how do i tell my friend nicely that shes getting fat?

Question

i love my best friends to death but yesterday i was hanging out with one of them, when she reached up to get something and i saw that shes getting a gut!!!! it was so nasty i almost puked. She used to be really thin and attractive. shes still okay but not if she doesnt lose weight soon. how do i tell her nicely that shes getting fat? I love her to death and shes my best friend for life, but i have a reputation at my school for only hanging out with the best looking ppl, and I cant be seen with some fatty. should i just be honest with her and tell her if she doesnt go on a diet we cant be friends anymore?? this is so hard

whatev!! Im not being mean 2 her. I care abt her and dont want her to get teased because she's becoming a fatass. she used to be like 100 lbs and it looks like shes like 110-115 or something. idk but its gross. i dont want her 2 get teased for bein fat but i also dont want to get teased for being friends with some fat girl. I love this girl! this is hard for me ok?? if shed just lose some weight it wouldnt be a problem !!!!!

FYI - my body is like almost perfect right now, so if i started to get fat (which will never happen, ew!!!) id want someone to tell me !!!!! then i could do something about it b4 i got gross and disgusting. id be a bad friend if i just let her get fat without telling her.

Answer 1

if i was your friend i would say your a little ***** and you better snap out of it and pull your head out of your ----or we wont be friends anymore.....

Answer 2

your body is not perfect is growing. just as your friend you will wake up on morning soon and see you have gained like 10 lbs seemingly overnight. its called puberty little girl. your body has to put on weight to grow breasts and curve the hips for later in life 115 lbs at 13 is very healthy your friend is not fat. shes maturing something you really need to do before you hit high school. you are in for a world of hurt if you dont change before then, you will be dumped by those so called boyfriends and those so called bffs will desert you too.grow up little girl. the nicole richie body time is not cool its sick disgusting and very dangerous. wake up little girl nicole lindsay paris and britney are not role models they are despicable get a clue real quick before your 30 300lbs with 50 cats and no friends your headed straight for that life right now change your ways

Answer 3

WOW..... never in my life have I heard such a horrible, mean, self centered, narsacistic, egotistical, bratty, selfish, uncaring, NON FRIENDLY, things to say about someone thats supposed to be your BEST friend! Forgive me for saying so, but your no friend at all! A TRUE FRIEND, would not care about her reputation, or what other people thought about her or who she keeps friends with! If you yourself had any kind of self esteem you wouldn't be bothered by other people and what they thought about you! The real issue is that you have no real values in life if the only thing you care about is what people will say if your friend gains weight! If you truely cared about her, you wouldn't care about other peoples opinions of her or your friendship with someone over weight! Thats very shallow!! Honestley you don't deserve her as a friend, I hope she see's through your facade, and dumps you before you can do any real damage to her self esteem, I'm sure she's feeling a little self concious anyways without an ugly little girl like you to help bring her down!!! Stick to what you know, Bullshit, selfishness, and YOU, YOU, YOU!!!!!

Answer 4

Don't tell her. She is already aware of her situation. If you are close to her parents, talk to them to see what you can do to support your friend without making your friend feel more insecure about their weight. Also, if your idea of a body image is skinny, thin, then you need to realize that all people are not this way. To get physically sick to almost puke is not looking at life in a healthy way either by being repulsed by a friend who has gained some weight. Before you can help your friend, you may need to address your ideas of the "ideal" figure may need to be changed.

Answer 5

You don't! If she is your friend you love her and support her no matter what - I'm willing to be she knows she has gotten heavier. If you dropped her just because she gained some weight then you were never a true friend to begin with. You won't be in school more than a few years, and even though you may think that it is the most important thing - it isn't. In the real world nobody cares what you were like in school or who you hung out with. Have a heart and just keep your mouth shut. How mean can you be?

Answer 6

sorry, but you are a terrible friend.
you are extremely conceited.
if you really loved her that much, and she was your best friend,
you wouldn't care what she looked like.
its what's on the inside that counts.
and i and not saying that b/c i am fat, cuz i am not, i weigh 86 pounds.
and even if i weighed 300 pounds, my friends wudnt care.
and by the way, 115 pounds isn't very much.
get a life
i hope you get fat and weigh 300 lbs and grow up alone
because you obviously only care about your rep and not your "friends".
id like to see a picture of this "fatass friend" of yours.

Answer 7

It dosen't sound like your being a good friend...Who cares if she's getting fat or not?
Your also sounding a bit immature saying you have a 'Reputation' and only hang out with the 'Best looking people' and saying that if she dosen't go on a diet you can't be friends with her...wtf is that about.
Seriously it should be your friend ditching you and finding better friends.

By the way...It's always the skinny girls who end up fat when they're older.

Answer 8

wow/?
i didn't know that now u pick a best friend only by how he looks.................very smart!!!
Well if u hang with her only because she is skinny like u then she is not Ur best friend and u don't really care for her.
Can u see that soon as something happened that u don't like it.......her weight u already don't want other people to see u with her,,, and that's very wrong.
I think if she is really Ur friend u wouldn't care about it.
If u talk to her about it u mite hurt her feelings, i mean u can tell her like a friend to a friend, but not that u not gonna hang with her if she is not gonna loose weight.
Mite as well just tell her u don't want to be friends at all, not because of that.
And please, think that it's really bad to care what other people think of u and who u with. Maybe one day u will have a friend that will do the same to u? HUH?
And i can't believe u say it's so hard for u!!!
How about Ur friend, how u think she is going to feel?

Answer 9

if you love your friend to death then you shouldn't be getting rid of her for being fat friends come in all shapes and sizes and you best think about your friends feelings over having a certain reputation. When I was in high school I didn't hang with any of the clicks I always hung with the younger crowds

Answer 10

I really hope your friends know that you're this shallow and go find a better friend. If you really were a good friend, it wouldn't matter if they were purple with orange spots and bright green hair. Have you never heard the saying " It's what's on the inside that counts"? If all you care about is how people look, then I feel deeply sorry for you.

Answer 11

Wow! I can't believe you can be that mean. If you can't hang out with her because you think she's fat then SHE NEEDS TO FIND A NEW BEST FRIEND because you're definitely not it! Put yourself in her place. How would you feel if someone came to you, told you that you were fat, and said if you didn't lose weight than they couldn't hang out with you? What if you were the ugly one? I just don't understand girls and how they can be so vicious!

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