I've been in a committed relationship for almost eight years--I'm in my late 30s--and I also sometimes have trouble getting wet. While I enjoy sex, I'm not desperate for it. So, is this a symptom of age, of needing a shot of SOMETHING in my relationship, or what? It could also be that my boyfriend prefers sex in the morning.
Does anyone else have problems like this?
2007-07-23 16:37:02 · 5 answers · asked by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well I'm over 30 (by 20yrs) and have had the same problem for a while.
There are a lot of things that can cause all of the things you discribe
Stress is a big one, work, family, finances ect
Medical. menopause will cause the sex drive to drop and a whole host of other things making sex just down right uncomfortable! Age would go in this category as age and menopause go hand and hand Medications can have adverse affects.. read the fine print on your RX's you would be anmazed!
Preferences... sometimes you just don't need or want it as much as your partner does....he likes in in the AM you don't and so you are mentally not ready cuz well frankly your a bit p/o'd cuz he had the odesity to wake you up for this??? (just a example K! lol) you know that old joke from "When Harry Met Sally"
he says we have sex only 2-3 times a weeks so she must fridged and she says that because he wants it 2-3 times a week he's must be a sex maniac!
Some times the "shot in the arm" is all it takes..
ever see the Pictorial Kama Sutra?? interesting reading!! lol
2007-07-29 14:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ramoth41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I'm not over thirty but I have had problems like this sue to meds I've been on before! So check out that possibility! Also you may be experiencing pre-menopause symptoms!
Try new things it never hurts in a relationship no matter if there are problems or not! Just use lube! Good luck with great sex!
PS Sex in the morning totally turns me off! Personal preference!
2007-07-23 16:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by KB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women of any age have this problem.
Sometimes it's got to do with your feelings about your relationship, try going to some couples counseling, go alone if your significant other won't go. But also, sometimes it's just physical, your body is saying it's time to slow down, you can get around this with some lube. It also might be that you're not getting enough foreplay, in that case you either need to take your pleasure in your own hands beforehand, or tell your hubby what's going on.
2007-07-31 12:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think all women go through cycles of being turned on and it fluctuates with your period, your stress level, the house needing to be cleaned, how aggravated you are at him, anything. I notice myself that my times of wanting sex are erratic, or even wanting to bother with it, because it will get me sweaty or tired. Oh, I enjoy it tremendously but sometimes I just don't feel like it right now. Relax, talk to him about it, try to explain it rather than say not now. He probably will not understand but at least you tried. Guys don't think the way we do, and he assume you don't want him anymore, or whatever guys think. Good luck.
2007-07-30 04:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am well over 30. part of it is hormones, part boredom. a little spice never hurt anything. morning sex is a personal preference. when you aren't in the mood you aren't in the mood. it isn't an age thing.
2007-07-29 12:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by wishbone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋