He may think that you should all ready know. You're the one he married, afterall.
I understand how you feel. I'm in the same position and when I bring it, all he ever says is "you should all ready know."
It doesn't matter if he doesn't compliment you, he still loves you, and it should never be a race as to who can say I love you first. But I understand your frustration.
The only advice I can give you is not to make something out of nothing. You are the love of his life.
2007-07-24 03:51:22
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answered by JMC 3
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sometimes people whether they be he or she , have some difficulties expressing themselves to people they like or love. it might have been easy for him to say a positive remark about a stranger as the stranger is a nobody to him while you're not. of course, there might also be a possibility that you have not been taking care of yourself properly that to tell you youre beautiful is an overstatement. dont get me wrong, im not trying to put you down but unfortunately i have talked to a lot of people (both males and females alike) who do not see a point looking after themselves after getting married. then of course there is the reality that love has somewhat simmered down or worse, is in the process of dying. it is possible to fall out of love with someone whom you have been for a long time. the best option i can think of is to talk to your husband. be open to suggestions and dont be resentful if he does say something that can be considered hurtful. im not saying to be meek about the whole thing. but 2 people talking at the same time wont get u anywhere. listen to be listened. you can both try to work on this before this little friction worsens. remember, you dont have to live your life unappreciated. hope this helps
2007-07-24 07:24:16
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answered by blah blah 5
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Sometimes people are thinker then we would like, give it some time, if you havent already and bring it up again. Stress how important it is for him to show you that he thinks your attractive now and again and how much it would make you day if he showed you that he loved you, be it words, cards, flowers, a suprise date, whatever. Being somewhat flexible like this may help encourage him to find a way to express it that is both his way and clearly understood by you. Be careful though, when you start putting too much scripted expectations on others and do not accept them for who they are then you place them in a position where they can never meet your expectations. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-24 07:13:57
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answered by Anonymous
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I have been with my husband for 23 years...I think that if I could come up with an answer for you ...I will blame it on a "guy thing!" My husband "never" tells me either ..but I know he loves me and I "know" that Im not "ugly" because when I go out..men whistle at me...The best I've ever gotten from my husband is...when we do go out and I dress up and look "good"...he will go as far as to say..you really look "nice"....NICE???? What ever happened to the word "hot or pretty or beautiful?? I dont know..but I really dont sweat the small stuff..I know that I look good...other men still look at me..which does do something for "the confidence..lol.." and I just dont worry about it any more! I know that he loves me and thats all that matters to me. I wish you good luck..I kinda doubt it if he will tell you...let me ask you a question...most men do what their fathers do...does his dad tell his mom that she is beautiful or pretty? Think about that one...God Bless!
2007-07-24 07:22:14
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answered by Anonymous
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I agree w/ another comment someone just left...men sometimes do what their fathers do, yet, my brother is nothing like my dad, lol! My brother is a jerk and is now divorced! My dad has been married 40 plus years. I know one thing, our son will be taught how to treat a lady...=). Just tell your husband how you feel about the comment he made about the other lady on TV. See what happens from there. Good Luck!
2007-07-24 07:39:26
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answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6
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Casey honey, 8 hours ago you asked a similar question and got 34 responses some good some not so good. Are you not at all happy with any of them that you feel the need to ask again?
2007-07-24 07:24:01
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answered by Anonymous
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If he is aware how much this matters, but still won't make the effort then I would wonder why. It isn't that difficult if you do, in fact, love someone, to tell them in words, and actions how you feel. Especially if you know how important it is to the other person. good luck
2007-07-24 07:24:13
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answered by NinjenWV 4
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You are too hung up on your looks. Who wants to live the rest of their life with an insecure woman like you? Think about it.
2007-07-24 08:11:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Youth is sexy, hot and daring, he may have become rusty because of the day-in day-out scedule and he could be finding it hard to say those words once again, not because he doesn't want to or forgets to, but because it's really really hard for him to find the 'right' moment to tell you he loves you.
Don't wait for it, think of ways to create it.
2007-07-24 07:19:15
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answered by Sam 1
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If he hasn't been doing it and you have to" remind" him to say these things then chances are he won't.Maybe he feels you should know how he feels about you.I know what you mean tho. A woman needs to hear these things from her husband. Hugs.
2007-07-24 07:16:15
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answered by lillulu460 4
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