im 16 and been with my boyfriens 4 5mnths now, were thinking of having a baby?

Question

what are the risks, jst basically need help, what things do i need 2 consider??

Answer 1

Hi,

The feelings that your having (wanting to have a baby) are so intense! We have all been teenagers and have felt the feelings that we have for things. We MUST have that tshirt, We MUST go to that party, We LOVE our friends/boyfriend etc. When your so young and full of hormones everything is so intense, but seriously hun, wait a little while. Enjoy being young. You will regret having a baby now, as you will never have the freedom, and fun that growing up is.
You will also have to be a mum, and be responsible for another life, How are you going to pay the bills? where you gonna live? Have you told your parents?

Just cool off a little bit and weigh up the pros and cons of this decision, you will find very few positives.

Good luck! ;-)

Answer 2

There are lots of things to consider... Your health, your future, your financial well being, your baby's health, and future. You are only 16 and have many, many years ahead of you. If you want to be a good mother from the start, keep a few things in mind... The average child costs $200,000 over the span of 18 years. This does not include college tuition, private schools, designer clothing, amusement parks, vacations, all the things parents want for their children. It is important to get atleast a high school education, as well as real life experience to properly raise a baby. Although babies are cute and fun, they need clothing on their bodies, food in their mouths, and a roof over their heads. In the real world, $8 an hour won't pay for much. With a limited education, you will either be working 60 hours to make ends meet (in which case you won't be spending much time with the baby), or living on welfare, which also does not give you much, and someday may not be available, then what? Baby's need health insurance, which you usually need a full time job to get, and generally it will cost you at least $100 per month. Let's start doing the math... $8/hour x 60 hours = 560/week (including overtime) - $25 (health insurance) - $105 taxes (at a tax rate of 20%) = $430/week. This is approximately $1800 per month. We've already determined a baby costs $200,000 for 18 years, thats $925/ month. So far that leaves you with $875 per month, but you have not made your car payment ($150 for an old car), your car insurance ($80 but probably more since you are only 16), gas for your vehicle ($150/month and thats being generous). You have not clothed or fed yourself at this point. Let's say that will cost you approximately $200/month. If you have a cell phone and would like to stay on the internet, you need to pay. At a cheap rate, you are looking at $60/month. Now you need a place to live... Baby's costs cover some of that, so we'll say you still need a balance of about $200/ month. Without calculating unexpected expenses, like doctor's visits, car maintenance, home maintenance, etc., you have $35 left over each month. That's not much... and you have worked 60 hours each week without spending money on a babysitter which is very expensive, by the way. So your response? dad will work to... remember you are only 16 chances are really good you and baby's daddy won't be together forever.

Answer 3

Most people have stated the risks, but consider this. I had my first kid at 20. I felt like I could handle it no problem, and I do. The thing is I realize now that I should have waited a little longer to give myself time to establish myself. Money and career wise. 16 is young but 4 months is hardly anytime. You really have not been with him long enough to know. Truly Having babies is a wonderful thing, but you need to spend time with yourself and to grow. You still have so much to experience in life. The good and the bad. If you really want to have a baby dont be selfish. Wait until you have a decent career and have been with someone for at least a year or two. It would be unfair to the baby to bring it in a world and you aren't ready to provide. Do you have a car? job? Diploma? Your own place? What about college? Do you plan on going off?

Answer 4

Its so scary to know that this is a reality of our society today. Kids having kids! I feel sorry for the babies. Where are the parents? Obviously they are not raising their kids well enough, so why would their kids do any better raising their own kids?

You need to consider the fact that you would have a kid before your 18. Your boyfriend could be with another girl by then. You would be a single mom "trying" to raise a child in high school.

You may also want to consider the fact that your social life would all be but over. You wouldn't be able to hangout with your friends, go on vacations, get the car you've always wanted or probably wont even be able to go to college. Unless your parents are going to support you and your kid.

Do yourself a favor and wait 10 years when you have finally matured enough to know what responsibilities come along with a life changing event such as the one you are considering. Your young, enjoy life while you can.

Answer 5

You have only been with him 5 months. A baby lasts a lifetime and forever are you connected to that person once you have that child. Think about this: what if he leaves you for another girl? What if he dies? Will you be able to support that child on your own? Think of your future. Some boys get girls pregnant in order to keep them on lock..some females try to get pregnant to keep a man...it doesnt work like that. I'm not saying a child is not a blessing, because they are. The thing is that you havent been in a committed relationship long enough to decide to commit your life to raising another with him. Things to consider would be your age, financial status, relationship, and lots more. Having a baby changes relationships. Its the ultimate test and a lot of men cannot handle it. Why do you think there are so many single mothers. Be smart. Its your body and your life.

Answer 6

I just don't understand why a 16 year old would want to have a baby. Why, why, why? Go to college, get a job, have some more relationships. Trust me, at 16 you only THINK you know it all.

This isn't like a tattoo that you can have removed later or cover up - a baby is for the rest of your life and it is EXPENSIVE!! No more hanging out with your girlfriends, no more going to the mall not unless you have a crying little one with you. Believe you me, not to say anything against your BF, but there won't be anything stopping him from leaving later. You'll be the one left with the responsibility.

Answer 7

ur probably gonna do it anyway and not even consider that its not just u that will have to take care the baby but ur parents will have to care for it as well since ur only 16. So u 2 will be messing up ur lives and ur parents lives as well. That is so selfish with all the single teenage mothers out there that I know u've heard how hard it is for them and u r thinking bout havin a baby..geez use some of the sense u got in ur head...duh..Oh and do u really think ur b/f is gonna be there all the time....yea right my a*s..thats what alot of other girls hear too and as soon as the baby comes and the stress the b/f is out the front door and running...I'm not being mean but I am just telling u the truth....

Answer 8

First of all, you need to step back a realize that you are talking of a PERMANENT LIFE-CHANGING situation. Having a baby is not easy for anyone, much less someone who is still VERY young themselves.

You and your boyfriend need to understand the responsiblity that having a baby would entail. You would be basically GIVING UP your teenage years (which are the best of your life) to raise a child. You would miss out on many things that you have not yet experienced.

I would advise you to talk to someone who had a baby at that age. They would probably tell you that you need to wait until at least you finish school and you both have jobs and a place to live (besides your parents). They would explain to you how all of their other friends were going to parties, movies, spring break, vacations, malls, etc while they were at HOME taking care of a baby.

You have THE REST of your life to raise children. They are wonderful but they are EXPENSIVE and TIME-CONSUMING. Go ahead and experience things that life has to offer you that you couldn't experience with a baby in tow.

If you and your boyfriend are still serious about having a baby in 2-3 years, GO for it!! If he loves you and you love him, it shouldn't be hard to wait. You two should be having fun and enjoying your life right now.

PLEASE reconsider.

Answer 9

Well, first of all, you need to concider that you're still basically a child yourself. Are you ready to get up at all hours of the night? Not have much, if any, time at all to hang out with your friends? How are you going to support your child? What about yoursleves? How willing is your boyfriend to do all these things? How will you fit school into you schedule? Are your parents supportive? What if they're not on board with this idea and refuse to help you?

This is just the tip of the iceberg with things you need to concider when having a child. Others will give you more things to think about.

Answer 10

wow! whats wrong with America! Wanting a baby at 16 prooves you are not mature or educated enough to even think of having a baby! Do you even know the reprocutions of having a child? Do you think your boyfriend will be there for you and the baby? HE WONT! he might say he will, but its only because your giving him some hunny, once your start getting fat he will be looking for the next train to ride and telling people its not his kid! You want to screw your future? You can be sure you wont finish school, you will be on welfare struggling to put food, clothes, toys, ect into your home for your child, welfare wont pay you enough to survive and neither will minimum wage you will earn beacause you dont have a education. What a way to screw yourself and your child. Its a vicious cycle, you will feel depressed and look for someone to validate you, you will start looking for love again and find some guy who can temporarily take care of you and your baby, til you get knocked up again, chances are he will bolt, your back to square one, before you know it youve got 4 kids, are miserable and wow you made your mom and dad so proud! Finish school, continue your education, find a guy who will love you and respect you, get married, get a house, a good job then get pregnant!