I'm 21 and I met this 34 years old man online. We are a very close friends and he's been helping me to get through my breakup. He's very good to me. I was trying to get an older woman for him (he's single). But things are going in a different direction lately. We both ended up falling for each other.
Ok guys... help me, tell me what do you think about that 13 years difference. Does is matter or not?
And one more thing, I am studying in Asia and he is living in Europe. But Im gonna study in Europe after a year.
Thanks people :)
2007-07-23 14:15:23 · 39 answers · asked by Fransiska D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
*and yes i know how this man looks like. We talk on cam and mic almost everyday, after we got home from work. He's cute ;)
2007-07-23 14:36:19 · update #1
Personally I find nothing wrong with it, because you're both old enough to make wise choices. If you were 15, I'd have a different opinion. My husband is 7 years younger than I am. I never wanted to go out with him - I flat out refused - because of his age. Finally, I gave him a chance and he turned out to be the most respectful and wonderful person I'd ever met. So, you really never know when or where you'll find love. I hope it works for you.
2007-07-23 14:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Peach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by gilboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing really wrong with the difference is age gap, its what the two of you have in common and can freely offer to the relationship, if you're considering to make one of it. Too, maturity in a relationship can also be a beneficial factor; too much of it can make it dull, too little of it would probably make you wonder what the heck you've gotten yourself into, but with the right amount between the both of you who's to say that it won't work. But be very careful and on your guard when selecting or making relationship decisions via internet...Anything can and or probably will be said to make him seem right or perfect!
2007-07-23 14:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age only matters when it comes to the age range. If you were under 18, obviously it'd be a different story. If you like him, and he likes you, who cares about the age? Love is a matter of heart, not a matter of numbers. If he is there for you and treats you the way you want to be treated, I say go for it!
It's all about what makes you happy! Not what other people think!
2007-07-23 14:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by purdue_girl13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age really doesn't matter when it comes to matters of the heart. Time will tell, usually your age differences will show, all you can do is laugh about them and accept them. I have a 10 year age difference. There are definately times that I can tell our age difference. Over the last 10 years, I definately had to accept that we are different.
2007-07-23 14:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by beckaanne2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two truely like each other then I see no problem with it. Age is just a number. You two are both consenting adults. If you don't have a problem with it then it's no big deal. And if you two are willing to wait a year for each other while you are studying in Asia then ok.
2007-07-23 14:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Now that a real situation. In my point of view if you have the same feelings for each other, than go for it. Don't have any regrets. However make sure he's not one of those guy who is just gonna hit it and quit it. Make sure you know all the things you need to know about him. Don't try to rush things. Take it slow...Hope this helps...
2007-07-23 14:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife when I was 34 and she was 21.
We've been together for more than 6 years.
We are happier together than we ever were before we met.
Sometimes we get strange looks and I can tell some people think stuff but we are truly happy together and that's what matters - Right?
13 years doesn't matter.
2007-07-23 14:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Trapped 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It probably doesn't matter a WHOLE LOT right now, but you need to also consider the future. Make sure it is LOVE and not just a feeling of comfort and security because he is helping you out when you are down. :/ Give it that year and see how you feel then.
2007-07-23 14:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by o7mistique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The generational differences will creep into the situation now and again. As well as the maturity difference that being in your 20's vs your 30's but neither of these are insurmountable at all if you are willing to accept or work through them. Sometimes youll have to put up with people questioning you or him over it but again in the grand scheme of things its really nothing.
2007-07-23 14:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋