This is my second marriage and his too. He has 3 grown up children, I have 1. We have none together.
2007-07-23 18:03:37 · 35 answers · asked by sheila 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Reading through all answers this morning I will try to clarify a few things
I will be 50 this year, and feel marriage should be stuck at, things may get better.
But living like this is not nice, for all of us.
Clearly I thought he was great when I married him. This 'sorry' thing is because of how I feel.
2007-07-24 09:32:09 · update #1
life is to short to stay with someone you don't love.The best thing to do is to try to part as friends.Ask yourself why do you fell sorry for him and if it was turned around would he fell sorry for you or would he make your life worse?Compassion is good, but not knowing the reason it's hard to say.I will say everyone is in control of their own destiny.If he jumped off the roof would you follow because you fell sorry for him?What would that accomplish.You both would be hurt or dead.Guess what he just put you down to his level.Misery loves company. You have to make a choice live or be miserable. YOU are in control of your destiny you have to decide.Be happy or be lifeless.Think about what it is doing to your child.If your not happy your child will suffer as well.Unless you can turn the hands of time back to when you did love him.Things wont get better they will get worse. Good Luck. You wont to fell sorry for someone think about all the men and women who have given their lives in battle they didn't get a second chance to find happiness.Think about it.
2007-07-23 18:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by BETTY T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel sorry for him? Is something wrong? You love him? If you are his wife, should do do everything in yoru power to make him happy. Find out what you can do. Until you see that you cannot work it out, and there is nothing left to work, then think of divorce. Confront him and tell him you are considering this. You both have grown children, so i assume none live at home? Try and bring the romance back. THat is what marriage is about, even through the tough times. BEst wishes!
2007-07-23 18:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the reason you married him? Do you still recall the reason why you loved him in the 1st place? Think it over.... If you divorced him, wont you miss him? Is living with him really irks you? Sometimes, married couples undergo dry spells, the feeling of love or romance wores off after a few years, but loving someone really must not be based on the feeling that you have for him... Its more of the companionship, adventure, misadventure, trials you had with him. When we get old, you'll find out that its not really the romantic love that is important... its more of the companionship you've gone thru life together...
2007-07-23 18:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by jbuen O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know how you feel, maybe he feels the same way too and you guys can end your marriage amicably.
If he doesn't feel that way, maybe you should hear him out. Are there things that haven't been said that should? Why don't you love your husband anymore?
I don't think it all of a sudden happened, there had to have been a series of events leading up to this point. Have you discussed them? Have you had help solving these issues?
Why are you giving up?
2007-07-23 18:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay or go depends on what made you feel that you don't love your husband any more in the first place, is it worth ending a marriage over it, does he know you don't anymore. If what is causing you not to love anymore can be fix then why go.
2007-07-23 18:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by J1 M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave and don't get married again until you are sure that you have respect for him. It's hard to have respect for someone you feel sorry for like that. It isn't your fault that you don't but next time make sure you look for an individual that is not in need of your pity and you will be much happier.
2007-07-23 18:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about what is going on with you.
Don't just stay with someone just because you feel sorry for them. It will only make you miserable and the person that you are with as well.
If counseling don't help you, then you may have to call it quits again, and hopefully just learn from your mistakes.
2007-07-23 18:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly speaking... think about the more damage you will do..living a lie. As sorry as you feel, this is the worst way to go... like.. if you stay... he would be happy. but not you. its good to know you dont have children with him. but have yours and he has his... it makes it so much easier. im just saying.. life and love doesnt have to be about pleasin everyone... sometimes you need to think about your own happiness.. and this is something you have to think about hard on. its either both happy or nothing at all..in this case.. you're not happy. it better to leave then to stay and live unhappily... good luck with that.
2007-07-23 18:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not stay. Would you want your spouse to stay only because they felt sorry for you? I do believe that you should be prepared to walk away with very little from the marriage because you broke your vows. Why screw up what he has worked for by breaking your promise?
2007-07-23 18:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by L W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay only if you think the marriage can and will work. Otherwise, you'd better move on with your life for the sake of your own happiness. Dont worry, he will eventually get over it.
2007-07-23 18:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋