Could my mother in law be my foster parent?

Question

im 15 years old and i have a 2 week old daughter ...during my whole pregnancy my parents abused me mentally they wanted me to abort and they made my life a living hell! i contacted CPS and they told me if that continues they were going to have to put me in a foster home...things calmed down when i was around 8 months pregnant..when i had my child things became worse my parents dont let my boyfriend see my daughter and he threathens me that if i lend him my daughter hes going to report that i mistreat my own daughter and they threathen to take custody of my own daughter...they still continue to tell me negative stuff my mom even scratched me because i was going to call the police!
well the point is that my mother in law wants me to report all this again to the cps for them to take me to a foster home so they could take custody of me...do you think thats possible?

Answer 1

all you have to do is go to the police department or CPS with some items and your baby. or atleast just your baby and they will take care of you from there. Your boyfriends mother can easily take custudy of you in time after investigations are finished. I'm praying for you. Good luck and try to keep you and your baby safe.

Answer 2

No, I don't think it is. Foster families are a specific thing. Not anyone can become a foster parent anytime they want to. Foster parents go through applications, home studies, months of preperation to become foster parents.

If CPS already told you that they were going to put you in a foster home if it continued, and you report it again, you will go to a regular foster home--like what I said above. You won't (probably) get to chose where you go.

You need to go about them getting custody of you some other way. If you try to become emancipated, no one needs custody of you--you are considered legally an adult. I'm not sure on the laws about mothers and emancipation. I would think really hard about that beforehand. Of course, as a legal adult, your parents won't be obligated to support you in any way. Are you able to take care of yourself financially? Are you boyfriends parents willing to support you financially--even if the two of you were to break up?

Now, is your boyfriend your daughter's father? I don't understand "lending" a baby. If he is the father, that's called being a parent and he has the right to see his daughter. If he isn't the father, why would you "lend" him your daughter? Why would he want to "borrow" her? I'm a bit confused on that and have to say that I agree. Your daughter is only two weeks old. She needs her mom--you.

In any case, do they have the right to take custody of your daughter? So they call and report you for mistreating her? What are they going to say? That you're having someone babysit? Um, people do that all the time and it is not considered mistreating. Is there more to the story here?

Your first consideration (beginning two weeks ago and for the rest of you life) should be what's best for your daughter. Not your parents. Not your boyfriend. Not even you. Is it best for her that you emancipate yourself and become responsible for all the finances in your life? Is it best that she be living in a foster home? I just have to say right now, if your boyfriend isn't her father...just forget it. You are 15 years old, you will have tons of boyfriends come and go over the next 18 years probably. It's not good for your daughter to have father figures come in and out of her life. Date him as usual and leave her out of it (I know I ranted, but I feel strongly about this). Okay. Is it best that your daughter stays in the situation she's in now? It is bad for a child to be raised in an abusive environment. It's a big decision. I feel for you having to make it.

Sorry this got long and I sounded mean at times, but I very much hope everything turns out for the best. Good luck.

Answer 3

Not sure about child protection laws in Texas. I've heard some horror stories about Texas keeping kids in prisons when legally they don't need to be there. Sometimes the police and child welfare systems are "corrupt." If I were you I would ask to speak with an administrator at the child welfare agency. This is somebody who is ABOVE A SUPERVISOR LEVEL. Explain you are skeptical about your rights and can you meet with them face to face before you verbally agree to anything. Demand copies of anything you sign in writing. If you don't know what you are signing, don't sign anything until the court appoints you a lawyer. I don't care what anybody tells you, children under 18 in the child welfare system have the right to be represented by a GUARDIAN AD LITEM (a lawyer). Don't worry you won't have to pay them. Think and weigh your options before you agree to anything. You don't want to end up at a Christian group home (really a work camp) until you are 18, while your baby gets to go live with your boyfriends mother, do you?

Answer 4

Please call CPS. Let them find you a safe place to be with your daughter. If your boyfriend is already making threats it doesn't sound like his mother's home would be a safe and healthy environment for the baby. He can also be charged with rape because of your age and it is unlikely CPS would approve the placement. You have rights as a parent. Contact an agency that deals with teen parents and find out all your options. Don't go from one bad situation to another.

Answer 5

Check your state laws. In many states a minor is automatically emancipated when they become a parent. That means that you can leave and live on your own, if you have the means. You are legally responsible for your child, not your mom. You can let her live with your b/f and his mom if you think your life or your baby's life or well-being is at stake.

Answer 6

Are you married? Because she is only your mother in law IF you are married otherwise she is just your boyfriends mother. If you are married you are emmancipated and can move out on your own.

I would go to CPS with your boyfriends mother and discuss it with them. She may get permission depending upon their homelife. They will probably have to do a homestudy to ensure her home is safe for you.

You could also attempt to emmancipate yourself through the courts and be on your own, which would allow you to live with your boyfriends family. You can get a court order of emmancipation through the courts.

I would definately get out of that situation dear either way though because obviously you are not safe. It is not good for your daughter either. Both of you need a more stable environment.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best.

Answer 7

This varies from state to state...but since you are a parent, you could become legally emancipated from your parents. This would mean as far as the system is concerned you are an "adult." Then you could move in with your boyfriend's family and your parent's wouldn't be able to take any legal measures to prevent you from doing so.

Check this link for your state's info:
http://www.jlc.org/index.php/factsheets/emancipationus

Answer 8

ok she isn't your mother in law if you were married this wouldn't be an issue. if they are found to be unfit as parents you would most likely be put in the care of one of your family members however if there is no one willing to take you in they may consider this. however i think you would have a hard time convincing them to let you shack up with your boyfriend. if this would be a possibility you would have to have your own room and they will check up so you would actually have to stay in it.

Answer 9

Go talk to a lawyer maybe emancipation is in order to handle this situation, but to answer this specific question yes if the state says she is fit and she fills out all the paperwork to do this. she can then at that point take you in.

Answer 10

Your 15 and you have a mother in law. Where is your husband..?

Mostly at 15 you could have someone become your guardian, not foster parent..