He gets mad over stupid things like the food in our pantry isnt lined up according to te food eg. mushrooms, soup etc...All the tupperware doesn't have lids. They are put in a seperate box? Im at my wits end. My son doesnt even like why he yells all the time. Help !!! I need some help !!
2007-07-24 03:46:01 · 32 answers · asked by kel2us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your husband to grow up and start setting an example for your child. If he doesn't like the way you line up your foods or containers, tell him to do it himself.
It's important for your son to see a strong, male figure he can emulate. It sounds like your son could teach your husband some maturity.
2007-07-24 03:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Without knowing more of your situation it's hard to give advice but I'll try....
If you are a stay home mom, it's your responsibility to take care of the home. It's a BIG job. Anyone who says differently has never taken it seriously. It really is the duty of a wife to attempt to please her husband. Is it so hard to line things up and to match lids to Tupperware? It's the little things that mean a lot.
It is also the duty of the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. He needs to be loving and understanding.
If you are working outside the home and have little time to make sure the cans are lined up, speak up and say so. Ask him to help you around the house. Tell him you can't do it all by yourself. If he is loving he will help. IF NOT....
If he is being demanding and egotistical you have more problems than just anger management.
Another note: Many times we have displaced anger. When we have a rotten day we can come home and take it out on the ones we love when we see things aren't done the way we want. It's hard to be understanding and to put up with things but sometimes we have to and sometimes we have to leave an unhealthy relationship.
He may need counseling.. It would be wise for you both to go if that's the case.
2007-07-24 03:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you ever seen that movie,,"Living with the Enemy"??
Your husband needs help! He's cumpulsive nut! When he gets mad,I would tell him If he wants it that way then fix it HIMSELF,but seriously you need to talk about it,,,not good for your son,,it will either make your son just like him,,,or a complete outcast in adulthood,he won't stand up for himself,because of how his father's temper...GET HIM HELP NOW,even if it's an intervention,,,does the rest of the family know how he is???
My cousin is a compulsive person,every little thing in his house has to be put away,,,nothing can be left out anywhere,total spotlessness,like MONK,but if you open his cabinets,everything falls out,it's just a mess,it's scary...good luck!
2007-07-24 03:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering if he's not OC (obsessive, compulsive). Sounds like he is.
If that's the case he does need to go to the doctor, there are medications that can help that.
I know it's hard on you but if he does indeed have OC, it's hard on him too. He probably hates being that way. It's hard to try to be a perfectionist, which is what people with OC try to do. You're never happy with anything.
I know my Father and a friend of mine both have it.
I love them both, but there are times they both drive me crazy. My friend and I can joke about it because she knows she's being difficult and hates being that way.
Other than that, the only thing I can think about is something is really bothering him and it just seems like everything you are doing is making him mad. You need to talk to him about this, if you don't it's only going to get worse.
Good luck :)
2007-07-24 03:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you talked to him about the situation?
Sometimes there are things that you are not aware of. For example, he might be stressed about work, maybe something didn't go well and now he is displacing his anger on you.
I think you should tell him that you don't like it when he screams at you, and ask him why he does it and if there is something on his mind.
Talking is always the best solution. If you keep it bottled up, it's only going to get worse and lead to greater problems.
Hope this helps!
2007-07-24 03:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Panda_Bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got to admit that he's got a problem. (You should try to find the book "Dealbreakers"-- it's got some good advice.)
If he sees that he has a problem and is willing to work on it (anger management classes, therapy), then maybe you have a chance for a decent relationship. If he always blames you and your son for his lack of self control, you need to get out. Don't waste your life in this crazy relationship. He's being completely unreasonable-- this isn't your fault at all and you can't change someone else's behavior; it's up to him.
2007-07-24 03:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he taking steroids? Does he have any conditions that may make him be like this? It sounds like he is a little OCD. You may want to speak to him about this and let him know how it is affecting you and your son. If he continues, there is something called rescue remedy. They sell it at the health food stores. Put a drop in his drink. It will calm him down. Just do not let him know you are giving him that.
2007-07-24 03:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's obviously something that he's upset about but is too reluctant to mention. In turn, then, he displaces this anger in trivial and menial things. This is a common habit of people, especially amongst men. At times, it may become difficult to express feelings about a particular topic, and so, the man will display his frustration in other, seemingly random, ways. I would suggest trying to have a conversation with him in which you really push for him to express his feelings.
2007-07-24 03:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to change his attitude It is amazing to me that women believe that their husbands problem is a result of something they (the wife) has done. As I get older I realize what controlling asses that many men are and how their women blame then selves for creating the problem. That is exactly what most men want. Have the woman blame herself for the controlling behavior of the male.
2007-07-24 03:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has a problem at home and isnt addressing it so it explodes out with silly stuff. you need to sit him down and tell him your concerns especially your sons concerns try to get him to open up a bit! a good test of this is to fix the things he gets mad at - he if still gets mad over anything he definately has more going on.
2007-07-24 03:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by tspoonteddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋