Ive had it with his yelling. I know he yells and freaks out over stupid things but Im scared to be alone. I dont have a job so financially I dont know what to do. I have a son who is 17 and I really dont want him to be that way. Im not predjudiced at all but hes short, bald, and Polish. He complains about such trivial things. Im sick to death of it. Help. Im scared of him. He hasnt hit me yet and I dont think he would, but his spazzing out hurts. I dont love him any more. What to do?
2007-07-24 04:28:40 · 26 answers · asked by kel2us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel. I want to leave my Wife but don't know how either.
The hold a long term spouse has on the other spouse is horrendous. I just don't know what to do.
My problem is my wife ignores me basically. No one in the house is more important than she is.
About 4 years ago I got terribly ill and had to be in the hospital. I was there for 7 days and my wife came to be with me 9 hours over 7 days.
Yet I do not know how to leave!!! I am sorry I can not answer your question but I can empathize with you.
2007-07-24 04:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a women group or counciling if you live in fear and are with a maniac just because u dont want to be alone Check out your local agencies for abused women. Which verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical and not as easily seen. U can make it.
I would recommend that you start looking for a job. Why would you want to stir up hell and then live in it or leave your son to feel dads wrath. Money wise you need to be able to take care of yourself. Find a lawer and a job and save your money till you can afford your own place and lights. or if its completely unbareable now ask relatives you can trust about a temporary move until you can get on your feet. When you have a safe place to go for you and your son be honest with you hubby and tell him the cold hard truth.
2007-07-24 04:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel scared, then you should not have to live like that. If you truly believed that he would hit you, then leave immediately. If you feel as though there is a great chance of him not hitting you, then let him know, point blank, that he has you scared. If he brushes you off on this matter, then i think you know what to do. To stay in an abusive (physical or mental) relationship will do nothing to help you, or to help your son to develope into an upstanding young man.
You will continue to withdraw more and more should you remain in this environment as it is. You need to look deeply at this situation, assess the likelihood of him harming you or your son physically, and proceed forward based on that.
Good luck, and please keep all options open as long as they are valid and viable!!
2007-07-24 04:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by wlegend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find yourself a lawyer you feel comfortable with and have them lay out the ground work for you,.. you will be told what you need to do and not do, start making a list of questions to ask.
I too am going through a divorce after 30 years, it's been in court for two years now, sure it takes time but enough is enough!!!
2007-07-24 04:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id wait a couple of months while u get a job and then just bring up divorce to him if he doesn't act sad or anything then get the papers and have him sign it if he apologizes and says lets try to work things out give him about a month and then make up your mind from there and when hes spazzing get in the car and drive to the park and think im sorry things have come to this 4 u but your n my prayers!! :)!!
2007-07-24 04:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by *Josie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS is why I would never be a stay at home mom. You feel like your trapped. Do you have friend that can take you in? You need to get out in the work force and make your own money. If you decide to divorce him you should be awarded child support and alimony as well. I wish you luck and you can do this..it happens everyday.i
2007-07-24 04:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take you and you son to a friend or family's house, stay there till you get a job and can get your own place! Dont stay it will only get worse, dont be afraid to be alone there are so many good men that would love a chance with a smart women like you.
2007-07-24 04:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by I love it here! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough, there is nothing worse then feeling alone except being with someone that makes you feel alone... you will be surprise at how strong you will be when you decide its time to leave, as for your son, its hard to hide fighting and being unhappy from him, he knows whats going on and he wil have more respect for you if you leave, it will teach him how to be a man... how to treat a women and he will love you more for being independant... be strong and if you really want to leave...then leave, dont think of excuses because it will drag on... you can buy a book from chapters :"to good to leave too bad to stay" it helped me alot! goood luck
2007-07-24 04:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're learning the first rule of independence right now. That is, you must be able to support yourself financially.
Time to learn how to work, and empower yourself. You've lived like a child in this marriage. It's time to learn how to be an adult, and that means getting a job. Then you will begin to learn what it is to be a free person in this world.
2007-07-24 04:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you are financially stable it is important that you are emotionally stable! You can seek help from family or friends or even support groups in your area. You can ask for help from the government. Plus if your divorcing him he is forced to pay you. You can have your son start working and help out as well.
2007-07-24 04:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋