IF you were gettig physically and emotionaly abuse but you didn't feel you had any friends or family that could help you out of the situation. YOu love them and have a baby by them but enough is enough. I just feel stuck I really live paycheck to paycheck. I just need some advice.
2007-07-24 02:27:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, get out, and find a woman's shelter around you, you and the baby need to be safe!!! You and your child are number one right now, if you know no one, then call a shelter in the phone book, and go to one, you need to get out of there as soon as possible!!
Do not even think about him, you need to think about yourself first and your precious child, your child is seeing and hearing all of this abuse your "boyfriend" is putting you through and when your child grows up, he will have issues!!!
Get out now, you need to be instilling positive things in your mind and in your child's mind! Staying where you are at is not the way!
You have a choice and that choice is to get out now!!!
The woman's shelter will supply you with everything you need, childcare, counseling, getting your skills ready for a job so you will be able to live on your own and give you and your child what you both deserve, and most of all safety!!!!!
2007-07-24 02:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest with you... I have NO SYMPATHY for females whom allow themselves to get physically and emotionally abused by someone, whom they think they know and love... ESPECIALLY when you end up having a child, ( and probably did, to make him love you and stop abusing you...) All you all do is try to sound sad, get all the help, advice, and tips someone can throw your way, and in the end, you stay right there, so the help and aide that concerned and sincere people have given you, and the time spent to research and get that information is a total waste cause you didn't want it in the first place.... Just like you learn when you are a child, you know right from wrong... And you know that the situation is dead wrong... He does too... and yes, the brunt of it is his fault, be yes mam, you hold some fault too, because now you've bought a child in your mess... Now you act as if you don't know how to get out or how this happened... "GROW THE HELL UP"....! THIS IS NOT COOL...
The only advice that I will give you, is that you better get up off of your A** and understand that you have a child, and that if you are too SELF CENTERED or IGNORANT to know that he does not love you, understand THAT HE DOES NOT LOVE YOUR CHILD OR YOU FOR THAT MATTER, and you need to get your child and your IGNORANT self out of that situation before The Child Protection Agency gets involved or DEATH occurs...
Take this scenario: He is whoopin' on your a** and you try to run and get away, and what ever the object is (say an ashtray) he throws it, and it missed you and unfortunately hits your child in the right place and your child dies from the injury....
Does that sound funny to you.... ? Does that scream "I love you baby"...? Do you think "He will change" then...? Or will it be too late...? Stop being a dumb a** and get out, and don't ask for help if you know damn well you are going to continue to stay right there...
He will never change, and you can have 1,000 babies, and he's gonna eventually start whooping on their a** too...
I feel sorry for your child, cause he/she has an amazing set of parents..... (NOT)!!!!!!!!
2007-07-24 09:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start saving now. Take a little from each paycheck, and put it where you can get it when you need it. As soon as you have enough for a fresh start, then leave. If there is physical evidence of abuse, go to the police station and get a restraining order against him. There is more help available than you think there is. Abuse is not tolerated! Good Luck!
2007-07-24 09:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are the exact words all abused people speak. I know, I have spoke them. You will be suprised at the family and friends that will pull together to help if you simply speak up. Stand strong and do it or you will weaken every day that goes by. Emotional abuse gets worse with time because it takes all of your strength. Is this the way you want your life to be. Thats the question you need to answer. Pray for a new path honey and you will find it. Bless you.
2007-07-24 09:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by New Nana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you would have to be dead set on leaving and sticking to it. You could go to your local social services and tell them your situation, they should get you out immediately. If you feel you dont have friends or family to turn to go to a church or a crisis center for support, if you dont have the support now you will fall back into his hands, and unfortunatly he make get physically violent with the baby since he knows that's theclosest thing to you. Also you will get help like foodstamps and they can make him pay child support. You can also request his visitation be supervised for the babys sake. If you waste time wondering when would be the best time to leave, well there is no best time you just have to think of the babys sake and get out.
2007-07-24 09:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by butterflygyrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult situation but there is help out there. If you have marks and bruises go to the police dept or your hospital and have it documented. Hear say in court wont hold up. I know from expierence. Look in the phone book for social services or a womans shelter. Get out know before you really get hurt. Do you work? If so tell someone there anyone, a neighboor must know whats going on. Please do something.
2007-07-24 09:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a very clear talk with him in the early morning hours while he is sleeping using his ned alarm clock "The Hammer" to gently wake his *** up. Explain to him how much you love him and being married to him, as he tells you the same while you are rubbing his legs with that new alarm clock. Letting him know that you want the relationship to take a step back before you put to many nails in the..... well you get it.
2007-07-24 16:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by AzNative89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do. You sound like a sensible person and one who knows the score. Go and get on assistance. Rely on every friend or family member you have. Tell them how you feel and ask for their guidance. Get yourself a second job if you have to.
Get out before this destroys you and your child.
2007-07-24 09:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go for professional help and get away from your abuser. You don't want to raise a child in this sad situation.
2007-07-24 09:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try and find some professional advice.
Your situation seems difficult.
I personally would not stand for any abuse!
2007-07-24 09:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋