I went off for a weekend with old friends,just hung out,laughed ,caught up ,did a little drinking and did some dancing.Just innocent fun,but she's upset because I didn't call and check in at night ,we were out pretty late,and that I danced with other women.
The danceing was just friends,just beacuse we did some slow dances and fun dancing where you kind of rub up against each other,it meant nothing,nothing romantic or sexual at all.I love my wife and only her,I've never cheated and never will,but she feels like I did her wrong.
2007-07-24 02:25:24 · 25 answers · asked by sch1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did she know you all would be doing this? Trust is one of those things you do not want to break in a marriage. It takes a while to get back to wear it was before. I guess just suck it up for a bit. She probably will not get over it anytime soon. She may also be PMSing which will make it a little harder on you. Just apologize and then drop it.
2007-07-24 02:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it to you this way, if your wife did what you just did over the weekend and not call you, Can you put past you? Will you accept your wife out dancing, rubbing up against, drinking with other men besides you? If it was such innocent fun why didnt you call your wife. It doesnt matter what time of the day or night it is she should of received a phone call. Going off for the weekend with just guys fishing or golfing is one thing, going out parting in nightclubs and dancing with other women is another. If you and your buddies likes to go out dancing and drinking how about bringing your wives with you. I am most positive if your wife did what you did you would not be so sensible about it. Face it you screwed up. You should apologize big time, and start including your wife on these getaways.
2007-07-24 09:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is worded interesting.
You could have just said dancing but you went further and said slow dancing and rubbing against each other. Hmmm...
If you love your wife so much - why did you leave her home while you went out rubbing against other women?
If those women meant nothing then why could you not break away to call the woman you love? I think we both know the answer to that.
2007-07-24 09:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be hard on your wife maybe the only reason that she is this way is bc she see's how many ppl these days are cheating and running around w/ other ppl while they have a spouse at home. She trustes you but I think she maybe a lil jealous of the fact that you were dancing around w/ another woman and she's thinking the rong way. If I were you I would take her out to dinner tell her I love her and only her even though she already knows that but just a lil reminder.. buy her flowers do something nice to show that u appricate her and u don't wanna hurt her.. It's simple talking is the key to working things out....
2007-07-24 09:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your wife will be able to get through this and put all the petty jealousy aside is if she experiences the same type of evening. After she socialized with old friends, did some slow dancing, and let her hair down she'd appreciate what you have been through and the folly of her suspicions. Oh, one more thing, make sure she doesn't call to let you know how she's doing.
2007-07-24 09:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jim Later 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is this. What if the shoe were on the other foot? What if it were her out late at night dancing and drinking and carrying on, and she never called you?
Wouldn't you be worried too?
She loves you honey, and it is her place to worry and be concerned about your well being. I mean after all, she loves you and you are her life and her heart.
Take a moment and call her...that is all that she is asking.
Blessings n love
2007-07-24 09:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd kill you! You need to grovel, and apologize, and grovel some more. She feels sort of the way you would feel if she did the same -- went out late, danced with other men, rubbed up against them. If you'd be fine with that, why are you married?
2007-07-24 09:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by bonitakale 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if she did that? Slow dancing with other guys? Rubbing her body up on other guys? Staying out all night with her friends?
Come on and get real. Get down on your knees and swear you will never do it again.....and mean it.
2007-07-24 09:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other questions.
So who has the jealousy and insecurity issue? You're really telling us that both of you had the same exact thing happen to you and that both of you reacted with the same jealousy?
Or are you posing the same question over and over again worded differently?
IF you are innocent, then simply look her in the eyes and tell her that you had no thoughts or feelings that you would be ashamed if she knew about them.
Simple as that.
IF you are guilty of something, confess. Simple as that too.
2007-07-24 10:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to accept that you did do her wrong. Its not what you think is wrong, its what she thinks is wrong. You probably would not find her grinding on other men very innocent, if you do then need to reevaluate your thoughts on marriage.
But until you can accept what you did hurt your wife and that it is okay for her to feel that way, she will never get over it, hold a grudge and possible hold this over your head.
Apologize, make her feel loved and cared for and don't EVER do this again.
2007-07-24 09:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋