My friend had a 5150 psychiatric hold put on her that turned into a 5250 hold because she tried to committ suicide after her husband found out about her third affair in less than 2 yrs.
The details about the affair are gritty and heartbreaking because we've known each other for 10 yrs and we're both 19 yrs old now. My friend has been married for 4 yrs to a man she's been living with since she was 12y/o. He's 8yrs older. They have 3 kids together.
My problem comes with how this affects our friendship. Apparently my friend took her 2yr old twin daughters with her to meet this man she met off of the phone chat and she had sex with him while her children were being watched by who knows!
I find this fact disgusting and I don't really know how I should treat my friend after she gets out of the mental institution. Is this friendship worth keeping with someone who might relaspe. I don't want to abandon her at her time of need.
Should I keep the friendship?
2007-07-23 20:30:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Looks like she got involved in a sexual relationship to young and doesn't know how to get out of it. Don't turn your back on her! Her parents should of taught her better and not let her be with someone at such a young age. She is mentally damaged for life!! The best thing you can do is help her recover and help her put her life back together. People do strange things during a mental break down, don't hold it against her. Learn about her illness and be there to support her. You are her friend and should be there at all times, you should not judge her mistakes, but help pick up the pieces so she doesn't do it again. Good luck and may god be with all of you!
2007-07-23 20:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by *star chick* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl's head was messed up by an adult at age 12. She should have been able to live a normal 12 year old's life instead of being with someone at that young age. That is probably why she is acting up so badly now. Hopefully she will get her head together by working with the therapist there and continuing therapy after she leaves. It is not her fault. She was a child being taken advantage of by an adult. Please try to stand by her, and help her through this. It will be very difficult for her to work this out. You can't change in a few days, what has happened over the last 7 years. It will take time. She is not thinking like a mature adult, because she was never allowed to experience the things that it takes to grow into a mature responsible adult. Her life was taken away from her at such a young age, that she is trying to recapture it now. Just be patient and offer as much help as you can to help her make the change she needs in her life. She is lucky to have a friend like you.
2007-07-24 03:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you love her as a friend but she need to find another friend because you need to move on with your life. Say you hope she can learn from her past and wish her well but you need a better environment to grow up in. Change your phone number and if she comes around again then walk away from her and go some where until she leaves. To bad the police or authority never stepped in to stop her from getting married to him or having kids with such a loser, This can only end in tragedy and then it maybe harder for you to cope with.
2007-07-24 03:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by mrftball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you are in a very difficult situation and at a young age too, it all depends on how much you are prepared to take onto your hands in the end, if you care about this person a lot but are scared that your friendship with her might ruin your life, then consider, is she really worth it? if she is mentally ill and cannot control what she does it is a tremendous burden for you to bear! doesnt she have a family to care for her or anyone else? it is a very hard and painful situation and it all depends on if you are prepared to take this person under your wing, i would advise you to stay friends with her, but not be responsible or let her be dependant on you.
2007-07-24 03:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by mischief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I totally disagree with her taking the kids along...it's not up to you to judge her. We all make mistakes. I'd just be there for her if I were you. Sounds like she could really use a friend right about now.
2007-07-24 05:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by brutally honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes continue. that will be the great punishment for her
2007-07-24 03:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋