i stoped taking the pill in june this year, and i felt better in my self, and my skin was looking better, and now my bf wants me back on the pill, but he tryed to blackmail me at the weekend, saying that if i dont go back on the pill, he wants anal sex which i dont like,
so i said i will go back on the pill, but my boobs dont hurt anymore coz im not on the pill, and he wont use condoms which are now a waste of money!!!
2007-07-23 22:39:42 · 33 answers · asked by saralouise_uk2002 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
we have been together for 7 years this christmas, we have been living together for 7 months,
we dont want kids at the moment, as we cant afford it.
2007-07-23 22:45:29 · update #1
Dump this loser! How unreasonable is he?!
If you feel better then he shouldn't force you to take the pill knowing it makes you feel crap.
You can get free condoms at family planning clinics.
Better still, find a better boyfriend.
2007-07-23 22:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Emma W 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My girlfriend has been on the pill for quite some time. When we went to the doctors for the monthly shot, we discovered that the pill can actually make you lose bone density in the long run. Hearing this made me worry what was going to happen to her later in the future, so we looked at other options. She ended up deciding to to take the ring.
Couple weeks later, we had sex while having that weird ring in her. It does not feel the same as the pill but i feel more secure that there are less chances of having health problems for her in the future.
Overall, I suggest you tell your bf to do whatever is the best interest for you. Pill or no pill, he should be more concern on your health problems than his own benefits.
(girlfriend's interest + Boyfriends concerns = more sex for boyfriend) i would say...
2007-07-23 23:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bigboi924 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend it's clear that this guy is not ready for any babies. I'm sure you are not too.... Besides if he loves you he will respect your decision and start using condoms. Instead of you feeling uncomfortable taking the pill and you actually look better than what you looked like when you were on the pill. You are the one going through all this pain not him, so he has no clue of what sort of pain you are going through.
He is just thinking of enjoying himself and not worried about how you feeling.
In relationships there is give and take.
You need to put your foot down. No protection! No Sex!
Or else your are going to be left pregnant.
Wake up girl..
2007-07-23 22:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by BaBy CaKes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its your choice, don't let your boyfriend bully you into going back on the pill. He is not the one that suffers from painful boobs so he has NO right to tell you what you should and shouldn't do. If anything he should be happy that you feel better because you are no longer taking it.
Explain to him how you feel and that you don't want to go back on the pill and that the two of you will have to use alternative contraception methods as he will not use a condom.
Why don't you go and see your doctor and explain this to him or her and they will be able to offer you advice and let you know about the alternatives methods on offer to you.
I know that you have been together for 7 years but that is no excuse for him to bully you and as you don't like anal sex tell him that you don't don't let him force you to do it. And if he says things such as if you love me you would, just use the argument back at him
2007-07-24 02:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi
I think your partner is being selfish!
In the short-term:
I would tell him that if he doesn't want to wear a condom then he's not having sex!
In the long-term:
I would speak to your doctor about other methods of contraception such as the contraception injection or IUD (coil).
In the mean time:
Do not allow your partner to bully and blackmail you into having anal sex or going back on the pill. If doesn't care about you physical well being he is a first class prat!
2007-07-25 10:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by AG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely not! If you don't want to go on the pill you do not go on the pill, simple as! If he loves and respects you he would want you to be comfortable and feel good about yourself and wouldn't be so selfish to blackmail you. Do not go back on the pill if you don't want to, suggest alternative ways of contraception such as coil, etc, and if you don't fancy any of them stick to condoms. I really don't think he should blackmail you like that so tell him is either condoms [or whatever type of birth control you decided to you] or no sex at all. Its really unfair of him to treat you like that, and if I was you I would talk to him and tel him how he made you feel, how its unacceptable, as he may not have realised how wrong he was being. He may then learn that he has to respect you and your decision to not be on the pill.
2007-07-23 22:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by fairyyy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try a different form of contraception - like the implant, or contraceptive jags, or a coil
go to your family planning and discuss options other than the pill
however if ur boyfriend is blackmailing you he doesn't sound like a very nice guy and u would maybe be better off without him
2007-07-23 22:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by lou0810 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I would say is do things that your heart says. If you start doing things for other people, will you be happy in the end, if yes, then go with the flow.
Also, I would say that your bodyfriend is being very selfish not even considering your feelings as well.
But the best decision will come from you. People will always be here to give advise but finally you would be the one who has to make the best decision for yourself.
Good Luck.
2007-07-23 22:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
collect his things from around the house and leave them outside in bin liners while you change the locks!
he obviously doesnt care for you and your well-being s why should you care for his?!
if he has nowhere to go thats his problem, he shouldve thought about that before he disrespected you!
he cant make you do anything that you dont want to do because thats rape even if it is anal rather than vaginal. just tell him that your not going to have sex with him at all if he doesnt wear a rubber (if you must stay with him!)
im sure he'll make the decision for you then if you dont want to do it yourself. he'll do 1 of 2 things - sleep with someone else; or wear a rubber with you! if he does 1. he doesnt give a dam about you!
best of luck!
2007-07-26 01:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya i don't think that u should go back on the pill for him it has it's health risks and don't let him blackmail u either personaaly i'd dump the insensitive swine find a proper man who's willing to sort this without blackmail good luck you deserve better xx
2007-07-27 02:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by susan w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋