We just marreid last year.He have 17 year old son from his first marreige and he did't want him to no i got pregnant. Because it is too painfull for his son to find out that I'm pregnant.. Which is i'm not happy about it. Sort of thinking what about me. by the way it was unplanned pregnancy......Mutaully I can't get over it still thinking in my head why why............. Please tell me people have i made bad decision?? I feel hurt deep down. My husband have no idea what I'm really thinking......... :(
2007-07-24 02:31:16 · 15 answers · asked by mongol_surf 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is twisted and unnatural for a man to marry a woman and not want her to conceive.
Why did you marry this man? Obviously he has some serious issues with his son and first marriage....and with children in general. A man should protect his child - NOT force his wife to kill it.
You should own up to your responsibility in this act because you could have said no to him and separated from him and had the baby safely.
I know you are feeling really bad but that's what a mother suffers when she loses a child this way. Abortion is NEVER the right choice. I pray that you will find healing and comfort from God and that you will have the strength to get a legal separation from this dangerous man.
2007-07-24 02:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you're feeling so terrible. You pregnancy is yours, and don't let him or anyone ever tell you what to do with it again. This man seems selfish, and please reevaluate your relationship, because he didn't think about your happiness and that is not a sign of a good partner. You have the right to have a baby and if he doesn't want to be a part of it you can still be a mother, just not with that man as a father. There is no reason that you should have had to abort the baby, but please, if you are blessed a second time don't make the same mistake. Good luck.
2007-07-24 09:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Husband sounds very selfish and yes you did make the wrong decision and it cost you your babies life. You will always wonder what if I had it? How old would my baby be? Who would the baby look like? Will the baby smile like me? He didn't even give it a chance! And you know what you guys are married that's why you got married to be happy not to suffer. And so what if he son would of found out that he was having a brother or sister I mean think about it its going to happen right or dont your wants and needs matter? Think about it honey.
2007-07-24 09:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Itz_Mz._Classe_2_U 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to hear this. I wish you would have realized that if you didn't want an abortion you shouldn't have gotten one! No one, not even your husband can MAKE you get an abortion.
Why would it be too painful for your stepson to find out you're pregnant?
I really think you need to talk with your husband and possibly a counselor of some sort.
i wish you the best.
2007-07-24 10:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rossy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion .... he was just thinking about hiss self and about the future , the effect that it will have on you. What goes around comes around twice as bad. For all he knew his son would have been grateful to have a little brother/sister that would look up to him and that he could teach new things to. So the question is he worth shedding innocent blood for.... This is one of those situations that you can't just lay back and watch... you might just take the stand for those who can't. Talk to your husband and see if he is really pleased with the results of hurting you and your unborn child (that didn't have a chance) make him feel like you feel. Nobody should be forced in to anything... Slavery was a long time ago and its time to stand up
2007-07-24 09:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Latisa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should have had a longer sit down talk where you told him exactly what you were feeling. His son is 17 years old, plenty old enough to be understanding in this type of situation. You never know he could have been happy about the pregnancy!
2007-07-24 09:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally your husband is not going to know how you feel because he did not experience it. I have never experienced it, however everyone that I know who has felt the same way as you. You should talk to someone and express your feelings to get them off your chest. You should not sit around and beat yourself up about it. No one can tell you whether your decision was wrong or right. You had to do what was best for you and your situation at the time.
2007-07-24 09:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by dionne e 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he made you kill your baby yes that is a bad decision
he had no right and just to spare his son sadness clearly he picked his son over you his wife. I think he is as low as they come if I was in your shoes I would have left him and raised my child on my own and then I would have forced him to signoff all rights he had towards the child
I can't think of what you must be going through my heart goes out to you.
It will take a while for to get over it.
I think it was still your choice you need to sit and talk to him
and I don't even wanna say what I think of him
but be strong the won't go away but it will get better
and I'm sorry for what he made you do.
Lily
2007-07-24 09:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why your husband thinks that it would be too painful for his son, a child is a blessing. I think he was just putting it on his son so that he didn't have to deal with it himself. You will always regret an abortion, it is never the right decision.
2007-07-24 09:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well what's done is done. And personally, I think your reasons for getting an abortion were pretty dumb. Who cares what the 17 year old thinks?? I wasn't aware he was the one running your lives. You need to talk to your husband or even a therapist. I'm sorry.
2007-07-24 09:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋