I have a question for you.?

Question

Do you think it is important to tell your husband or wife where you are going out of the house? Explain please!!!

Answer 1

Yes. If you notice that this is not happening on its own, then it is indicating that there is some work to do in the communication area. Maybe it was not always a problem until now. Sometimes there are things right there in our faces and we just don't see them for one reason or another. But even if it has been this way for a long time, as long as it does not bother either partner or is not a problem, but once it bothers either one of you then it is a problem and needs to be addressed. So in addressing communication issues I always like to take a look back at how long it has been that way, and determine how to address it that way. If it is a new phenomenon in the household, then "nip it at the bud" if you do not like it. But if it has "always been that way", then just acknowledge the fact that even though it was not a problem before, it is now because you notice it now and it is bothering you now.
Hope this helps you find your own approach.
Peace from PureVu

Answer 2

I do it out of respect. I will tell my wife where I am going (if I am going somewhere specific) when I leave. The exception is if I walk out after a fight to clear my head, but then I am not really going anywhere specific. Although I did walk to Starbucks once without telling her to see if she noticed I was gone (Starbucks is only about a 10 minute wallk from my house so I was gone less than 30 minutes total). She never noticed.

Answer 3

It is appropriate for EVERYONE in the house to provide this simple information:
Where you are going.
Who you will be with.
When you expect to be back.

If you can't ( or won't) answer any of those questions before leaving, you are up to no good.

These questions are especially important for high school
kids. Random checks of this information confirms that the people you most care about are in fact worthy of your trust.
How else does a person gain trust without people saying what they are doing and doing what they are saying?

Answer 4

Yes and no, in case of an emergency yes it's good to know. I couldn't be in the bathroom for 5 minutes before he would knock on the door asking what am I doing in there, I going through a divorce now, and will not answer to any one ever again!!

Answer 5

It's more common courtesy. I don't mean front yard vs back yard, but just to say I'm going to the store, and I should be back in an hour or whatever.
Same if you are going out with someone. I'm going to have lunch with so and so, etc.
The one exception is that if you are going to cheat on him/her, then lie about where you're going, but make sure he/she can't check up on you! Just some free advice...

Answer 6

I don't think your question was merely about whether or not one would tell. It is about whether we'd be willing to tell our spouses and what level of detail are we willing to share.

I think it's helpful to tell our spouse - no doubt. But, sometimes if had to not tell the truth or lie about where you are going (say you're arranging a surprise party for him), let someone you trust know about your whereabouts.

I don't think you "have" to explain every detail if you "don't" want to, even to your spouse. The moment something comes down to "you have to", it then isn't that healthy any more.

Answer 7

Yes. It's just the respectful thing to do. My ex father in law went outside to feed the animals without telling his wife. She found him dead, two hours later. He died of a heart attack. She may have been able to save him if she knew where he was.

Answer 8

2 me its common courtesy so that they wont be calling or looking for you. but if its some sort of manditory time clock and lock down and 20 question thing its over board. I mean if this is an issue there is probally something else wrong that needs to be addressed.

Answer 9

Depends on when your going. I usually tell my husband where I am going if its an unusual time. I would want to know. Later in the evening is an unusual time.

Answer 10

I don't think it is a big deal to tell my husband where I am going. I think it is common courtesy. Now if I am buying him something for a surprise I won't tell him EVERYWHERE I go.