i have 3 boys and i really want another child. not just because i want a girl before anyone says that although that would be nice. what do you suggest? i am dreaming of leaving him to have another one. help.
2007-07-24 02:30:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like you are not getting the love and support that you need in your marriage. Is the only love you are able to feel the unconditional love of a new born? Why would you destroy your family to go out and have another child? That is just bizarre. Three kids is a healthy sized family... you should be happy. Don't go off and to something wrong like split up your kids just to have another man's child... You don't need to create another half-brother/half-sister thing for your kids to deal with... it isn't the Brady Bunch... It's Jerry Springer! Be thankful for all that you have, a husband, three boys!!! Sounds pretty good to me. I say get a puppy, or tell your man that you want to try for a girl.... it might help.
2007-07-24 03:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sounding quite selfish right now. I want another child, I have 3 boys, I want to leave him.
You're not considering your husbands feelings on the matter whatsoever. Maybe he has his reasons for not wanting another child, have you thought of that?
My suggestion to get over your overwhelming desperation to "want another child", is to go and hang out with friends and family that do have a baby and maybe your feelings will change.
Don't in anyway cause friction in your marriage just because of "your" needs right now, sounds like at the moment your marriage is pretty good.
You just may regret it in the end and possibly even regret having another child if you end up pregnant now, then where would the child be?.
2007-07-24 02:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very selfish, unbelievable. You have three healthy? I'm assuming, wonderful children and a marriage and a husband to help raise them to be men, and yet because YOU and only YOU want another child, you are willing to rip your family apart and cause heartache on FOUR other people whom you supposedly love? I don't get it at all. Stop being selfish and realize that this is not just about you, it's about the three children you already have and a man with whom you made a committment and vows. I don't know how you could call yourself a good mom in one breath and then the very next say that you dream of ripping apart your family in order to have just one more baby. Get a grip.
2007-07-24 02:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake grow up, 3 is enough, reading between the lines it sounds very much as if you want another child in the hope of having a girl. The World is overpopulated, if every couple had 4 children ( as you want ) the population would double in one generation. Stop being so selfish and conserve your energy for something worthwhile.
2007-07-24 21:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is talk to your husband. See why he doesn't want another child and you two have to come to some sort of understanding. I have 3 boys too and my hubby and I are back and forth about having another one. He wanted one and so did I but he wanted me to have it 2 years after our last but it was too much for me (all of our kids are 2 years apart). Now I want one but he thinks it is too late. We decided that we would become foster parents and/or adopt 1 or 2 more kids that need good homes.
2007-07-24 03:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have issues... getting a kid for the sake of getting a kid is crazy. A child needs a mother AND a father. Yes, divorce is common, but that does NOT make it good. So before getting another child think whether you would be able to provide a caring father for it and also whether while getting another child you leaving your husband won't hurt your other kids.
2007-07-24 02:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be the most selfish thing you could ever do.
You are willing to put the 3 kids you already have through hell just so you can have what your own way?
Do you really want another child or do you just want the attention?
Sometimes, you have to put the best interests of others first.
If you do this, I hope your husband gets custody of the kids. At least he will put them first since you can't.
2007-07-24 02:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is having another child worth your marriage. You have 3 children be happy with that some women cant have one. Now if you didn't have any children and your husband didnt want any and never told you prior to you marrying thats a different story. I sincerely consider you both go to marriage counseling.
2007-07-24 02:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord! Three's enough! Why on earth would you want to bring another child into this world????Think of how much it cost to feed,clothe,and educate a child til they are 18???
Do you know it cost a $100,000 to send a kid to college???
Get a Job,and start a career if three boys are not enough..
You can adopt,you can donate your time to help mentor a child(girl).You need to spend time with those precious three you have already...do you have a nanny or something...???
2007-07-24 02:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have 3 children you already have too many for most households. The bringing of children into the world without the means, either financial or time, to accommodate them is a form of child abuse. You should get counseling.
2007-07-24 02:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by mortpes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋