Ok, this is a very serious question, not a joke, not trying to be dirty, so please--serious, helpful answers only :) My boyfriend and I are 100% sure we want to stay together, and we are 100% sure we DO NOT want children. As of right now I am on the pill, but i am not satisfied with it, and I definitely do not want to have the girl surgery (tubes tied or whatever). We have discussed considering the possibilty of him getting a vasectomy, and we want to know more. Please, anyone who knows about it, share your info with me. Does it hurt? bad? how long does it take? what about recovery time? how much $$? what is sex like afterward--any difference? how accurate is it? thanks in advance to all who give me good legit answers.
2007-07-23 16:22:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
thank you so much to everyone who has already answered! many of the answers have been very helpful! trust me, he is old enough and has 3 kids already, and i just know 100% i do not want children. i do not want my tubes tied, because i am severely, mortally terrified of doctors, and medical procedures. I mean, it is bad. I may just be a big baby but I have been know to pass out at the sight of my blood going up a tube.....anyways, thanks again for the answers, help, and support!! hope i get even more answers! :)
2007-07-24 09:59:35 · update #1
A vasectomy is nearly painless, quick, safe and very routine procedure. I had one done at the first of the year and have had no difference in performance, libido, etc.
A vasectomy is going to give you the highest probability of avoiding pregnancy of any form of birth control. It is important for him to go in after the procedure with a semen sample so they can do an analysis and make sure that the everything went as it was suppose to.
As for the procedure itself, I had a no scalpel, no needle procedure. The dr. used a compressed air local anasthetic on my scrotum, just below the penis to numb the area. A special tool makes a small incision, less than a centimeter. He then fishes out the tubes the deliver sperm into your ejaculate, cuts them, cauterizes them and you're done. We talked about college football during the whole procedure.
Afterwards, it's important to spend a day or two sitting on your butt with an ice pack on your crotch to keep any swelling from happening, but I didn't have any discomfort. Procedure was done on Saturday, I was back to work on Monday. No sex for 1 week.
Couldn't be easier.
oh, and for the woman who suggested timing your intercourse around your period to avoid pregnancy, there's a word to describe people who use this method of birth control: Parents.
2007-07-23 17:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rum R 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are both 100% sure you do not want children now or in the future nor with each other or any other possible partner then pernment steps are a good option. However, depending on your age you may find this to be difficult as most doctors will not do the surgery before 30, and are even more relunctant to do it on single people. I know it isn't fair and you should know best what you want but they are afraid of being sued if you should change your mind. I have talked to a few guys who have had a vascetomy and it is not bad at all. Desn't take long and causes some swelling and pain for a day or two thats about it then everything returns to normal and nothing is different then before. I do wonder why you say you do not want your tubes tied is it because you want to keep your options open or because it is a much more involved process. If you are concerned about the process I have a friend who just had what they call the Essure procedure. It sounds great, they did it in the doctors office with almost no pain, and she was able to walk out on her own and just about resume all her normal activities. She couldn't be happier. You might want to look it up on the internet for more information.
2007-07-23 18:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend other options before either of you having a procedure to prevent child birth. Vasectomy is a pretty permanent action. To answer your question. The process is very uncomfortable, worst part is when the doctor has to inject the Novocaine into the testicle. Having the procedure on a Friday is best, that way you have the weekend to recover. Ice will be your best friend. Once everything heals intercourse is normal. Oh by the way make sure your boyfriend is willing to go into the lab and leave a sample. FYI most doctors will not even do the procedure until your 26.
2007-07-23 16:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ellie. Glad to see you have received good answers so far. I can share my experience and maybe it will help.
First the good news...
The basic procedure is quick and inexpensive. It takes about 30 minutes and costs about $600. Some insurance companies will even cover it. He'll get a nice little prescription of pain killer. Sex months after is exactly the same, you'll notice no difference.
The bad...
It was the one of the most uncomfortable 10 minutes of my life. They give you a shot, of course, to dull the pain, but the shot itself... far from pain free, my friend. If he has the option of being twilighted I'd recommend it. Then for the next 2 to 3 days it felt like I'd been kicked HARD several times square in the nuts. Have you seen the scene in the latest James Bond movie? It's kind of like that. For me personally, there was some occasional discomfort for about 2 to 3 months after.
The surprise...
A year and a half later... I was a father again! YEP! No bull... it somehow reversed itself. The second time they did the procedure on me, they put me under and did it in the hospital operating room. Doc said I was one of the 1 percenters. Just thought you'd ought to know! (FYI - my wife got fixed too after that!)
Check out my 360 page and you can see the pictures of Mr. Miracle Boy (Nathan.)
So there ya go. I hoped that helped a little bit. If your boyfriend gets the procedure done, make sure he goes back at least twice to be checked before unprotected sex and periodically thereafter.
Good luck, God Bless.
2007-07-25 04:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by todvango 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A vasectomy is a very reliable procedure. The whole procedure takes about 15-30 minutes, and that's only because they have to wait on the anesthesia to kick in. They start by sanitizing the genitals, and give a local injection of anesthetic, usually at the base of the scrotum. Once the area is numb, one incision is made, and this cuts off access of the sperm. The doctor will apply some anti-bacterial ointment, pack on some gauze and bandages, and you get to go home. Just go easy for a day or to, and don't try intercourse for at least a week. Sexual preformance is completely unaffected, and is nearly 100% effective. Make sure to follow up with the doctor in a week or two.
2007-07-23 16:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on choosing “childfree”. There is no better lifestyle. It is a lifestyle for strong positive people, that like to get out and to things. My girlfriend and I are, and we love it!
A vasectomy is a “peace of cake”. It only takes about 15 min. It might hurt a little for about two days. You will be having sex again in about a week. I had mine done on a Friday afternoon. I drove myself home, and was back to work on Monday.
The pain, is much less than that of getting a tatoo, or a body piercing.
A vasectomy 99.5% reliable. It is also the cheapest birth control known. It does not carry risk, like the pill does for women.
Sex does not change at all. Nothing will be noticeable. I know this because I had mine 20 years ago, when I was 21. If anything was going to change, it would have by now.
If you go to a non-profit clinic, then the cost will be about $600. If he gets it done at a urologist, using health insurance, the cost will likely be under $100.
If he is in his 20’s, then he will have to lie, claiming that he has two kids. No that is not the law. It is just hat the clinics have their own brand of morals that they will force on you. I had to do so, or the clinic would have refused me.
2007-07-24 01:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A vasectomy is a out patient procedure, is not to painful and there should be no difference with sex. I don't think it's too expensive. I'm not sure if you have to be a certain age without children before a Dr will do the procedure. Remember to think long and hard before you something like that
2007-07-23 16:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
many men get them and say it's not too bad...you didn't say why you're not satisfied with the pill...if you are having sex and not pregnant, then the pills must be working...a vasectomy is permanent and just as bad for a man to have as the surgeries you don't want to have done to your own body...it will hurt because any cutting on the body causes pain...it's just not a major kind of pain and it won't last for days...some men are fine the day after...some take many days to feel better about the pain...it depends on how your boyfriend handles pain...you've given it a lot of thought, so i know you will make the right decision...
2007-07-23 17:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by PatsyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know too much about vasectomy, so I can't help much, but I do know that caidah is misleading. (If you didn't already recognize it yourself). The time before your period is when you are most likley to get pregnant, for one, - and the time after, though it is less likely you will get pregnant, it is still quite possible. (Sperm can survive several days in the body and such.) Also, him ejaculating outside the body will not neccecarily prevent pregnany either - even if he's careful enough to totally miss you, pre-seminal fluid can contain sperm and get you pregnant, even without ejaculation.
As for the procedure, I support other answers stating that it is a very quick procedure and such, but you should think very very hard about it beforehand.
2007-07-23 17:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfy-chan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband had one over 10 years ago. No side effects, minor discomfort, can't remember the recovery time, mayne a few weeks, no problems with performance. My only concern is that old rumor that he can get prostrate cancer because of it but he is not worried at all about that. Just in case I make sure he takes supplements to protect the prostrate gland.
Sorry he got it as years later I changed my mind and wanted kids. Make sure and yo have to really imagine life in your old age without children. Do you really want that? What if he left you, would you have any regrets?
I adopted so I am really happy and that is the only thing I do not regret.
2007-07-23 16:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by skycat 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋