One night my fiance and I had a bad fight. I went online and was telling my best friend about it. My best friend asked me if I really loved my fiance and I said "sometimes Im not sure". I only said this because I was very upset at the time. I didnt mean it. Ever since I said this my friend has been convinced that I shouldn't marry my fiance. I keep telling him that I was just upset when I said that and I do in fact love my fiance very much. He won't listen to me. He says things like "why haven't you married him already?". The reason is because I am still planning my wedding but he is convinced its because I don't love my fiance. What can I do? I'm sick of this.
2007-07-23 21:56:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, you're a little fed up. You need to readjust your situation, first of all you don't tell any close friend about you and your fiance's arguments, because we live in a world where divorce rate is very high in the country (I'm assuming you're from the US) so when two people don't get along they go off to the divorce court for a no fault divorce-which is usually set off by some stupid argument over something really dumb.
You need to learn on how to work through your own insecurities and realize that once you get married (if you should decide to) then your world doesn't become perfect, you now have a mate that will help you through life. It's not that being single is bad, or that you're incomplete when you're single it's just that married people now have a balance in their lives.
Don't think that married life isn't work, because it's a different type of work that you do. My suggestion to you is this is a lesson you should learn. Don't hang your dirty laundry out so other people can see it. If you're arguing with your significant other, then leave it between you and him. That's what a relationship is about trust and communication! Not drama!
2007-07-23 22:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already planted the seed in your friends head that you are not ready for marriage when you made the comment. Just dont discuss it with him anymore and if he continues to make comments about it just tell him to drop it and leave it alone. Only you and your fiance know for sure if you are really ready for marriage. If you have questions, go to your pastor, reverend, etc. for a little counseling session to ease your mind.
2007-07-24 05:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by sweetangelgreeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, watch what you say and who you say it to when you're upset. Secondly, do what you think is right...if you say you love him then proceed. Marriage isn't perfect by any means. There are usually lots of fights until you get used to each other and start communicating and making effective compromises.
2007-07-24 04:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sound like your best friend has a thing for you. look in to your soul and you will know your true feelings and trust them.
2007-07-24 05:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by butler000001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend wants you for himself.
2007-07-24 04:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ignore him when he goes on about it, he'll get bored eventually.
2007-07-24 04:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Purdycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋