I feel like if a man REALLY loves his wife... No "other woman" would even stand a chance. Because he would refuse to give anyone a chance with him. Explain this to me?
2007-07-23 17:40:51 · 27 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No explanaion needed, you have the answer in your question. He should decline any offers. It's kinda part of the whole, Vow/Marriage thing. I guess they forget that, but I agree with you.
2007-07-23 17:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm not a man, but I would assume it is because sex is not love and doesn't have to be about love. Both men and women can have lots and lots of sex without caring about the other except physically. So, to say that just because he loves his spouse he will not be sexually attracted to another is mad.
He does it with this natural fact about sex and the selfishness required to have an affair: either a belief that he won't get caught and therefore will not hurt his wife (what she doesn't know won't hurt her) or an inability to truly understand what pains he would be causing his wife by breaking a promise of monogamy, he could do this.
Now, one must wonder if someone with his level of selfishness is capable of love. He may think he loves his wife, he may even feel something he believes is love, but this is not a question I can answer. His cheated spouse will know best whether or not he loves her, as one can only tell true love by being loved.
2007-07-24 00:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, really good question. I have always wondered about this. I am 38 and I still don't know but here is my best guess. First most men (not all) can separate sex from love much more easily then most (not all) women. The reason they can do this I think is because a man is still biologically wired to populate the earth as much as he can. From way back when we were not swarming this earth like cockroaches. Now based on that assumption, you also have to see that is how come women like bigger, more symmetrical and wealthier men. They have better provider potential. Anyway that is what I am telling myself...
2007-07-24 00:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man, but I can confidently say that I can answer your question with accuracy. Men have affairs because they want sex with no emotional strings attached. And also sometimes if a relationship is going bad- your man is going to yearn for the fun you guys used to have and try to recreate it himself. A man can say that he loves the woman he's with and truly mean it because when they go outside of their relationship to have sex, chances are, he doesn't love the woman he's cheating with!
2007-07-24 00:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'll amswer your question with a question. If a woman only has two feet why does she need 52 pairs of shoes? Sex is sex, straight f----ing. Making love means your putting some emotion in it and men aren't emotional creatures. Men are like the male lion--do nothing but if some rogue male lion moves in on his pride, he will defend it to his death. Men would love a pride of women, but society frowns upon it.
2007-07-24 01:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are not animals. If a man truly loves his woman there is no temptation. You are right. It works both ways, I can't stand a woman who says she loves you and whores around because she just didn't feel loved back. That would be my ex. Am I jaded....yeah.
2007-07-24 00:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mike D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone be it man or woman who has an affair cannot say that they love their spouse, to loves means not to cause hurt and ou will be hurting the one you say you love, therefore you don't love this person.
2007-07-24 01:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by uwigrad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he wasn't cheating with his heart, a heart loves something, other parts lust for things, be it bacon or sex. Physical affairs are never as bad as emotional affairs, its when the man starts to love the new girl that he is actually cheating. Physicality is simply that physicality.
2007-07-25 00:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by cynical 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is separate from Sex. People get confused by that sometimes. You think you have to love someone to have sex with them. But we forget about one night stands. I can love someones personality but not their sexuality. Or in a growing number cases one sexual partner is not enough to maintain a healthy sexual appetite for one person. The Man or Woman can LOVE their spouse but feel ashamed by their sexual needs so they seek it outside their relationship. Worst case is that they get bored and are trying to end the relationship.
2007-07-24 01:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Hayven 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys r not willing it comes to them. Girls have been offered sex since the age of 13. A guy is not that smart wit choices like that
2007-07-24 00:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not a man but i think i can answer... a man can lov his wife simply because shes the mother of his children , she takes care of him, cooks, cleans for him, always there for him.as all men need..and as we know women tend to let themselves go after marrage.. so the man can have a lover , and love the her equally if not more. maybe its not her he loves , its usually whats missing...THE FIRE !im not saying its right.. but its happening all the time...
2007-07-24 01:18:07 · answer #11 · answered by figure v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋