Okay, I have two friends, I'll call them John and Jane, who have been going out for a little over two years. Jane has considered breaking up with him over the past few weeks, but one of the things stopping her is that she's scared he might kill himself. When my girlfriend (Jane's best friend) told me this, I didn't think John was the suicidal type. I've known him for about 7 months, and he doesn't seem the type at all. But my girlfriend said that John told Jane that one time he was dumped, he cut himself. He also owns a gun, and one time he old Jane he felt like shooting himself.
In a nutshell, I think that if Jane doesn't want to be with him, then she shouldn't be forced to. But this whole "suicide" thing is scaring her into staying with him. What can I, as a friend, do to help?
2007-07-23 20:19:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is using emotional blackmail.
He is desperate and does not want to lose his girlfriend.
He will say anything to frighten her, so that she wont break up with him. Yes he could hurt himself if she breaks up with him.
But he is not her responsibility. She should although contact his family members if she thinks he would harm himself.
She needs to beak off this toxic relationship. She will never have a solid one with this guy. She needs to do it in a fast and kind way. Just DO IT. Then don't have any contact with him what-so-ever. He will continue to use verbal Blackmail if she stays in contact with him.
If he calls her and says I am going to kill myself. She needs to call the police.
I wish I could help more.
But simply the best solution would be, just break it off and do not have any contact with him.
~faith
2007-07-23 22:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know what to tell you...this situation is tricky but you just never know but what sucks is that what if he wasn't the type and you guys misjudged him or worse he did take his life because of a break up...maybe go to a therapist or a psychologist and ask on ways to deal with this...i'm sorry and good luck - hope everything ends well
2007-07-24 03:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋