iam 17 years old and my boyfriend is 20. when we first started dating i was 16 and he was 18, we dated for 3 months and my mom would not let us date amymore. a few months went by and we kept on seeing each other and my mom found out and got the law involved i got sent away to a girls home (i was there for 4 & 1/2 months) and then 6 months probation. and my boyfriend got 2 years probation (non supervised) and 1 year jail sentence if we see each other before he gets off probation. hes almost on probation a year (1 year in sept.) and then i turn 18 in january and his probation still doesn't end until the following sept. my question is on the day i turn 18 if i move in with him and my mom finds out can he still go to jail for a year? or if i got married had a baby would he still go to jail because of his probation. is there anyways his charges could be dropped now or the day i turn 18? please help!
2007-07-23 14:26:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
he was not charged for statutory rape. he was charged for C.H.I.N.S. he was not controling or demanding in anyway... it's very complicated how my family and his family know each other.. but people liked to talk back and forth about things he said or did or was making me do, but he wasn't at all. my mom didn't believe me, she thought i was blind or whatever and that's why she made us to where we couldn't see each other. i really don't want to get married or have a baby at this age (i know you people think in crazy for saying that) i just really love him and really wanna be with him, and i just wanted to know if that would still get him sent to jail or not. mainly i just wanna know is there anyway that i can get his charges after i turn 18 from him, since im almost a adult or whatever. i live in alabama.
2007-07-24 13:13:44 · update #1
Please don't throw your life away at 18!!!!! Your mom is much more important than some guy. Move on there are plenty of others out there.
And please don't bring a baby into this horrible situation.
2007-07-23 14:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT HAVE A BABY!!!!!! Do you know what a young girl who thinks having a baby will solve her problems is called? ANOTHER WELFARE MOM. Because who pray tell will support and raise this child when hubbly dear is in jail? or just runs off because its too darn hard to be a parent when you are immature yourselves?
If you honestly love this boy and want to be together then plan for a real future that will actually work. Finish school, get a good job (aka something secure that doesnt involve frenchfries) save money and then get married and have children. Build a strong foundation for a strong relationship.
Behaving rash and immature just proves the point your mother is attempting to make - that you are not ready for an adult relationship with an older (albeit slightly) man who is not encouraging you to do the right things. If he were a standup guy he would be willing to wait and work on things - not 'force' the world to accept the relationship of a teenager trying to act like an adult by proving they can procreate without heed of the long term ramifications.
2007-07-31 04:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by carrie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his papers the parameters of his probation are in there. You are fortunate you are with your parents and not in my house, you would have been moved to another state. If he violates probabtion for any reason prior to being complete he will go to jail. No the only way the charges can be dropped or modified is if your mother/father agreed to drop them. When you turn 18 you can see anyone you want, and probably him from behind bars. Do you know why the probation was set up like that? So that you two wouldn't see each other. He's lucky he didn't get charged with statutory rape. My mother moved from Illinois to California to keep my sister from getting married.
2007-07-23 14:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Seraphity 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Only one person can help you, and he/she is not likely to want to.
You can ask the prosecuting attorney in the case to petition the judge - after you are 18. Even if the attorney says they will petition the judge, the judge may say no. But only the judge can change the conditions of the parole and only the prosecuting attorney can petition the judge to change it. Ultra long shot in any case.
Will he go to jail if you see him or move in with him? - ABSOLUTELY.
A parole violation of this type triggers automatic jail time. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. You have to stay away from him, until he is officially off probation, or he is cooked. The fact that you are turning 18 has NOTHING to do with his probation. It doesn't say "until she is 18", it says stay away period. If you really love him - you can wait.
2007-07-31 13:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mcgoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are the facts. He will go to jail if he violates the court ordered probation. Period, end of story. No appeal. Do not pass "go" do not receive $200.
I have an 18 year old daughter who obviously has better sense than you. She knows the purpose of dating is to select the right mate for marriage. And she doesn't date and won't date until she's ready to get married. You sound really pathetic and needy.
2007-07-30 15:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by bw 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok you don't say why all of this happened but I can take a wild guess. Is that really the kind of guy you want to be with? He will probably never be able to support you because most places do not hire criminals. Also if it is for "Statutory rape" he didn't respect you in the first place by keeping his fly zipped- even if it was consentual. There are many guys out there, ones who respect women and will treat you right, do not settle for anything less than the best.
2007-07-23 14:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Notorious LJo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you probably did no longer write how old you're. yet there are undesirable indicators right here. specific, finally you would be waiting to have him, no remember in the journey that your mothers and dads want it or no longer yet bear in techniques that the guy you're in love with is sneaky! he's sneaking at the back of your mothers and dads lower back already. If he became an truthful guy he could have pronounced: no you mustn't sneak at the back of your mothers and dads lower back. in specific circumstances mothers and dads are incorrect yet lots of the time they're exact. as a replace of battling it out, you ought to locate out precisely why they do in comparison to him. perhaps there's a great reason. after all your mothers and dads would be out of your existence in some years and additionally you will ought to stay with this guy so locate out each and every thing approximately him before you're making any committments. 9 months isn't almost adequate. in specific circumstances human beings act a undeniable way for some years and then they regulate! merely bear in techniques that. good success.
2016-10-22 11:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont you think you are too young to have a baby or to get into a commitment.
Just look around and see how many 'happy' mothers or girlfriends you can see who got hitched at age 15, or 18.
You are obviously intelligent (because you are asking for advice here), and know what to do so are you looking for doing this just to prove something to your friends ?
Go to school, get yourself an education, get the right sort of friends. Stay away from jailbirds, unwed baby mothers and every one who wants to pull you into a black hole.
Go girl get a decent life and enjoy what you have - it is available to you only once.
2007-07-23 14:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by datasprite 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"or if i got married had a baby would he still go to jail because of his probation."
woah, slow down! your 18, dont have a baby for like ten more yrs. Seriously, you are young, live life, have fun, there is plenty of time later on to get married and pop out kids. I would say just stick it out for a yr, I don't think you want to take a chance of getting him sent to jail. Really, dont do the baby thing at 18, very poor idea.
2007-07-23 14:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Coma White 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What are you talking about, I never heard of any BS like that. Girls don't get sent away, its the dude that does the time, and I can't understand how he starts out being 1 year older then becomes two years older.
In any case, once you are legal age, there is no law that is retroactive to whatever the hell happened when you were 17.
2007-07-31 13:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Solomon S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He would not go to jail if you were 18. In a lot of places you can be 16 or 17, I find it funny that your mom is having such issues when you are at the age you are. Probation lasts for a period of time, but if your 18 before that time is up its fine, it'd only matter if he was with anyone under 18. Your mom will soon realize that you guys care for each other and theres nothing she can do to keep you apart. That burns me up when parents pull that.
2007-07-23 14:42:13 · answer #11 · answered by Whit 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋