in the space of 2 months, they were both negative influences in my life but it does'nt stop me feeling awful.I have a long lonely drive ahead of me today, what can I do to get through this "blue" day, how can I think positive and stop missing them and feeling like I've nothing to look forward to?
2007-07-23 23:48:15 · 15 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmmmm.... I don't know in what respect you lost your friend and your partner but the same kind of thing happened to me a couple of years ago.
My partner of 10 years decided to leave me for my best friend. I never saw it happening. It was a total shock. I guess I'm still a bit shocked.
The never ending nights where I used to get all of 1-2 hours sleep a night. Trying to read a book was impossible - I'd read 2-3 pages then realise I hadn't actually read any of them (I couldn't remember the pages I had just read). The days where I couldn't go walking in the countryside, just simply cos I knew I'd breakdown and cry. It went on for months. I still think about both of them to this day..... I still feel anger etc, although I can manage it so much better nowadays. Also, time does heal wounds - to a certain degree, the pain does recede. Thankfully.
Just hang on in there!!! Theres a light at the end of that tunnel, just take your time to recover.
2007-07-24 01:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by John H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember everyone has their blue days and its ok. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just let it out. Watch a girly film, or listen to something sad and have a cry to yourself, no one need ever know. Then when you have let it all out, make a list of 5 things that are great about you and repeat them over to yourself everytime you feel down.
Also make a list of things you've always wanted to do and start planning how to do this. Having something to do and look forward to is half the battle
2007-07-24 06:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jo C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey.
Firstly, it's OK to miss people, even if they haven't been good for you. Don't feel guilty about missing them.
Have you ever had flu? You feel like you're NEVER gonna get better. But of course, you do. It's the same with feeling down, it WILL start to feel a bit better soon.
While you're driving, make a mental list of all the people or things that make you smile. And have a hug from a passing bear... that always helps!
x
2007-07-24 06:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by nev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good food, lots of vegetables and fruites, drinks mint tea, cammomile tea, to relax you. It is funny but that is all about. Go sport, try anything you like. If water gives you a better feeling, be more in watery environmet, if mountain dioes well, be there, or if sun does your favor, be there too. Try to know your self this time. Its a good time to neutralize eveerything. The lonely feeling and the negative situation you have now actually is an illution. Dont let your energy and focus to build a ' sirene' you be spread to things like this.
2007-07-24 07:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by tresyabedkowska 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to get over something like this. Have you had any counselling? If not go and have a chat with your doctor today. It will help a little just to talk to someone and he'll make an appointment for you with the right person.
Surround yourself with friends aswell. Being by yourself makes you think more and you'll end up more depressed.
2007-07-24 06:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my partner in 1995 it was hard for me but I now I had
to go on so when I was sad ..I would think about all the good times we had and that would make me cry then laugh then
I stop and think he wouldn't want me to be sad he would want me
to be happy and do some of the things we talked about doing
you will never stop missing them some days you'll miss them
more then other but that's okay. If you think positive and do the
best you can in your life you'll be ok
2007-07-24 07:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww babes everyone has those kinda days, things will get better I promise you, all I can offer to help is a huge <<<<<<<<
Come on, flash them teeth and give us a smile :-) x
2007-07-24 07:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny, you sound like me..Well concentrate on the good. Think back before your relationship, what really made you happy or interested you. Thats what I have to do..sometimes the future doesnt seem so bright, so I reflect back on what I've done that worked before or refected on my accomplishments that really meant something to me. Hope this helps.
2007-07-24 07:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by thetruthmatters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you are not divorcing my wife
It's murder!!!!!
Keep your chin up and try walking in the park ,I find drinking lots of water and eating healthy foods helps
Good luck Matey !
2007-07-24 07:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Spitfire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont think about the bad times try and think about the good times i ve been there it hert at 1st but it will sort its self/ you can always mke new friend and find an new partner
2007-07-24 09:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by tripp1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋