My bf prefers transexual porn and joins crossdresser yahoo groups. He tells me is is just an oddity and that he is amazed by this. He does not want to play the pole as the crossdresser but I get the feeling would like to experiment with one. He reassures me that he doesnt want to be with a transexual but if the interrest is so intense, I get the feeling he is lying to me or himself. I am open to all sexuality but just have a preference for a straight man as my partner. I dont know if I should just overlook this and call it a fetish or read more into it. I would like to hear what a professional has to say about this behavior or anyone that may have any knowledge.
Once again, I am not prejudice against anyones sexual orientation I just dont know if he is fooling me.
2007-07-23 15:02:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OK, some of the responses here make me laugh. I'd be willing to bet that most if not all men (and women) have some sort of fetish and/or fantasy. This happens to be your boyfriends. What if he never told you? Then everything would be fine. If he's not going to pursue it, then so what?
Sounds like a fetsih to me, and there's no harm in that.
You should feel lucky that he feels close enough to you to tell you... How many men keep fetishes and fantasies from their wives? Does that make it ok? NO!
2007-07-31 03:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other answers you got all say what he might be, i didn't hear anyone call him your boyfriend, he can have an interest with crossdressers and tranny's and not be one.
if you what to try something and see what kind of reaction you can get from him, try getting all dolled up, frilly panties and bra, garter belt and stockings, full makeup and hair to die for, frilly dress and underneath wear a strapon, you can talk before you do it and feel him out if you don't think he can handle a shock, at worst he wont like it and your no better off then you are now, on the other hand he might find it funny or maybe erotic and you now have a new "tool" for you toy box
2007-07-30 19:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by tencar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys that are attracted to TS's have some kind of mild desire to crossdress, but you are right: he has a "fetish" for us.
Look...I'm TS and wouldn't necessarily be comfortable with a BF who looked at ANY porn, so I would just tell him it makes
you really uncomfortable.
BTW, the guys that are attracted to us are somewhere in a gray area between straight and gay; most are VERY straight acting and usually like girls. One guy told me he just gets turned on because he KNOWS when a TS girl is turned on by him..get it?
If he's obsessed with us, he will probably act out at some point, and hopefully not with a tranny sex worker.Be honest, and he may not be the guy for you.
2007-07-23 22:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Divadarya: trans n' proud 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd be concerned, especially if you're really wanting a straight bf... I'm bi, and I know when I hear this sort of thing from gf's that their guy is really struggling with his sexuality, although it's not for me to judge.
Allow him the space he needs to work it out, he may not be for you, so long as you understand that his choices about who he is is not at all about you.
I had a straight gf one time and we were very much in luv, but like I said, I like some guys too. She was like you at first, I think, thought it wouldn't matter but if you know what you want, and it sounds like you do, then your wasting your time and at the end of the day that's all any of us have that's precious.
Good luck...
2007-07-23 23:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and your lust. IF you know it doesn't do it for you and you know now that has come out with it that he will want to explore it all the more. you have to love him enough to let him find happiness.
if he is only turned on by it and thats all then he can express that while he is with you.
i have a dark and creepy fetish that i enjoy alone. I also maintain that I would not indulge in it but it gets me rock hard to watch others do it and my bf enjoys the benefit of that.
Be open to differences between you but be firm in your own lack of interest in it. IF he wanted to lie to you he would never tell you in the first place. he is being as honest as he can be
2007-07-28 20:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get the feeling that he is lying to you he probably is. You have to go with your gut. He has you why does he need to watch that porn stuff anyway. If u must there r quality porn tapes that you can watch together. you can also experiment sexually together if u r open to that. Be very careful. If this is making u uncomfortable, please leave the situation, life is short. good luck peace n luv.
2007-07-31 09:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by freestrengthearn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a little patient...how much time he devotes to these activities will inform you whether its just a "hobby" or if u should read more into it
2007-07-31 20:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is either bisexual or gay. If that does not bother you, keep him. If it does bother you (and knowing that he will cheat on you after marriage with a transsexual), then get out of this relationship as fast as you can.
2007-07-23 22:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by MICHAEL R 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your jelous, why don't you cross that bridge when you get there!
2007-07-31 22:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by singapores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find u a new more selfconfident boyfriend
2007-07-27 22:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by ~kee2luv~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋