Is it normal to enjoy being alone?

Question

I enjoy being alone most of the times. i've always been l;ike that. when i was a kid, i liked to paint and draw instead of playing with other kids. when i grew up, i started enjoying spending time with friends. i still enjoy it but not all the time. i hate family gatherings where therez all gossiping and conflicts. I prefer being alone with books, surfing the web, watching tv or sketching. But whenever i tell anyone that i'm alone at home all day they say 'oh i'm so sorry to hear that. that must be so hard. you should have kids. you should join a club. you should do this or that but don't stay alone at home.' i can't tell them how comfortable i feel alone at home coz then i'll sound anti-social and they might think i don't wanna meet people. Is this behavior normal? I developed it years ago when i was the youngest in the house and my siblings were entering teenages when i was born. they loved me a lot but they preferred to hang out with kids their own age.

Answer 1

I don't think theirs anything wrong with it at all, I'm the same way. Not because I don't have friends, but because that's how I choose to be. Socializing is all about pleasure and fun, if being alone gives you more pleasure than so be it. But I do agree with what others have said about not spending too much time alone, because you will eventually find yourself unable to socialize or so increasingly uncomfortable doing so. Don't get me wrong, I do go out and party with my friends occasionally, but not as much as they'd like. I actually think it's a sign of security and self-awareness not to feel the need to "blend in" or follow a crowd to feel whole. Remember, it's not about how you SHOULD feel, it's about how you DO feel.

Answer 2

I have always been the same way. I used to go out every night but I really just enjoy being alone. For my entire life I always have felt awkward in social situations. When I got a job I never really took time to get to know my co-workers, I always said hello and things like that, but as far as lunch breaks go I usually just went to my car and drove around or something. Now I work with a network security team and there really isn't a head office, so I can work on my laptop just about anywhere. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. But guaranteed if I told a doctor everything I just wrote he would prescribe me some sort of pill.

Answer 3

I think its healthy to enjoy time by yourself.
There are two types of alone. Solitude and not being with anyone. Example of not being with anyone like going to a party without a date or friends. Or Shopping alone.
I love to be alone in this manner because it gives me the freedom to mingle with whomever I want . Taking my own sweet time, only worrying about if I am comfortable and content.
I also enjoy just reading or drawing alone.
While those such times are great. I am very social and enjoy company.
It sounds like you enjoy spending time alone more than what is "normal" or average.
As long as you are happy and are not suffering from some type of social anxiety , I see nothing wrong with it.

Answer 4

It is totally normal. I am an only child so I also spent more time alone than most kids who had close in age siblings. I have a husband and son and friends that I spend time with but I also just LOVE to be by myself watching TV, reading or whatever. I think I really need the time alone to get my thoughts together and relax. It is totally normal---everyone is different. Isn't it better than these people who need to be with someone constantly---talking non-stop---that would really freak me out!

Answer 5

I think it is very normal. "I prefer being alone with books, surfing the web, watching tv or sketching." Hey that is exactly how I like to spend my time. I find myself very relaxed and at ease when I am by myself. I think a lot of people just don't know how to be okay with being alone. I love my time to myself. So yeah that behavior is normal ...

Answer 6

Normal?its an art only few can understand and master.People confuse between being' lonely' and 'alone'.Loneliness is a deprivation where as being alone is a choice.It's not really that easy to be alone and at times one has to manage his time effectively to find time to be alone.When alone,you are not lonely .For a starter,you have yourself for the company and host of hobbies and interests to keep you happily occupied.How ever,in your case I can only say that try to balance between being alone and having a reasonable social life,including family get togethers,as they have a kind of right on your time and life.Glad to meet some one after a long time who enjoys being alone.Wish you all the best.

Answer 7

The key word in the question is "enjoy". As long as you are comfortable with it, who cares what other people think? I like being alone sometimes too. I have 2 daughters, so that is rare, but its nice to have time to yourself sometimes. If you were depressed and saying, I hate being alone, then there would be a problem.

Answer 8

Nah nothing wrong with that but why are you home all day? Are you to young to get out and find a job. My tax dollars can only go so far. Its not wrong but life is full of excitment and surfin the web is not that exciting. I have a boring job where all i really have to do is be on here or get fired from sleeping. You need to get out more and mingle. You only live one time and i say enjoy it. A good convesation with a human being is fillin and needed. While its not wrong you like to be alone, you should try to be apart of society.

Answer 9

I prefer being alone and I think that its not abnormal, the older you get. If its anti social its anti social but I lived large as a young man, and now i prefer peace and quiet.

It works for me and I can relate to your comments.

Answer 10

i don't think it's strange to enjoy being alone. i know lots of people with older siblings who just learned to entertain themselves and can spend hours alone. i would much rather be with people, but i do appreciate the occasional day to spend alone, but i have been home alone for two straight days, and i think i might be going insane. i really need to talk to people!