My husband is on a business trip in Raleigh until Friday (he left yesterday) and I told him to call me at 7:45 am, 12:35 pm and 10:00 pm. Well he has called on time since he left, except for tonight. He called at 10:07 pm and I asked him why he called so late, and he said he had been in the shower. He called me 7 minutes late. Do you think he was with a prostitute or something or a co worker? Is he cheating?
2007-07-23 18:54:36 · 53 answers · asked by Kassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, there is no other issues in our marriage, but I'm a perfectionist, and well, anything thats not ... how I want it ... when I want it ... bothers me. In this case I assume he might be cheating since he knows I like everything on time ... but he didn't call on time.
2007-07-23 19:05:45 · update #1
He hasn't cheated before.
2007-07-23 21:38:10 · update #2
I don't think he is cheating if he is keeping that tight of a schedual to call you. There has to be a deeper issue of why you think he is cheating??? has he done it before??? keep in mind not to say your hubby is but if a man wants to cheat he will find away to cheat no matter what times you tell him to call. for all you know he could have a secret meet up at midnight. you cant watch some one 24 hours a day so you really wouldnt know. like i said there has to be something more behind this question. you have to have a reason to feel that way??? if all else you could always buy a nanny cam and force him to take that around with him. seems to be the trend now a days to watch not just your kids but spy on your spouse. but those 7 min he was probly in the shower...but i couldnt tell you for sure what he did later that night.
2007-07-23 19:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be so paranoid ... sorry... it's just you should have more faith in the one you love. If he hasn't done anything in the past then why worry so much over something like that. If you dwell on it and constantly accuse ( not saying you are) then you could possibly push him into doing it out of misery. Just because he calls seven minutes late doesn't mean he is cheating. He probably was just taking a shower. Don't dwell over what you can't control it only makes matters far worse it makes you miserable and it can hurt your relationship. To much of that is not a good thing
2007-07-23 19:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by beautiful tragedy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was only 7 minutes late. What is wrong with that just because he called you on time the time and not this one you are accusing him of cheating. Well. the only reason I can see you accusing him of cheating is because he has done it before or you are the one that is cheating and is finding an excuse to argue with him for something that you are doing yourself. But if you have expect this for sometime even before the trip then it is possible that he is cheating but I do not think it is on the trip. Find something on him before you accuse him you could be wrong and is just paranoid.
2007-07-23 19:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o my good 7 minits maby their was trafic where he was or something that held him up 4 7 minits i dont mean 2 be mean but its kinda dumb u want him 2 call u like 3 times a day ..if hes their on business he needs 2 work and the long he spends talking 2 u the longer he has 2 stay where ever he was ....so back 2 the question no i dont think he is cheating but just 2 be sure bring him 2 the marry show lol
2007-07-23 18:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too worried for nothing. It will get you down. It is always easy to miss the time especially 7 minutes.
It is more important to build up a strong relationship.
If he is really cheating, there will usually be many more things you can observe. There are many good books written on this. The latest is Cheat Sweeper which has many good reviews. If it will give you peace of mind, then read this book.
But most important of all is not to let all these bog you down.
2007-07-23 19:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ann101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He called 7 minutes late. To me that looks like nothing is going on. I don't think its fair to your husband for you to think he is cheating based on the fact that he called 7 minutes late!! You seem like an insecure person. I don't get it??? Where do you get the idea that he is cheating based on time? if he really wanted to cheat he would have done it any time of the day. Stop driving yourself crazy by thinking that way. Unless you see him or have hard evidense than I would worry. Relax...You gain nothing by policing him and trying to catch him. You only stress yourself out and be unhappy. If he is cheating on you it will come out and you don't even have to search for evidense. If you love him you will trust him. Men don't like jelous women. They hate it and its a turn off. You are pushing him away if you accuse him or treat him the way you do. Relax and give him all the love and support. The day he takes advantage, kick him to the curve.
2007-07-23 19:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the information you have provided, no. Jeez! Now, if there is a history of this, then you should already know.
I must say, the fact that you gave him such specific times, makes me wonder if there is a history of this or if you're just always paranoid. If there is no history of this, you're going to drive him mad! If he's never committed an offense before, please save your marriage from certain destruction and get some help.
I just checked your additional details because I was really curious. You need help. What makes you think that what you want matters more than your husband's sanity? Either he has issues as well (like an abusive mother) or he's going to get tired of this garbage.
2007-07-23 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by CUrias 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
does he wear his watch in the shower, bc if he doesn't, then he is not cheating... he's just lost track of time... now if he does wear the watch, well then you should just jump to conclusions... it is possible to not call on time, and if he was cheating on you, he didn't have to call you seven minutes late, he could've called at any time and come up with an excuse? what would he have done, see the call and then rush the person out of the room? i think that you need to look deeper into this problem to see if it really is a problem at all...
2007-07-23 19:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seven minutes late? After he had to call you three times today. Don't worry, he's not cheating on you. But if he knows what's good for him he will leave you before you go "Fatal Attraction" on him. If you love him you need to let up a little and not be so needy and insecure. 7 minutes is not late. an hour maybe.
2007-07-23 19:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on just these facts, I wouldn't think so. But if your husband has cheated on you before, or if he has a history of spending business trips with prostitutes, or if he already knows that you suspect him of cheating and still does not check in on time, then I might consider it. Sounds like a difficult position for you to be in. Good luck.
2007-07-23 19:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by serious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋