I am 28 years old. I have never been married. I am for the most part afraid of it. I am not afraid of committing, but I am afraid that I will end up like the husband and wife that are miserable. You know the people Im talking about. The two that are never smiling and just seem unhappy. The majority of people I know who are married give me the same advice: "wait as long as you can".
My question is, why stay together?
Exception "for the kids"
2007-07-24 04:35:41 · 12 answers · asked by Stuey 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for 37 years. I have wanted out for about 15 years. I decided to wait till my kids graduated from high school. They have now graduated from college. There just always seems to be a reason to stay, like it just isn't the right time to go. He lost his job. I lost my job. Several deaths in the family. Just one thing after another.
2007-07-24 04:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i know how you feel,gettting one of the hardest decision is to totally commit yourself,i guess but waiting too long because you are afraid will not do you good.It is how you deal and anticipate things,when things get rough,you should always learn to open up and communicate immediately,don't let thing passed by just like that,life is a gamble and relationships should always be treasured and it should be handle with care all the time,and always keep the love burning between u and ur partner,u have to do it together and u will see that all your fears will just disappear.Just make sure when u surrender yourself to that person,you are ready for all the circumstances,just always think life is full of surprises,always pray to God that He will give u protection and strengthen ur relationship and He will be with u all the way.Good luck and take care.Wish u all the best,if u think u already find the right person then go for it,don't compare urself to others coz u know who u are.
2007-07-24 05:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by m t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the kids really isn't good either. I think people stay together sometimes out of fear of starting over, there is a comfort in marriage even if the marriage is miserable...as strange as that sounds.The whole it beats being lonely....... Marriage also takes work and if one person fails to work or always blames the other for everything then it can get miserable fast.
2007-07-24 04:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good marriage is not out of luck, it's something that takes work. hard work....
you should wait... but not because marriage is bad, you should wait until you have met the person that you can live with for the rest of your life. it's a decision that should not be taken lightly. you should really know each other before and make sure that you have similar interests and most important similar values.
why should you stay? because marriage is a commitment... you should stay because you love each other and no matter if times are hard, you know you can't imagine spending the rest of your life without them.
children, should never be the reason for you to stay. you main and only reason should be your spouse.
2007-07-24 04:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people stay together for the right reasons:Are in love, became best friends, feel good together....
.....And many others stay together for the not-quite-right reasons:Cheaper living together, waiting for a better option, company, avoid loneliness, fear of social labeling/rejection, social status, money etc...
I'm happy in my marriage, and there's not a hot passion nor deep lust, in our life;
We feel that, strong affection, friendship and Love, is what keep us together,
>>Many ways to bond a couple!
Regards
2007-07-24 05:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to disagree with them ( the majority) on this one! I feel there is nothing more satisfying than to know you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone you love. There is a closeness and security that comes with knowing they are yours and you are theirs. As far as the miserable ones.... there are ups and downs in everything in life..... when you stick around for the "bad" it makes the "good" that much sweeter!
2007-07-24 04:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the kids is as bad a reason as any. They know more than anyone that things aren't working out.
Some people view divorce like we view necrophilia. Money, comfort, love, fear of dying alone, etc. etc.
2007-07-24 05:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all marriages or unhappy. if your spouse is your best friend and understand you then why not stay together? not all marriages or about horror stories. once you find the right person you will understand why some married people prefer to stay together.
2007-07-24 04:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because u love, honor, cherish, care about, trust, and respect that person. They "complete" u and u couldn't imagine ur life b4 u met them and wouldn' want 2 b w/o them ever and the thought of losing them makes u sick in the stomach.
2007-07-24 04:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through a divorce after 30 year marriage, got tired of the physical abuse and mental abuse, would I marry again NO WAY!!!!
2007-07-24 04:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋