Do all transsexuals want to go all the way and have full SRS or are some happy to only go some of the way?
I am about to transition. The most important thing to me is to appear as a female therefore breast augmentation, facial femmisation is far more important than SRS.
I saw a programe and a girl was saying she was quite happy to remain pre-op. I am so keen to pass as a girl but for example if I had a boyfriend that did not want me to remove "my bits" I would really consider keeping them.
2007-07-23 23:47:10 · 13 answers · asked by Laura 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Not all Transsexuals go for SRS and ultimately it really depends on what you are comfortable with.
Ok having said that I'm now going to level with you because I think you may not realise what you could be up against and it's better that you hear it from someone who is moderately sympathetic.
One point that you should consider carefully is that many people (myself included I am ashamed to say) do find people who are neither fully male or female quite disturbing. That certainly doesn't make it wrong but it could make your life more complex and maybe even more dangerous as you are likely to come up against prejudice some of which could be fairly unpleasant.
I guess what I am trying to say is that while we all have to be comfortable with ourselves we also do have to live in a world shared with others and sometimes it pays to try to conform to accepted physical norms at least to some extent.
You say you want to pass as a girl. Well, without wishing to hurt you, to my mind speaking as a Lesbian, anyone who hasn't got the right girly bits down below doesn't pass the most fundamental physical test and qualify as female at all! In my eyes if you still have the dangly bits then you are regrettably still 100% male and I don't care how girly you make your face or chest look. I'm honestly not trying to offend you here but it is better that you realise what you will be up against if you go for this half and half solution now.
Some Lesbians and males don't even accept people who have had surgery but I'm more open minded than many on that point. I would certainly have no problem dating a post-op TS (and in fact I have already done so) but I would never ever touch a pre-op I am afraid.
My point is that if you really do want to pass properly then you can't really expect to do that all of the time if you still have bulges in some of the wrong places.
Also I really don't think that you should allow your boyfriend's preferences to be the determining factor. People are notoriously fickle and ultimately it has to be what YOU are comfortable with that counts.
Finally having dated a post-op TS I would say don't rush into Breast Augmentation... wait a bit and see what nature develops for you naturally when you go on hormones. You may be pleasantly surprised and a natural breast is always nicer to feel than a silcone one.
Anyway that is my twopence worth. What ever you do decide I hope you will be happy with it. But make it YOUR decision and not your current boyfriends.
2007-07-24 09:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Laura I can only tell you how it is for me since I am after srs. I don't think it will matter in the end what your future boyfriend is going to think. Because it always boils down to what you feel.
For example, when I was pre-op I had same feeling but then some one toke the time to investigate what I rely turned on and turned out to be girls. So take the time it takes and don't let anyone push you in anyway, this change is about you and what you feel inside. And no boy or girl is going to change that.
2007-07-24 00:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela S 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not all transsexuals want to have SRS. Some even can't have it due to medical problems. But there are plenty of transsexual women out there that chose to be non-op. Its a personal decision and there's nothing wrong with either direction you choose.
2007-07-24 04:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone needs to go through with SRS. Many people are satisfied with living full time and being on the hormones. It all depends upon what you actually want. You desire in life is paramount.
2007-07-24 02:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes not all people go for full SRS. I would say go as far as you feel comfortable with. I guess you might also be constrained by money.
Yes guys like me would prefer you to be 100% passed as a girl and keep your bits but at the end of the day it is up to you.
2007-07-23 23:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Graeme 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Transsexuals often settle in where they feel comfortable. Some don't even take hormones, while others just take hormones, and others get SRS. Where ever you are able to live comfortably is where you should settle in.
2007-07-24 12:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of some that are happy pre-op. As for myself, I can't do that. Expressing myself in every way, including sexually, is very important for me. I identify as lesbian, so to express myself sexually that way, I kinda need to change the plumbing.
2007-07-24 02:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's what you are comf. with! A personal thing, where the poll and opinions do not really work!
Can't ask a few people how much sugar in your tea, before deciding for yourself how much sugar, because it's your tea, your taste!
2007-07-23 23:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
most trannies stay preop , because the surgerys a little risky , plus some who get it arent pleased w the result . And the result is final . Something to think over carefully .
2007-07-24 13:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well what if you and your boyfriend break up? not to sound like a downer but you should be doing what you feel and want, not what a boyfriend wants.
2007-07-23 23:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋