Is it wrong that i want to have a kid but am underaged?

Question

me and my boyfriend r great he wants to havesex with me but i don't know if i'm ready or not ( i'm a verion) my boyfriend is willing and he will mostly because he's not but i don't konw if i'm ready mentally and financially

Answer 1

Sounds like you have a lot to think about. Don't let ANYONE talk you into something you are not ready for.
It is wrong to want a child at any time but you have to think about what the overall out come will be for you, the father, and the child.
Search your heart and you will find the answers.
Good luck to you and decide wisely.

Answer 2

Wait, you'll have lots of time to have sex later in life, and if you don't feel ready then you're not.. and don't do it, don't let him push you into it and just so you know ALL guys are willing and ready, virgin or not it's all they want.. and if you are going to, make sure that you are prepared completely,use condoms and birth control pills and right before you do, read all the "I'm a teen mom help me"posts on here and really think do I want a baby, or an STD, if he's already had sex you should make him go to the dr for testing , there are some diseases out there that you can't get rid of with a simple medicine they are there forever, and I'm pretty sure you don't want that..

gl to you and hold on to your virginity

Answer 3

Having sex for the first time is a beautiful and amazing thing, but you have to be mentally ready. I also think that having a kid underaged is horrible!! You would not be ready mentally or financially to take care of a child!! Finish school, have fun, be out on your own, see the world, because once you have a child all of that gets put on hold. You no longer have any time to yourself, you no longer put yourself first, you no longer can be spontanious!! I am a mother of two....soon to be three and I would not change it for the world because it is an amazing thing to be a parent, but I do miss being able to do what I want to do when I want to do it!! So please stop and think before you act on this!!!

Answer 4

It is not wrong to want to have a kid by this age, but actually following through with it is another story. I dont really know how young you are, but I had a baby when I was 19. That was too young. I struggled to keep food on the table and to have some time with my son. I was a single mom. I wasnt ready financially, so in a way my son suffered. Thats not fair, because he had no choice in the matter. While we are doing pretty good now, I cant help but fear that when this next baby comes he is going to be sad and jealous because I am older and better off now, so the baby wont have to deal with alot of the things that he had to deal with. Plus I am going to be with the father for the rest of my life, and his dad and I dont get along at all! So its really not fair. wait until you have lived YOUR life before you bring a baby into it. Go to college and travel, do all the selfish things you need and want to do now, before you get pregnant!

Answer 5

it isn't wrong to feel the way you do BUT there is a LOT to consider...

-not be harsh, but you spelled virgin wrong...
-if you don't think you're ready to have sex, then you're not ready... if you have to think about it, just don't do it... (save it for marriage... i wish someone would have told me that... you will regret doing it if you don't wait)
-and then you're not sure that ur mentally but even more important financially ready... these are two important things to consider when preparing for a child

i am 21, newly married, and having my first child... i went to college, my hubby has 2 degrees but it took us time to get to this point... i wouldn't say it's impossible for someone your age to do what they need to do to raise a child but you need to be ready... how old r u? have you finished school? if yes, have you thought about college (it's tough to do with a baby)... if no, then you need to because a college degree now-a-days is almost equivalent to a high school diploma (you want to be able to provide for your family). where are you living? at home? take that into consideration if you are trying to add a baby to the picture.... i mean the list goes on... if you personally wanna chat, feel free to im me (commltted2christ).... i feel like there is a lot for you to learn before you make a big step like this...

Answer 6

It isn't wrong, but it really doesn't sound like you're ready. A baby needs a grown up mom who can focus on raising kids. It's a lot of work and responsibility. Why do that to yourself now? You could just focus on having fun and growing up! Sex has a lot of very serious side effects, like babies and diseases. You really don't need that stuff in your life now. Save it for later when you're a little older.

Answer 7

BTW...it is virgin (not verion). It is not wrong to want a child, but it is wrong to bring a child into the world if you cannot afford to support them on your own without help from tax payers or your parents or his parents. Wait until you finish college (Even a high school diploma is not good enough now days)

Answer 8

You are way to young if you can't even spell the word *virgin*. You need to wait you can't support the baby yet, you are still a kid yourself. Don't have a baby just b/c your boyfriend wants you to no telling what the future holds. Do you really want to run the risk of being a single teen mom??? I am a single mom at 22 and its hard for me I can't image having to do it while still in high shchool.

Answer 9

Oh PLEASE, PLEASE DON'T HAVE SEX!!! I am a teen counselor. I have to counsel so many heart broken young ladies that gave into the pressure of a horny little boy. If your boyfriend had any love, affection or compassion for you at all he would be encouraging you to keep your virginity until he is able to put a ring on your finger and marry you. Most guys put pressure on a girl just to see if she is a slut or not. As soon as the girl gives it up, even if it is her first time, he immediately loses respect for her! Once he screws you, you are no longer marriage material in his mind because you have no self-respect. He'll never tell you that, but trust me, that is what is going on in his mind subconsciously. This would be the worst decision of your life if you do it. I'm proud of you for waiting, please don't blow that. E-mail me, we can talk some more.

Answer 10

I think you answered your own question- if you're not physically and financially ready, don't risk it. There's nothing wrong with wanting kids, but I'd recommend postponing it. If you have a real love for kids, put it to good use and volunteer!