Me and her has been best friends for about 10 years she wanted to date me while I was in highschool but I was scared to take that step. Well as time went on I wanted to take the next step but she was in a relationship. While she was in college she met her husband now but since she's got married we haven't talked in about 3 months. For some reason I have been thinking about her all the time and even dreaming about her. I have tried to forget about her but I just can't.
2007-07-23 14:22:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you truly like and respect this woman you will leave her alone.
2007-07-23 14:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You are just like me. I became friends with this guy 13yrs ago, we both had crushes on eachother back then but were both too shy to say anything. Over the years we lost touch and married other people him 7yrs married, myself 11yrs married. My husband started working with him 2 yrs ago and we rekindled our friendhip. We both had serious marital problems and ironically became "separated" from out spouses in the same month! I'm divorcing....but he was too afraid to make the final step. During this time we made out and I fell in love even harder...now he is back with his wife and I won't see him since he made his decision to stay...now he has been trying to come around every now and than. But I still hold my ground that he isn't getting any while he's married. I know he is "thinking" but I must say to fall in love with your best friend and the chemistry to be so great the "not knowing" if it will ever be.... is killing me inside!
2007-07-23 18:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you want her now that you can't have her. You should have spoken up when the time was right. Ever heard, you snooze, you lose? Well guy, it's too late now and to do anything now would not only cause her marriage complications but could cause you a few as well. Leave her alone. If at some point things don't work out for her.....Then contact her.
2007-07-23 14:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's becoming more of an obsession with you. Wanting what you can't have?/The grass is always greener...? (Just my observation.)
If you care anything about her, you will give her the space she needs and leave her alone since she is obviously happy in this marriage. If you're religious, try meeting some people (guys and girls) in your age group at your church to hang out with. Or take a vacation with your buddies. Or if you need to, try talking to a therapist. Whatever it takes to get your mind off of your married friend. Good luck.
2007-07-23 14:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by kaz716 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to the known as the one who broke up a marriage, caused a girl to stray and abused a relationship - it's time to back off.
If she wants you, she'll be filing for divorce all on her own.
2007-07-23 14:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try harder. Get your mind on some single girls. Join a dating web site, hit the bars, hit the gym, do anything you can to find some single women!
2007-07-23 14:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are truly her friend you will respect her decision as to the man she married and even if you do have feelings for her in a romantic way you will not act upon them but remain friends
2007-07-23 14:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing to remember is she is married. If she cheats on him with you. Later she'll have no problem cheating on you with some other guy.
2007-07-23 14:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that means she is now off limits
2007-07-23 14:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on... respect her marriage...
2007-07-23 14:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋