Every one in my family calls me a freak?

Question

because i wear clothes from hot topic, My favirote movie is saw, and I'm in love with manson. My grandma was like "Why can you be normal?" and i was like "I have no dad!"(I lost my dad to drugs like herion and stuff) they wonder why i want to live with my friend Pam

what do i do?

i've been like this for 6 years it's not because of my dad

i said i couldn't be normal cause i have no dad. My granda Hates manson and so does the rest of my family. I've tried drinking hated itr and will never do it again. I've been to a shrink it didn't help.

i said i couldn't be normal cause i have no dad. My granda Hates manson and so does the rest of my family. I've tried drinking hated itr and will never do it again. I've been to a shrink it didn't help.

Answer 1

Stop making excuses for your behavior. You can't blame everything on the bad choices of your father. There is a point in your life where you learn the difference between right and wrong, and it becomes your own decision. If that is the path you chose, then you live with the consequences.

Answer 2

I don't see what losing your dad has to do with your clothes. My daughter was goth before goth was popular and alot of my friends gave me a hard time about the way she dressed, especially after the local news did a report on the goth kids. Her friends all dressed either goth or punk and so we had a funky crowd at our house. All these kids were smart good kids that didn't do drugs and didn't get into trouble. They looked different so they would get looks or comments from strangers. I always told people that the hippies of the 60's were the suits today and that the clothes don't define the personality. It is your style, tell your grandma that you are normal and that you just want to be accepted for the individual that you are. If you are a good person what you wear should not matter they are just clothes. My daughter and her friends all are in their mid 20's and they all have decent jobs some still dress punk or goth especially when going out on the weekends but they still don't do drugs and are good people. Ask your family to accept your way of dress as clothes and be good to them in return.

Answer 3

YOU CAN be normal.You have convinced yourself and decided that you WILL NOT be normal.I am sorry about your dad.If you go out your front door, you know where it leads,It does not matter if you go out the front door frontwards, backwards,sideways fast slow it still leads to the same place.
Manson has had a drug problem, he also hates his fans and calls them stupid sheep in his autobiography.Because of hypocritical Christians in his own family he hates ALL Christians.They are not all hypocrites though there are many.If you want to pattern your life after someone, look at someone who is happy and stays out of trouble and has it together.Manson will end in a bad way.
You may be missing your earthly dad but your heavenly FATHER loves you and has PLANS for your life IF you will turn to him.If your dad had done so he may still be alive today.Do not make the mistake he made.If you get the chance, read John 3:1-5 and Acts 2:1-38 in the New Testament.Visit a United Pentecostal church,I think you may like it,especially if you like being a leader and not a sheep and willing to go against the majority.

Answer 4

You are not a freak, you are in a faze. I think your grandma might be afraid that you might go down the same track as your father. Your grandma may not realize how commercial hot topic is. I liked Saw I thought it was a great movie, and I am what most people would consider normal. I am married to a teacher and have a job in the school system, I consider myself quite white collar. I think that you may need to talk to a counselor about the loss of your father.

I saw this girl at the movies with her family. She was all hot topiced out. Heavy black eyeliner, a tight black T-shirt these goth black high heeled shoes, and this weird black teases hair. But you could tell that her parents did not see that when they looked at their daughter. They saw the little girl that they raised.

You are young and you want to be your own person Right now but when you get into college I bet you will tone it down. If you are still in high school don't move out. You might regret it.

Answer 5

Well, I wear clothes from Hot Topic and I love the movie Saw. I find Manson to be a shock artist. I don't really like his music, but I believe he's very talented and he's a smart business man. I'm sure your Grandma is not used to being around the diversity of people today. She did most likely grow up around the 40's and 50's and people back then never would have dreamed about the clothes and things young people would be into today. I say, just ignore her, tell her it's a phase. She will get over it soon enough. Just try to hang out with your friends as much as you can, and just try to ignore her when you get home. Whatever you do, don't talk back or make her mad because then she won't let you out of the house and you'll NEVER get away from her.

Answer 6

I may be going against the grain here, but to say that you can't be normal because you have no dad is a cop out. It's a lame excuse so that you don't have to take responsibility for your actions.

Lots of people don't have a dad or a mom or were adopted and many of them (myself included) turned out just fine.

You make your own choices for everything you do. Be honest about it and tell everyone, "I wear these clothes because I want to. I listen to Manson because I want to." If your family really loves you, they will respect that answer.

Just tell them that you are different and then change the subject.

Stop using lame excuses for everything you do. It gets old real fast.

Answer 7

I have been through alot! I went through a phase (started at 11 years old, now I am 23) when I was considered "different." I listened to Manson and went to concerts and so on.... I promise you are unique and not a freak! I never dressed goth alot of times because I just did not want the attention. I still listen to Manson and alot of rock, but I learned that the music and friends in the long run...made me even more depressed than I should have been. Just understand your grandmother did not grow in a period of time (such as us) when your freely allowed to express yourself. Stay away from drugs, depression and enjoy life! You are young and right now is when you are learning who "YOU" are!

It's good that you understand the loss of your father. My dad would constantly throw away my Manson C.D.'s and I cut lawns and was able to repeatedly replace them. I was stubborn to be myself. You are not crazy!!! Just learn a system to respect your grandmother and family, it does not have to change you. Just find away to settle things and find a median to complete happiness honey! Shrinks do not help.. I have been to a few and they never said anything that I did not already know! I am still young and very happy, but people come to changing points and I think thats what your going through.

Answer 8

Its sad that you lost your dad to drugs. Thats the case with alot of kids now so you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with being different, wearing different clothes & listening to music that they dont like. What a boring world it would be if we all wanted the same thing. Being unique is good...just make sure its all for the right thing. Telling people & living an anti-drug life will help you through this but make sure they understand you...dont send the wrong messages. You dont want to make the same mistake that others have.

Answer 9

Are you a teenager? Most teenagers go through periods when they experiment with different things, including clothes. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe you'll always dress like that, maybe you won't (I'm 27 and still like baggies!). Don't worry about it. Parents often freak out about things that are not very important. It would be a problem if you started doing drugs or other st*pid things. Other than that...

I personally would prefer my kids to dress up in black (I don't know what Hot Topic is, I'm not from America) than to show off her thong.

Maybe you should ask them why they disapprove of that. Then you can explain them why you dress up like that or why you like Marilyn Manson (I hope you're not talking about the crazy one who killed quite a few people a few decades ago...).

Answer 10

What you do is be yourself, and if that self is to wear clothes from Hot Topic then so be it. I like Hot Topic as well and I sometimes dress a bit outrageous but that is just me.

Don't feel that you have to be something that you are not just because other people want you to be that person doesn't mean that it is the right person for you to be.

Be who you are, that's important, explain to your family (in a nice way) that there is nothing wrong with the way you dress that it is simply a fashion that you chose to wear. That there is nothing wrong with your music, that it is simply music that appeals to you and that there is nothing wrong with your choice of movies, that they are simply the kind of movies that you like.

In short that there is nothing wrong with you because you are who you are and who you are is perfect.

If after you have explained this to them they still can not accept you then depending on your age I would move in with your friend.

Don't cut your family out - But if they are hurting you then perhaps you need to make a little distance between you and them

Answer 11

I'm 26 and LOVE Hot Topic and Saw! I pride myself on freakishness and being myself, even if it's a little off the main course. Do not sell yourself out for the sake of others! I've done that before and I've always hurt myself and/or been hurt worse than if I just went with the flow. My mom gets on me for watching and enjoying cartoons (Invader Zim's on right now!) because she can't see how that type of "person" can safely mesh with a graduate student and college teacher! I think parents will always question what their kids do and will always think anything that defies what they perceive as "normal." You are normal! You are you! Plus, what the heck is "normal" anyway!?!

Do not let your family get to you, but do not aggravate the situation further. Despite appearances, your inner light is what should shine through...be honest, friendly, sociable, and practice goodness. No parent, hopefully, can bad mouth that type of child...even if she's dressed in black tees, ripped pants, and decorated in skull jewelry!

Best!