i live in illinois i pay the standard % of day care for my son. even though its not stated in the divorce papers (i dont know if that matters) i pay what i belive is 1/2 for day care/baby sitter. my problome is that the ex-wife keeps moving him from day care to privet baby sitter back to day care. each time she does this my cost goes up. i now pay the same amount for day care as i do in child suport. in the past couple years my day care cost have doubled. is there anything i can do about this. my son is curently in a privet home day care that cost about 30% more then a reagulr public day care. dose the father have any say in this or are we at the mercy of the mother?
2007-07-24 01:53:03 · 6 answers · asked by jedidiaha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
typo at the top. i pay the standard % in child suport pluss 1/2 of day care
2007-07-24 01:54:18 · update #1
How old is your son? Their could be many reasons your ex is moving him, non of them financial.If at all possible ask her why and explain that you are worried that he needs consistency in his life, and that you realize she has to work.Again, for the child if at all possible, ask to go and visit the daycae show that you care about your son and are not just throwing money at him. Maybe your schedule avails you to take him some of the times when she is at work, this might cut your bill and bring you closer to him.
2007-07-24 02:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT obligated to pay day care costs unless stipulated in the divorce degree. Apparently you are doing this because you want to do it.
You have a lot to say in this manner and you need to do some changes through the Family Court. The Family Court needs to be aware of this day care costs because you are already paying child support and your percentage is based on your income WHICH didn't include additional money for child care. Contact the court because you might find out that your child support payments will get lower etc.
2007-07-24 09:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say this to you... You can request to go back to court for a modification, so that the child's daycare/ babysitting cost will be included into the current child support payments, and pay nothing extra for those cost... Now I commend you for paying the daycare cost in addition with your child support... Most people that pay child support, pay only that and nothing else.... Or, you can just be firm and put your foot down with your ex and let her know that you will not continue to increase the extra fees (and mind you, you don't have to pay that in addtion to your child support... your CHILD SUPPORT is court ordered, NOT YOUR CHILD CARE) every time she wants to up and change sitters... and make a little note, that maybe she is switching from daycare to daycare, to private sitter to private sitter, because in actuallity she may not be paying... IF YOU DON'T PAY, YO' CHILD CAN'T STAY.. So you may be in fact paying in vain...Or, as far as the private sitter goes, whos to say that that is not a friend of hers, and they are telling you one price, when i all actuallity, it's not even close to the amount that you are giving... You may think you're paying 1/2 and may in fact be paying all or double... Don't get screwed.. I would not give any monies to her... I would only pay in money orders, or checks, and I would pay directly to the State Disbursement Unit (for the child support) and directly to the Daycare for the child care... NO MONEY SHOULD GO IN HER HAND.... Make sure you follow up.... Oh, and to answer your question, if it is not written in your court order (divorce/ child support) you may or may not have any say so in the facility/ or home care service that's chosen for your son... I would pull it out and read it very thouroughly....
Hope this helps...
2007-07-24 09:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In addition to what was stated above, you should ask your ex what the name of the daycare is and start makinc checks out to them. My boyfriend went through the same thing with his ex. Also, if the courts required you to pay a percentage of the child care costs it would be in your papers. My ex is supposed to pay half of all day care fees and it is stated in the papers. Lucky yet not, she doesn't have a job (so she milks the child support) so he doesn't pay for alot of day care. Good luck!
2007-07-24 09:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Day care (2 year old) is $800 per month per child in this Tampa bay area. You pay even if you keep the child home. Factors pushing the cost of this type of care upward include regulations, higher cost of everything, and double income families.
2007-07-24 10:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by mortpes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In addition to what the others have said you should also find out which daycare/private babysitter she is using and request to see the contract and the cost exactly.You may have to act as if you're interested in their services to gain the information you need. If it is a friend then you may be screwed because they may lie for your ex.
2007-07-24 10:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋