2007-07-23 15:03:36 · 11 answers · asked by shiningStar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm going to answer this from the parents prospective. We are strict because we love you and want you to turn out to be a well adjusted adult. We see everyday the kids who get a new car on their 16th birthday and then crash it within six months, because it has no value to them.
My 12 year old wants a My Space. My answer is no. I love you and have heard too many bad things on TV about it.
She want to wear make up. My answer is no. I love you and I thing 12 is too young for make up, but you can have a light colored lip gloss. We will talk about the rest next year.
I have a pass word on the computer, so that I know when she is on line...why because I want to know that she is mature and responsible enough before I allow her that freedom.
Am I strict? I've seen worse...I think I'm more middle of the road. Do I do this because I feel the need to control her? I don't think so, I think I do it because my parents let me do whatever I wanted, when ever I wanted. I felt that they were too busy with their own lives to worry about me and mine.
If your parents are strict, can you admit that it sometimes feels nice to know that they really care about you and what kind of adult you turn out to be?
2007-07-24 10:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lorie N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am 17 and i dont have strict parents,they never ask me where i go or when im coming home i can stay out for a week and they wont say anything.if i had them though,i wouldnt be such a good child.i mean i do drink,but only sometimes,i do smoke(but everybody does,and both my parents too) i smoked pot few times,but dont really like it,and i have sex(with my bf whom i love)
so the point is i tried all those things and now some would say "omg,and she is calling her self a good child!?!" but i think everything i did and i do is normal for my age and that by the trust my parents have in me they are stopping me from doing anything really stupid or dangerous.i really love them and respect them and would never betray there trust,because they have never been strict with me,but have always let me make my own choices but also take responsibility for those choices i make and gave me a lot of love and support,and never a lot of money.
i think its the best way to raise a child
2007-07-28 02:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fahter was a Marine. Watched our curfew, dress, everything. Some of the things we rebeled at was being home on time and we tried wild dressing( Schools had dress codes then) Also I landed up hating housework for awhile when I got married cause i was soooooooo tired of cleaning every detail. Thankfully I cleaned my act up when i had kids, I was strict but tried to balance it a little better.
My sister did drugs, ran away, did everything to disgrace him. He was just to strict. She finally grew out of it years later.
i do beleive there is a thing as being too strict. Talk to you kids and compromise within reason with your kids. it doesnt mean you have to give in to everything.
2007-07-23 22:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by reneem1954_2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating issues.
2007-07-30 19:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that my mom was strict, she's just more of a bi*ch. She doesn't really know anything about me, and she doesn't try to get to know me. I mean, she's read my poetry, didn't set off any buzzers, she never asks why I like to be alone, or what my interests are. I've cried in front of her and she doesn't even look at me let alone ask me what's wrong. So, yeah. I don't get along with her, so instead of wasting my time on her and fights with her, I ignore her.
2007-07-23 22:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was sorta strict.. we fight over everything! Even now that Im 20 she is very strict. Mostly we would fight over who or whom I hang out with, where, when, and when Im comeing home. But now Im older she kinda calmed down. But still demains me to be this great person.
2007-07-23 22:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine feel very strict...they won't let me go on dates (i'm 17, soon to be 18). I can understand that far but it feels like if I'm not making the choices they want me to make ,I shouldn't be making choices at all.
I'm not like them and I don't want to be. I want to be like myself. I want to be with my boyfriend like I deem good for me. Isn't it my choice?
I guess not. No one-on-one dates. I can't go see a movie without 3 people there with me. I can't even put gas in my own car or go to the grocery store by myself.
2007-07-26 12:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by hermy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents are like that.
except mine called the police on me for talking back.
so they're psycho's. yup
2007-07-23 22:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by andrewoverboard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents are PASTORs! ! ! ! !
Almost everything you can think of that's fun for a girl my age is against my religion.
2007-07-28 01:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by standintherain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is very strick and we fight over everything...except my grades.
2007-07-30 02:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by faithful4ever13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋