me n my gf jus broke up again...for like the 5th time....ive broken up wit her once n all other times were on her. everytime she gets frustrated with something or something is difficult she quits...whether its school or our relationship. ive always been there for her thru thick n thin. ive never cheated on her n i dont believe she has on me either. but my issue is shes so quick to quit everything n she strips off everythings. shes so emotionally unstable. i love this girl with all of my heart and ive made it no secret to her family n our friends n others that i wanna marry her nhave children with her. dont get me wrong. ive made my fair share of mistakes in this relationship of two years but theres been once i decided to call it quits n i did it because she wanted to n made it clear verbally. so i respected her wishes. but she broke up with me again. our relationship is filled with love but i keep feeling disrespected and unloved and unwanted thru certain words and actions.
2007-07-23 13:45:44 · 7 answers · asked by youngavarice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know the type once upon a time I was her I would do the exact same thing it was the only way I felt I was in control thats because I had no control over anything else that was happening in my life at the time. What I new I could control was my man and the way I kept him in control was the threat
to break up with him everytime it suited me to get my way I played him like a toy UNTIL ONE DAY...he had enough and broke up with me and it was for good and it hurt sooo bad because I thought he would be around for as long as I wanted him to . Show her the next time she breaks up with you that you wont have it anymore dont make it easy for her to get you back the next time and she will NEVER DO IT AGAIN I promise you it will work tell her straight up the time will come when you will break up with me and I wont take you back I will move on and that will be hard on you but I desearve a fighter by my side not someone who gives up when it doesnt suit her or when it gets to hard what will she do if you get married divorce give up on that to temporarily? what about kids thats not easy either will she walk out and leave you to raise the kids when it gets hard to? dont move on to the next step in your relationship until she makes the changes that will make her worthy of being the wife and mother you want her to be one day.
2007-07-31 09:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you tried expressing everything you said here to her? Maybe that would help. Let her know exactly how you feel. Relationships are hard work, you have to be patient and not give up when things aren't looking as bright as you'd wish. Besides, have you ever considered that the constant breaking up and getting back together isn't helping either of you deal with your emotional instability and insecurities? Try admitting your issues to yourselves and each other and dealing with them without resorting to breaking up. You get back together because you miss each other, right? So, isn't that enough to show the both of you that you want to be together? Stabilize and you'll provide stability. Help each other overcome your insecurities. First, you need to admit that they're there, and then you can show each other that they don't need to be. I hope this helps. Good luck with everything.
2007-07-23 21:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done this kinda thing before and im now on anti depressants and have had a stable relationship for 3 years a world record for me so maybe she needs some councelling or has depression i can tell you she wont get help till shes good and ready but its up to you if you can handle it untill then...good luck
2007-07-31 20:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by gypsyirel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one sentence, you write she is emotionally unstable. Then you write that you want her to be the mother of your children. Why would you want your children to have an emotionally unstable mother?
You need to do some serious thinking here . . . .
2007-07-23 21:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you know what communication is the only thing that can help talk. you have to talk to her and find out what you both want. that is what you need to do and then decide what you will do from there.
2007-07-30 16:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You has emotional imbalance which prevents her from handling her problems. If you really love her and want it to work talk to her abut it and suggest couples counseling.
2007-07-23 20:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by TELO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling could probably help you both. sometimes its hard to find a good one though.... ask around.
2007-07-23 22:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by voyagernj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋