i have been dating my pastor 4 a while...
i m not in love with him, but he is with me...
he wants to marry me, but im in love with someone else.. that someone else, i havent seen in months, but i want to b with him and im waiting for him. i dont want to b with someone i dont love but i dont want to make a big mistake rejecting who God has for me..im not sure if he is the one.
b/c im not in love with him does that mean hes not the one?
how many of u married a man u werent in love with and y?
2007-07-23 22:01:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people say love comes after..
so should i marry him even if i dont love him?
2007-07-23 22:06:43 · update #1
Don't marry him. Just because he is a man of god doesnt mean you have to marry him. If your not in love with him then he is definitely not the one. If you have problems telling him that you dont want to marry him, just tell him that your not in love with him.
2007-07-23 22:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by HITMAN 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you lead him on, this is how women get bad name. You are like the dog with the bone but don;t want the bone and don;t want the other dog with it. Why would you do this, God don't like ugly you might loss all around because if you married the pastor and don't love him, you will live a miserable life and not only that God will wipe you my dear. More then likely the other guy don't want you and I don't feel sorry for you . I really hate the way your selfish *** took so much of this man time and wasted it when he could have been with some one who really cares for him. What you want sympathy no you won't get it from me. What you need to do is put your head in a d--- hole or go hide. While you were walking around thinking you was all that because he choose to date you, you knew you should have said no. too bad he didn't know he didn't have anything when he started dating you.
2007-07-23 22:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by BLUE 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be naive! the person God wants you to be with is not that pastor. not because he is a pastor means he is the right one. the one God will send for you, both of you will be head over heels in love without question.
Marriage is a very big step so unless you plan to marry someone you are not in-love with and get divorced in a couple years then tell the pastor the truth.
I don't think we are the ones you should be asking about this my suggestion is Get on your knees and pray God will give you the right answer.
2007-07-23 22:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by trudy b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOO Look here just because he is a pastor doesn't mean God put this man in your life it doesn't mean you have to marry him.. If you don't love him you should not be dating him at all.. if you can't be with the one you love the best thing is for you to get over this man before you think of another relationship, If you can't find love with your pastor don't waste his time, I am assuming this pastor is single.. well anyways don' t waste his time let him know and look elsewhere his true love. take time for your self you will find love again.. good luck.
2007-07-24 00:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could you lead him on, that's how women individuals get undesirable call. you're like the dogs with the bone yet don;t choose the bone and don;t choose the different dogs with it. Why could you are trying this, God do unlike gruesome you're able to be able to loss all around because of the fact in case you married the pastor and don't love him, you will stay a depressing existence and not in basic terms that God will wipe you my expensive. extra then possibly the different guy do no longer choose you and that i do no longer sense sorry for you . i rather hate the way your egocentric *** took lots of this guy time and wasted it whilst he could have been with some individual who rather cares for him. What you go with sympathy no you will no longer get it from me. What you need to do is positioned your head in a d--- hollow or bypass conceal. mutually as you have been strolling around questioning you grew to become into all that because of the fact he decide for to this element you, you knew you need to have pronounced no. too undesirable he did no longer understand he did no longer have something whilst he started out courting you.
2016-12-10 20:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, if you want to be happy for the rest of your life. Just because the Pastor has big friends in high places doesnt mean hes your soul mate and that hes your love answer> In very extremely rare cases does love grow after marrying if it wasnt there to begin with, like in pre-arranged marriages. You have to be true to yourself or youll be miserable and that does no one any good so follow your heart.
2007-07-23 22:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pain and simple, if you dont love him, DO NOT marry him. He deserves the truth. Kindly &simply. tell him the truth. Youre not over an old flame... dont be untruthful to the man just because of "who he works for" .. Be kind, be a friend.. but dont string him on.
2007-07-23 22:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Pam W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with someone else then why are you dating him? You are being unfaithful to both men and it sounds like you should just let them both go before they get hurt. God does not choose who you spend your life with, you do. If God controlled your life you would not be in the situation you are in now.
2007-07-23 22:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by sweetangelgreeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him don't marry him, you'll just end up miserable and full of resentment which is eventually going to make him miserable too. You both deserve to be with someone you love who loves you back
2007-07-23 22:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Purdycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you don't have to marry him if you don't love him.and there is nothing like love comes after, love actually should be there for you to consider marriage.
i suggest you talk to him about your feeling and am sure as a pastor he will understand.
2007-07-23 22:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by black&proud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋