So, there is this boy who likes me, and I like him. But, he runs with a crowd of guys who are not the nicest guys and I really don't want to associate with them because of that. I have known these guys for a long, long time and I am not interested in becoming apart of their circle. Not at all.
I feel that if I did date him that there would be issue in the future because I don't really like his friends and that would interfere with our relationship. I feel it would cause unnecessary "drama". and I am not into that at all. I like a good, fun, and enjoyable relationship without any issues - especially silly ones such as that.
I feel it wouldn't work out because of the crowd he runs with. So, I am backing off of him. Am I wrong in my reaction?
2007-07-24 04:28:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, a bird of a feather flock together after all....
2007-07-24 04:31:37 · update #1
Not necessarliy, he will want to go out with a group and his friends would come along. They are not nice at all, and quite mean. I have known them for years.
2007-07-24 04:33:15 · update #2
I just feel not interested now. Thanks to his crowd.
2007-07-24 04:33:41 · update #3
Only question thats not about elections...lol and i like the way you answered my question * i dont know, peace*
Are you wrong? Nope. You're a smart fella, and if your judgement is, being around these people isn't something you feel comfortable with, then go with that. I don't know...wish i knew more about this dating world to give you better advice. You do know, most couple get marry, eventhough they might not get along with their fiancee's family members. Choose the one that will make you happy. ok? later
2007-07-24 15:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being very sensible. If he shows signs of wanting to back off from his unpleasant friends, let him know you are there for him, but don't set yourself up as being the one to force him to choose. You can be a sort of acquaintance, nothing hostile but somewhat distant, and if he asks you why you backed off, be honest (polite, but honest) with him.
The fact is, I've had more promising relationships go sour because of the incompatibility of friends than from anything wrong with the two of us. It has to do with the jealousy that creeps into such circles, the idea that you will take up his time, and they won't see as much of him. Which, since you are not interested in hanging out with them as well, is the plain truth and a justifiable concern on their part. But it's up to him to decide whose friendship is the more valuable.
Don't bad-mouth them, just say they're not your style, things like that. Your line "not the nicest guys" is appropriately gentle, I think.
2007-07-24 04:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did he kiss you. Did he %. up a sign that made him think of you have been involved. And to call him a jerk and overlook approximately him and manage him terrible because of the fact he grew to become right into a foul kisser and you probably did no longer choose him to kiss you. supply me a ruin. sometime karma will chew you interior the ***. And definite you're incorrect, way incorrect.
2016-12-10 20:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always listen to what you hear yourself say inside. Stick with your gut instinct. It never fails you. There is a reason you feel this way. Save yourself the pain and move on to enjoying the company of someone else. Trust yourself.
Best wishes to you!
2007-07-24 04:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Often you can tell a lot about someone by their friends.
It couldn't hurt to tell the guy you like how you feel, and see what he does about it - if anything. You will have risked little and potentially gained a lot.
2007-07-24 04:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you're wrong for writing such a long question and expecting me to read it all..
anyhow, that sounds like a smart choice
2007-07-24 04:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge someone by their friends.
I have friends from all high school cliques, so I can't say I'm just like any of them. You like him, not his friends. If you like him, your probably going to be spending a lot of time with him, not his friends. You aren't wrong for backing off-- you just can't judge him like that imho.
EDIT: Well if you know them, and they are mean, and all he does is hang around them, it would be best to not see him.
2007-07-24 04:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope you have every right to back off as you see need. Your life - your decision.
2007-07-24 04:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he may be different when with you, and may even hang out with them less. Don't back away
2007-07-24 04:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You did the mature and wise thing. Good for you....
2007-07-24 04:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋