure, but as times passed by I started to see things that turn me off. I am caring, compassionate, passionate, loving, strongwell, ambitious, considerate, and given woman. I love love affections, caressing, touch, massage. I am a given-take person. My boyfriend is more of the taker kind of guy. Everything is "me...me....me" the way I see more and more in him. All I ever asked from him is call me the end of working days and spend time talk on the phone to see how each other's day went and he was offending by me express my thoughts. We live 2 hours (93 miles) away from each other...only see each everyother weekend. Several times during the last 7 months...we boating once...we went Six Flag twice...we went to the beach once here in my town and once in his town. All he ever want is body massage but never return any. Should I dump him or deal with him? Is he self-center guy or not
2007-07-24 05:07:56 · 12 answers · asked by Yukuamua 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't say that you should dump him. The best thing is to precisely talk about things that you dislike about him.
Though its not evident from your question, even if we believe that he is an introvert, then there must be other good qualities in him that have been overshadowed by the bad things that you pointed out in your question.
We all are a combination of good n bad, nice and ugly habits. We work for better, if you plan to stay with him, there's nothing better than telling him what he needs to improve to be better for you.
Tell him that you would reconsider your relationship if he is not ready to change.
2007-07-24 05:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, that is a common problem with good lookers for men and women. But I would just sit down and somehow tell him what you just told us. Pointing out that your a good person and this is bad treatment. And that you wont and cant put up with it and be happy in this relationship. Now he is either going to realize this and make the effort not to be that way so much or not. Dont expect miracles right away but if you notice an honast effort maybe wait it out alittle longer. Theres always gonna be a first time for this I mean obviously he has never liked someone a lot and lost them before over this and maybe he never does have to depending on you, but give him the chance to correct the problem. Good luck, Kim
2007-07-24 05:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had a girlfriend like that once, I was the one giving the back rubs and foot massages etc. If i asked for one it was about 7 seconds long. Not giving or touchy feely at all. I am and it drove me crazy. Note, I said had a girlriend like that. Two people are in the relationship and they must both be happy. If you are not then move on and keep looking for what makes you happy. I used to tell her she isn't meeting my needs, I am not sure if she understands that to this day. People like you and I do. You deserve much, much better. Good luck!
2007-07-24 05:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's got to be something good about your boyfriend. Nonetheless, if he isn't listening to your request for him to participate in the relationship then stop sending him the body messages until he learns to send you some messages, don't call him untill he calls you a couple times and don't be the first to make plans to see him. Fight fire with fire; be selfish and self-center for a while so he can miss you and learn to make an effort.
2007-07-24 05:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by nemaus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are o.k. but in the long run it's true caring that wins out. Find someone who is as good to you as you are to them. That's what really matters. You can't have a relationship with someone who is busy having a relationship with their self! Keep in mind that you deserve someone who loves you and wants to please you. Before long that good looking guy is going to start looking pretty ugly because his actions are going to be what you see when he's around!
2007-07-24 05:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Janet H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have I dealt with a selfish and self-centered boyfriends? I didn't.
Kick him to the curb. Throw him on the trash heap. Put him out. Move on. Stop wasting your time.
2007-07-24 05:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy that lives near you! If you are such a giving a caring person why would you want to be with someone who is so selfish? He is not going to change.
2007-07-24 05:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by dewdy2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why its so good dating someone and knowing them a while before committing to a relationship....cause sounds like the real him is coming out now....if he treats you like this now it will only get worse...me me me ppl...lean this at an early age from their moms i bet he threw temper tantrums when he was little and then he would get his way..a guy that likes a girl really well will do things for her to show her his apparition for the things she does for him....he should be doing things for you dang you sound like a really good girl friend. dump him you can do better
2007-07-24 05:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what dating is about. Getting to know someone so you can decide if you want a long term relationship with them or not.
2007-07-24 05:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He will dump you eventually. He is not reaqdy to settle down., and you are probably not the only girl in his life.
2007-07-24 05:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋